Bitter Betty

I’ve come to realize that I have serious issues with trusting anyone. Sadly, though I think I’ve been this way for a while, it’s only recently that I’ve realized the extent to which it affects my life.

I don’t trust people. I don’t. When people speak to me, I hear the words they’re saying and I don’t accept them. Why? Because they don’t mean anything to me. Call that jaded, call that whatever you please, but the truth is that everybody lies. They lie, misinform, mishandle the truth, and they expect you to believe it.

I don’t know why it is that so many people lie to me. Perhaps they think I’m incredibly naive, or perhaps they just don’t care about me at all… whatever it is, I seem to walk around with a ‘Lie to Me’ stamp on my forehead.

There comes a certain point in life that you’ve been lied to so many times, it won’t matter if someone speaks the truth. It just won’t matter anymore.


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29 thoughts on “Bitter Betty

  1. to be lied to… you need, first, give them a piece of your trust……I am sorry that the one’s you are around are not worthy of keeping your trust an honor to not disgrace. My experience is very limited but broad perspective….(subjective)….I’d like to think. Trust is a very weak subject for me….many years I couldn’t even trust myself……enough of me….You don’t sound “jaded” actually…not to me. You read disappointed & hurt by people you’ve trusted & that’s pretty important. I hope you find someone, some day, you can gift your trust w/out worry.

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    1. You’re absolutely right. I am very disappointed today. It’s tough. I don’t want to sound like a negative nancy but I’m just so tired of people and their lying. Ya know? Anyways, I won’t whine anymore. I’m sorry for ranting. Thank you for reading and for your really kind response.

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      1. It’s okay to assess what we want & are willing to accept in our lives to keep some symmetry w/our own personal feelings. Please, never censor what you need to express… that will take away the beauty of being real!

        Lying shows their own personal conflict [guilt to cover] of what they are doing.. .or what they “should NOT be doing!” A flaw in character. They are disrespecting your intelligence & since intelligence is synonymous w/ego….we can let it go & try to keep the faith that trust doesn’t always need “earned” but “respected” by another like-minded…..doesn’t lessen the pain & frustration right now [i apologize]…..but I commend you for your honesty & venting is good too 🙂

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  2. This is so true. I can absolutely relate to this because I am the same way I don’t believe NOTHING NO ONE tells me. They say once bitten twice shy but I think I’m far past that phrase, this world is full of people who are always looking to get over it’s sad but true. Lol I rather already expect the worst than to not see it coming Great post your not bitter your just smart 🙈💙👏🏽

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    1. At least if you expect the worst and someone surprises you then you get to be happy for a hot minute. Right? If you expect the most and are consistently disappointed… well it seems like that could easily be avoided. Totally understand you there.

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    1. I’m so with you on this one. You just look at them with the ‘I know you’re lying through your teeth right now’ kind of smile and just walk away. When they lie it’s a reflection on them, not us.

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  3. Cheer up. I think I understand your feeling. My particular brand of disgust is that everyone seem to turn their backs.
    But I do understand that when it feels like everyone, it’s because of a flawed perception, a self deceit of some sort. Can’t say I’ve found a solution but people are people, can’t change them, can’t go through life disgusted with how people are either.

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    1. It’s not that I’m disgusted with them, I guess I just feel like no one is forcing their hands to lie, so why are they doing it? I hear what you’re saying though. I’m trying to cheer up, I definitely am. Thanks for reading and for your sweet comment. ❤

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      1. Well, for what it is worth, it seems to me that people are lying to themselves a lot. Apart from the compromises and the comforts of self-delusion, I always thought we have a natural filter that makes us interpret the world – which is a lying mechanism. But I suppose your bother is intentional lies with the intention to benefit someone else at your expense?
        Do you call people out on their lies?

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      2. It depends on who they are to me. When it’s my mom & dad, or my siblings, no. If I call them out on it, it’ll start a war and my family members tend to hold grudges.

        If it’s friends or in a relationship, I have no problem calling them out on it because honestly, if they’re lying to me they need to fix that or I can choose to not have them in my life.

        That being said, today the lies are coming from family members. I guess that’s why it’s frustrating me.

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  4. I really feel you on this one. I have a lot of trust issues as well, but it mainly stems from years and years of being lied to or stabbed in the back (obviously not literally heh).

    Nowadays I do trust my friends who have proven their worth, but I tend to treat strangers not so well because somewhere in the back of my mind I always assume they are trying to screw with me on some level. I’ve scared people away before, seriously.

    Glad I’m not the only one!

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    1. You’re definitely not the only one, sir. Much like the other clubs we’re in together, we’ll be in this club together as well. In another life, we’d cross paths a lot. haha

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  5. I stopped having high expectations of people. That way, I will be less disappointed when they disappoint me. And when I do find honest, genuine people, they stand out from the flakes. So many flakes, I mean, everyone is a unique snowflake but common’ man.

    Like my coworker once said, “trust nobody.” I think it’s natural for humans to have trust issues.

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      1. Takes a lot of guts to be real and vulnerable. And being real scares people shitless. They don’t know how to handle you and it’s honestly a great trait to have.

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  6. Here’s the good news… once we get through our own crap which draws us to liars and cheats, etc, and draw in the better brand of people, those things change. We seek what we’re familiar with and find what we expect to find. Sad as this is, many of us do this. It takes some longer than others to do this differently. It takes a great deal of work to choose a totally different type of person to allow into our lives. It’s extremely uncomfortable and frightening at times. It’s in allowing this unfamiliar discomfort that we begin to see there are people out there we only thought existed. ♥

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      1. Indeed!!! I sought them for a long time… and wouldn’t allow them in because it was unfamiliar to me. My husband isn’t perfect… and our relationship isn’t perfect, but it;s pretty darn close. One of the reasons I chose him, of the few suitors I had at that time, is that he was different in every single way. It frightened me!!!! In the end, I found that I had to be willing to trust and do something different in order to have the people in my life who are trustworthy and good. ♥ It’s a journey, Vee! A hard one!!!! Today, I can honestly say that those in my life are 100% worthy of my trust and my time. None of us are perfect…. but we love one another so much. My best friend would walk through fire for me… and is a gentle soul. The same with my husband. I let go of the bad ones and am slowly growing my group of those I want in my life. Better to have one or two than a bunch who end up hurting me. I’m painfully particular about who I let in. My trust is won… and a great deal of that has to do with my own boundaries. ♥ I wish you success in finding your people who love you endlessly and you can truly trust. 🙂

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  7. I am going through the same.i just believe them blindly and then get hurt. But it’s okay. That is their lookout to lie or tell the truth. You are being true is what matters. 😁😊

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  8. Think of it as a gift, a gift that allows you to easily determine who to cut from the possible people to allow in your life bubble. If they’re lying to you, they have not respect for you nor themselves.
    Who needs that? The right people to make your “tribe” with are hard to find but it’s also what will make them special.
    Is it any wonder I prefer animals to people? Lol
    They do humanity better than people do.
    My motto: I Love Animals! People….not so much.

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  9. I definitely feel like this sometimes and I know it’s contributed to some of my anxiety. I’m now so afraid that other people are going to let me down in some way or another (not telling the truth, not telling the whole truth, not actually understanding or trying to even when they say ‘You can call me anytime’, etc.) that I overprepare/overthink all situations that involve other human beings besides myself, go out of my way (even to my own detriment) to avoid involving others, and I also often refuse to take or ask for help because of it. It’s sort of a frustrating, lonely life to lead after a while…especially when I’m constantly trying to reconcile the fact that I don’t want to ever rely on anybody else for any little thing, but I don’t want to lose connections with these people either.

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