On the importance of standing up for yourself.

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I cannot stress enough how integral it is to stand up for yourself. Too many people in this world lead a life of conformity because they’re afraid of rocking the boat.

I think that there’s a negative connotation when it comes to ‘standing up for yourself’. People immediately take the defensive and they believe you’re in it to start a fight, when in all reality, it’s not about starting a fight at all.

Standing up for yourself is about speaking your truth, and about making someone understand your perspective and why you believe what you do. You don’t need to be rude, you don’t need to be angry, you don’t need to insult. If you’re really aiming to prove your worth to someone with respect to anything at all, your message is going to be much more well received if you do it in a calm, well thought-out, discussive manner. (Yeah, I just made up discussive)

Don’t pout. Don’t fight. Don’t be rude. But also, don’t settle. If you’re worth more and you know it, advocate for yourself. If you believe you’re being treated unfairly, advocate for yourself. Lastly, if you think something is wrong, advocate for whoever it affects.

Please don’t ever be afraid to advocate for yourself and your value. If you have a fair and reasonable request, anyone worth their weight in anything will be willing to hear you out. And if they’re not, there’s plenty of room in this world for someone who will.

ROCK THE BOAT. Do not be afraid to rock that boat. Show someone the value you possess, in the process reminding yourself what’s been inside of you all along.

Context – I ABSOLUTELY went in and advocated for myself to a potentially employer this morning. Like a boss, I strategically formulated my words and talking points ahead of time, was heard succintly and it worked out in my favour. DON’T EVER SETTLE for something just because it’s something.

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Overly sentimental, heel-loathing introvert, problem solver and lover of the night.

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23 thoughts on “On the importance of standing up for yourself.”

    1. Good for you!!!! My previous boss was all about the ‘women should be seen and not heard’ mentality. There’s no point in rowing a boat if it’s not going anywhere!

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  2. Excellent post! This is something I think I’ll be working on the rest of my life. I’m getting better at it, but there are still times when instead of expressing myself, I allow frustrations to build up. Great reminder!! And awesome for practicing what you preach!! 🎉🎉🎉

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  3. It’s funny — people have been telling me all my life to stand up for myself, but when I finally started doing it a few years ago, those same people reacted horribly. Kind of ironic. And weird and disappointing. But oh well. Now that I found the confidence to stand up for myself I could care less what other people think.

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    1. It’s funny how that works out, eh? Both men and women don’t like strong women who are willing to stand up for themselves. It’s frustrating, but it shows you who really matters. Also, I bet since you’ve been able to stand up for yourself, you’ve liked your life a whole lot better eh?

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