68 thoughts on “Update: I didn’t get the job.

  1. This is why I’d wish for a sense of humour. Even when not needed, rejections are hard to stomach but you’ll be fine. Like I said in my post, “you may fall a number of times, it’s normal in a slippery place.” 💖

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  2. Oh God, I hate that!

    I once interviewed for a pretty well-known company in the Bay Area that specializes in “product customization.” I had a really good chance of getting in because one of my best friends was their recruitment specialist, and it just so happened that I had the unique combination of skills needed for the position.

    I nailed that interview, and I even knew the person who would be my boss from hanging out at a
    local virtual reality meet up! But I didn’t get the job. I asked my friend for feedback, and as it turns out, I did everything right. It’s just that they ended up choosing another candidate over me, because the other guy was going to Stanford. Because the entire upper management went to Stanford, clearly there was some favoritism there. Also, the other guy had a VISA since he was a foreign student. That basically means that they could underpay them as long as they promise to renew the VISA.

    It’s bullshit, but it does happen.

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  3. I’m so sorry! I am gonna take a stab and say you are better off! Especially, since you asked an intelligent question to improve yourself with, and they could only give a canned answer.

    Chin up. You can do this! 💪🏽

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      1. Don’t let that stop you! If you have a good idea, tell people, borrow money, get a loan, start small if you have to. Work at Starbuck’s while you build your business. Anything is better than being dependent on a corporate job , in my humble opinion.

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  4. To quote the penguins when they got to Antarctica ‘well, this sucks’ (yup, ever in dad mode when you have a 7 year old.) This is just another paving stone for the path you are meant to be on. I look forward to the post that reads ‘i got the damned job!’

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    1. That paving stone line, my therapist gave me a really similar line earlier this afternoon. Are you two in cohoots with one another?

      Thanks for the motivation. I hope that one day I get to write a post that reads ‘I got the damned Job!” That is goals.


      1. Well I’m not a therapist nor do I play one on television. But I try to be a decent listener (although my wife may say different). I’m pulling for you to land the job that is meant for you.


  5. Ooofff… Getting a job is tough. Sometimes it’s something minor, or it might be something about the portfolio that the employer preferred. It’s architecture, right? So it could be a design preference.

    Don’t quit looking. There’s one out there for you.

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    1. It was a receptionist position at the architecture office. Honestly, there isn’t much to do with being a receptionist I can’t conquer. I just think sometimes you win, lots of times you lose, I guess.

      Thank you for the motivation though. I hope there’s one out there for me.

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      1. My guess is that they believe you will leave as soon as something better comes along. You are way overqualified for a receptionist position. Perhaps I’m wrong, but I don’t think so.

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      1. I’ll leave you with this…which…hopefully puts things into perspective.

        I’m 33 in a month and a week.

        From the ages of 18-24…I’m very lucky to not have ended up dead…or in prison (That’s where most of the people I knew ended up)

        During that period…I acted the absolute prick and messed some amazing opportunities up regarding my career.

        Opportunities most people told me I’d never recover from.

        9/10 years later…and…now I run a clinic…and performance centre….working with hundreds of different types of people…establishing myself as a key figure and leader in my city.

        If you would have told anybody in my life…that this would be me…now…back then…they…would have laughed.

        No matter what happens today…no…matter…the thoughts or opinions of others.

        If you keep your head up…and hold on to the real you…you’ll always be good no matter what.

        It’s the times in defeat…like these…that will prepare us to be able to handle the successes.

        In my opinion…the success…can often be…just as…if not harder to deal with…than the losses…in many different weird and wonderful ways.

        I say…these…times you are going through now…are the real beautiful ones…which we don’t realise…or appreciate until the years pass.

        The fact you have the balls to put your heart and soul on the line for us all to read on here…speaks volumes of who you are as a person.

        Keep doing you fam ✌️❤️

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  6. Been getting that for 3 years now ..that’s why I’m back at making music again ..getting a 9to5 is tough and sometimes I’m over qualified or some stupid excuse like that ..but God knows were i wil end up so Neva give up and keep on keeping on ..

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  7. I totally get it. I recently lost my job and have been interviewing. I had my hopes up for this one position and was SURE I would get it since the person interviewing me said “you would certainly be a good fit.” I was so disappointed and a little bewildered when I got the e mail, yes (EMAIL) telling me they chose someone else. I felt really low for a couple days but then was reminded that doors close for a reason. Sounds so cliche, but I really think it is true. Another door will open that is a better fit for you, better overall for you…. keep us posted!

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    1. Thanks for sharing your story. Though I don’t wish this process on anyone, I do feel better hearing other’s stories. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in this and I’m sending you strength as you deal with it as well.

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  8. I can’t “like” this post, because I painfully understand the situation and frustration.
    I won’t repeat what has already been said, simply want to say: I continue to wish you all the best. And thank you for your honesty in sharing your experience.

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  9. Sorry to hear this, miss V! I liked your follow up post about the therapist looking up jobs. What a kickass therapist! Re: feedback from employers. They’re never going to provide it, hon. Candidates crave feedback and complain that employers are tight lipped. 2 things here: they have zero incentive to provide feedback. They are not job coaches, and their business is just to get the role filled. The other thing is this: they don’t want to risk an emotional reaction from the candidate to such feedback. It does happen and it’s awkward. Overall, it really does come down to the other person being a better match, for whatever reason, and it doesn’t matter why. Don’t fret about the why. I agree with your therapist – you’re too big / good for the town. You’ll get something in marketing one of these days. Have you ever considered starting a consulting business? Your two part article to me is all the proof I need that you could consult, be your own boss and pull in clients. You have the writing skills & expertise. At any rate, I hope your week gets better m’dear. I send positive vibes your way.


  10. it would be nice if the company could give you a little bit more in terms of feedback so that you can learn from it. I am confident that you will not let this stop you!


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