How to tackle a shit day.

We all have days when we wake up sad, mad or filled with angst. It’s part of the human condition. And, when you get upset or are having a bad day, it can be really easy to crawl into bed with a bunch of junk food and hide from the world.

The thing is, when you’re having a bad day, that’s probably one of the worst things that you can do for yourself. If anything, crawling into bed is only going to prolong that bad mood. Feeding into negativity promotes more negativity and that, well that is a vicious cycle that no one wants to stay in for too long.

I’ve been writing this post over the past few weeks because I’ve been feeling as though when people make lists like these, they always say the same things, and those lists just aren’t doing it for me. Not everyone can find peace from meditation or trying to think positively.

Here are some suggestions of things you can do to help tackle shitty days.

Get up, get dressed and eat a healthy breakfast. Why? Getting dressed is going to (hopefully) keep you from crawling back into bed. Eating breakfast will jump start your metabolism for the day. If you’re dressed and have eaten, you’re telling your body that this day will not be spent in bed.

Go and buy your coffee, or smoothie or whatever your morning drink is. Whether it’s $1.50 at Tim Hortons, $7.00 at Starbucks, or a cup of joe or smoothie from your local cafe, go and get it. One, you owe it to yourself to treat yourself and two, going out will force you to get out of the house. Getting out of the house on a day when you’re not in a good mood will help give you motivation for the day. Not to mention, coffee houses are notoriously chill places and chill environments can help keep you calm when you’re in a shitty mood.

Exercise. Exercise is so integral to defeating a terrible mood. I was recently informed by a Psychiatrist that just a half hour of minimal exercise is the equivalent to a low-dose of Prozac to the brain. Thus, exercising can literally make you happier. And no, this doesn’t mean you have to go to the gym. Go for a walk! Climb some stairs. Turn on the Tone-It-Up Girls videos on youtube and follow along. All exercise is good exercise.

Do something good in your neighbourhood. Good deeds bring good moods. A friend of mine said that every time he is having a shitty day he goes to the park by his house and picks up trash. It’s a small thing but it means a lot to him and it means a lot to the kids who play in the park. You don’t need to pick up trash, but doing something nice in the area that you live will definitely help you feel better, both about yourself and the place that you live.

Make self care a priority. “With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side, I am on my side, each day I am more and more on my own side.” – Susan Weiss Berry . What does this look like? Well that depends on what your style is. For me, I love to put an expensive sheet mask on my face and do some foam rolling over my muscles. For other people, self care can mean getting a manicure, or a massage, playing an instrument or reading a book. Whatever self care looks like to you, take some time for self-care.

Listen to some upbeat music. And when I say upbeat, I mean upbeat. Don’t put sad songs on. Sad songs will mimic your mood and keep your mindset in the same shitty place. Put some upbeat songs on. Songs that make you want to sing along. Songs that have the potential to brighten your mood just by hearing them. Songs that motivate you. Suggestions include: Walking on Sunshine, Girls just wanna have Fun, Uptown Funk, Moves Like Jagger, Good Life, Wake me up before you Go Go… there are so many. Check upbeat playlists on Spotify and youtube if you need help finding any.

You are what you eat, so eat food that’s good for you. And I don’t know about you, but when I’m in a bad mood, I crave junk food. The thing about that is, junk food can most often make you feel lethargic and bloated, worsening the bad mood. Try and aim for healthy foods that will give you energy and fuel for the day. Leafy greens, complex carbs, foods rich in proteins that your body can literally turn into energy, that’s what will hep you. Just remember to boil or steam your cruciferous vegetables prior to consumption.

Make a ‘to do’ list for your day, and, make the top two items things you’ve already completed. When lacking in motivation, it can be difficult to feel as though you’ll accomplish anything with your day. Writing a ‘to do’ will help you to acknowledge realistic goals for the day, even with a shitty mood. Writing two items at the top that you’ve already completed is a trick that I’ve picked up over the years. See, a ‘to do’ list feels more do-able when it’s already been started. But purposefully putting something on your ‘to do’ list that you’ve already done, you’re tricking your brain into believing that your list is already started, and thus, more easy to conquer.

Write a blog post about it. This suggestion has been placed last because it may not be the same for everyone, but I know for many people, blogging about a bad mood or a shit day can provide some catharsis. If you’re looking for an outlet, pouring your heart out to strangers on the internet is a pretty good one. I’ve found people on wordpress to be a lot kinder about life’s struggles then most people I know. Don’t be afraid to show the real, messy bits of life on your blog. It could definitely help.

Turn on some episodes of Friends, or Seinfeld, or Frasier, or something from the late 90’s early 2000’s. Something that’s full of sarcasm with plenty of humour can be kept on in the background to make you laugh or bring a smile to your face. They just don’t make TV like they used to.

Distract yourself with someone else’s life. This sounds a little silly, but if you’re in a shit mood and nothing else has worked, sometimes distracting yourself with someone else’s life can be helpful. I have one person that I like to call when this happens. Hearing all about his life helps me to stop thinking about mine. If you have someone who can do that for you, give them a call, talk to them for a half hour, or an hour, or however long they’ll talk to you for. Lending an ear can provide catharsis.

Treat yourself. Don’t just purchase your coffee, remember to treat yourself in general. This doesn’t mean go and max-out your credit card. This just means… be nice to yourself. Buy yourself some dinner, or head to that Yoga class you’ve been thinking of. Do something that treats yourself. Why? You’re worth it.

If you’re having a bad day I hope that you’re able to find some peace. Stay calm, surround yourself with things that can make you happy, pick up your mood or, at the very least, limit your misery. And please don’t stay in bed all day. Staying in bed all day will only make you feel worse.

Sending some positive vibes to the universe, because as with all things in life, this too shall pass (the bad days).

35 thoughts on “How to tackle a shit day.

    1. Sometimes peace is needed. But, if you’re depressed, the peace might be doing more harm than good. If you’re happy and you get peace on the other hand, that is pure bliss!

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  1. I love these suggestions! My daughter and I always listen to Uptown Funk in the car 😜
    Another great one to add to your list, aside from getting up and getting dressed, is to make your bed. I always start off my morning making the bed and then I don’t feel so inclined to lay in it 🤷‍♀️

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  2. I like that you acknowledge how easy it is to -not- go get a cup of coffee because sometimes we don’t think we deserve to spend $2-5 (or $7, ugh Starbucks) on ourselves. I do this all the time. “I shouldn’t spend the moneeey” results in me laying around the house in my self-pity party…still wanting coffee.

    I know what it’s like to be truly, truly broke, but still. Always get the coffee. I love it. Solid list.

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    1. Oh, I hear you. Presently owe $2,600 on my credit card and have no way of paying it. Always get the coffee. Always. You have to at least treat yourself in life! At the very least, once in a while.

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  3. Excellent list and liked the stay out of bed comment. I thoughtful the you had enough ideas for two posts. I think lists if too lengthy can be skimmed over towards the end and you obviously had given your list careful thought therefore each point needed reconsideration.
    Drinking clean water i have heard helps reduce stress.

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    1. I have a feeling the colourful fresh fruit is a lot more tasteful and splendid in India than it is in Canada.

      I read your post the other day about the food lacking in the USA, and it kind of does here too. I think you probably do Fruit better in India.

      But I do agree with you!

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  4. ON SOLVING

    ♡ ALL Problems have Solutions; if I Perceive Problems I SEEK!!! Solutions rather than Dwell on PROBLEMS!!! however long it takes…clearly My Mental Health plays a part here; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I Admit, Acknowledge And Address My MMHI (Multiple Mental Health Issues)

    …♡♡♡…

    ON GREED AND AVARICE

    ♤ Lack=Less than I Perceive I NEED!!!
    ♡ Enough=Exactly what I NEED!!!
    ♧ Abundance=More than I NEED!!!

    …so why; why 🤔 ?…

    …◇◇◇…

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  5. I should have read this earlier. I’ve had a shit day for sure and have been in bed almost for all of it. Just wrote a blog about it myself.
    I love all of those tips…tomorrow WILL be a better day. It’s OKAY that today wasn’t. I’ll keep some of those tips in mind for tomorrow. 💙

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  6. Listening to some upbeat music has always be my kind of mood-boaster, so yes – I do agree with you! (Plus: eating a good food for a good mood!)

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  7. One week I was having a really tough time emotionally. I called in sick, because I was in a way, when my husband was with my daughter, and the daughter we live with was at work. Eight hours by myself with no demands on me was just what I needed. Sorry, I’m not a millennial. Mother to millennials.

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  8. Thanksa for the exercising advice and Prozac comparison, I will take a small doze because I am not into regular exercise (an attempt of a joke). I put sad music one, or Swans, play a video game, hang out with friends, read Lacan and watch something like Haneke/Bela Tarr. Despair has become an integral part of me and have learned, more or less successfully, to live with it. Your advices are sound, but I have my own rythm 🙂

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      1. Ohhhhh no, I totally understand. I’m just all for people don’t what’s best for them. Power to the people, I say!!! Thank you for the compliment ❤

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