Things I want out of life:

  1. To be happy.

That’s it, that’s all. Wherever that is, whatever that looks like, I want to be happy. I feel like I will have lead a successful, fulfilling life if I can look myself in the mirror and tell myself that I am truly happy.

Happiness is something that all too many people chase in the wrong places. It seems to be elusive, but I know it’s out there. My only hope is that I don’t chase it in the wrong direction. I’m not getting any younger, I don’t want to take any more wrong turns. I just want to be happy.

Here’s to progress, and to being open to the possibilities the world possesses and to hoping that some of them will come my direction.

28 thoughts on “Things I want out of life:

  1. Happiness is a paradox because the happiest people aren’t the ones with everything. The happiest people are often the ones with nothing at all. Consider the monks who live in caves away from society. You don’t have to go monk to be happy, but here’s an activity you can try: Go find a patch of grass, stand on it with your bare feet. Then sit on the grass and just sit there for 10 minutes (eyes closed or open) without any distractions at all…. how does this feel? Grass is important because you need to be connected to Mother Nature in some way.

    We are all chasing an illusion in western society. So why do we do this? Because it feels good in the moment. I think what you want is lasting happiness. Happiness also comes in the form of cupcakes and donuts but that’s temporary happiness.

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    1. I hear what you’re saying and I do agree with you that Monks appear to be some of the happiest people on earth so there must be something to the way they live. But my problem is that cupcakes and donuts is they don’t fill the empty feelings in my heart. They might make me smile for a few minutes… but that deep sadness always seems to rear it’s ugly head. And I don’t know how to get rid of that sadness. Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’m just broken.

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      1. I don’t think you are broken at all, V but I think your soul may be tired. I think you need a some time away to recharge your body and mind. I think you may be burnt out…..maybe take a vacation? Think beach or forest without WiFi. Donuts and cupcakes are meant to make you happy in the moment but they don’t bring lasting happiness. It’s the same type of happiness we seek online and from shopping sprees – that temporary happiness fades and we’re back to square one. The monks gave up all of these hedonistic (is that even a word?) pleasures to seek truth. They chose to live uncomfortably in exchange for lasting happiness. It’s an extreme concept but I do think they are onto something. 🙏🏻🌻

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  2. What makes you feel the most fulfilled in life? When do you find you are at your happiest?
    I think you are on the right track V…your happiness needs to come from within because no job or person is going to be able to give that to you, at least not 100% of the time.
    I think we all want to be happy in life. I agree with Hilary, we often chase after temporary happiness. We need lasting happiness.
    All my love to you V, I don’t have all the answers either and am trying to figure out this crazy life myself. ❤️

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    1. Lasting happiness is definitely what I’m chasing. I feel the most fulfilled when I’m wandering new cities and places that I’ve never been, learning new parts of the world that I’d only ever previously dreamed of. If I could turn that into a full time-sustainable job I would love that.

      You want to come travelling with me? We can bring your family too. As I presume they’re part of the package at this stage. lol

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  3. No my dear V; happiness is not out there anywhere!! That is why it is so elusive and people keep running after a mirage.
    Happiness is simply a Decision!! It is within you. How I wish I was able to transfer this consciousness of mine into your heart V.
    You are an intelligent and smart young lady and hope and pray that you start to practice this truth from today : Just Be Happy; life will keep throwing shit at you but you don’t have to receive it! Today is the First Day of Rest of your life.
    One practical suggestion : start a new note book. Before sleeping write in it as many times as you can (not less than 10 times) : I am Happy. I am Joyous. I am Happy. I am Joyous.
    And pls don’t look at any screen at least half an before you sleep.
    Love and hugs 🤗
    PS: There are no wrong turns in life.

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    1. @Ashok & @Genevacerrato. I completely agree with both of you. Happiness is found internally and not externally like society and our parents have taught us to believe. Happiness exists within us if we allow ourselves to feel happy. I often don’t take pictures or post things because I’m busy living in the moment, but I recently started to post more often because there is joy in sharing these moments with others. It’s a slippery slope though, since social media in itself is driven by external happiness and pleasure.

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      1. I like sharing, and I like when people share with me. It makes me feel more like I know them. I think that’s my favourite part of social media and… I guess wordpress. I feel like I’ve met all of these new people and they’re all incredible in their own special light.

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    2. Oh, dear sir. I actually have a journal like that. Well sort of. I do it in the morning. I write “Today is going to be a great day. I can do this, I am amazing.” Similar idea, I guess.

      I have a hard time with the screens, I know that. I need to change that aspect ASAP.

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      1. Am so glad V. There is a small difference though but it makes big impact : you are saying today is going to be a great day; I am suggesting – It is a great day. I am Joyous and happy.
        All the best V

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  4. Happiness is inside of you. It is not “out there”. And it is elusive and temporary, bets enjoy it while it last! You will find happiness when you top looking for it outside yourself. Good luck

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  5. interesting. what is the definition of happy, because it’s so subjective. I have come to believe happiness in the general sense is overrated and I wonder if non European cultures place such value with it as a pursuit. I search for inner peace, so to speak, and satisfaction and balance. I don’t like the dark, but shadows keep things interesting. If it is sunny all of the time, there is no perspective, or illusion….best, mel

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