No one in this world can make you feel as bad as you can.

That’s right. I said it.

We’re our own worst critics.

We’re our own worst enemy. Every downfall, every insecurity, every sadness, every frustration, every hardship, we know everything. And we use it against ourselves at the moments in time when we’re most vulnerable.

I think this is one of the things that makes mental illness so debilitating. On a good day, someone not suffering from mental illness can utterly destroy their self-worth with a few thoughts. Imagine that feeling multiplied by 1000 in someone suffering from mental illness.

This was not meant to be a comparison about who feels worse, though. The point I’m trying to make is the importance of being kind – to yourself, to everyone. Be kind. Much like they don’t know your struggles, you don’t know theirs.

Be kind to yourself. Talk yourself up. Make yourself feel better even when you’re not in a bad mood. And, don’t ever miss the opportunity to do this for someone else as well.

Perhaps if we all made more of an effort to force the positives on ourselves, those negative thoughts wouldn’t hold so much power over us when they rear their ugly heads.

21 thoughts on “No one in this world can make you feel as bad as you can.

  1. The negative thoughts are so easy to believe. They pop up with no effort and just hang around. It can be exhausting fighting them off but it’s a battle that must be fought.

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  2. Forcing GIGANTIC smiles for 10 long, long seconds when I don’t want to smile can usually help me change my mood. If nothing else, I can laugh at myself for being a jacka$$. 😊😊😊

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  3. Oh man, you definitely are preaching the truth on this one. I really am hard on myself, like all the time.

    Sometimes I try to lift myself up, but not nearly enough.

    Lately I’ve been pushing myself extremely hard on my workouts to make up for the fact that I just split up with someone I was casually dating because I didn’t want to admit that I was hurt.

    Instead, I doubled up on my exercises. In some way, I did it because I wanted to make myself more perfect, when the inside is what needs improving for me.

    We’re all human, and sometimes we need to hear the truth, which for me is that no one is perfect and I shouldn’t strive for perfection because that doesn’t exist.

    Thank you so much for posting this. I’m definitely going to repeat some positive mantras to myself in the mirror tonight and treat myself to a night out.

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    1. I’m sorry for your recent breakup. Casual or not, it’s never a fun feeling.

      Go easy on yourself! Just remind yourself what a badass you are and you’ll bounce back. That’s a fact.


      1. Yeah, rejection is the worst, especially in this case, but I won’t go over the gory details.

        Thanks for being a ray of sunshine and reminding me that we all have some worth. 🙂


  4. I agree. We’re often the ones in the way of our own growth/healing. I think sometimes we forget we’re the ones who’re going to be with ourselves literally until our very last breath. Why shouldn’t we be kind to ourselves?

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  5. This is beautiful. I went through so much in my life. So much. It wasn’t until this year that I realized that I was the one who let most of the struggles I went through get to me. It affected me badly because I let it. Since then I’ve been trying to focus on myself more and more with each day. To stop caring what others thought of me, to stop being so hard on myself, to stop trying to change what I looked like. Every day is a battle but I also feel myself getting better. We’re all taught to be nice to others and be there for them but nobody teaches the importance of being there for yourself.

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    1. I’m so glad to hear that you’re learning how to treat yourself better and not let things get to you as much. I have a feeling that it’s made a world of difference in how you feel.

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  6. If you want to be happy no one can make you unhappy. If you want to be unhappy no one can make you happy. It is that simple …

    I do hope you can visit Vancouver and meet your nephew before you start the new job Vee!

    Have booked my ticket to visit your beautiful country : landing in Montreal on the 19th of September 😊🤗

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