Never apologize for being a powerful fucking woman.

Excuse my language, please. I felt the need to include the ‘f-word’ in there as an accentuation of the statement.

There are a lot of people in this world that believe women should be subservient to the male gender. There are a lot of people in this world that believe women shouldn’t have opinions, shouldn’t speak up and shouldn’t stand up for themselves. There are a lot of people in this world believe women should be quiet, stay on the sidelines, never cause a fuss and always have a smile on their face.

DO NOT listen to those people.

Be strong. Be fierce. Be an ally for good. Be a powerful warrior for change. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel as though you’re less than everything you know you are and you know you’re capable of. Have opinions. Share your opinions. Don’t back down if someone mistreats you, stand up for yourself. Don’t take shit from anyone.

I think there’s a misconception in this world that women are too sensitive to be powerful. That we’re too compassionate to be strong. That we’re too giving and forgiving to stand up for ourselves. That’s simply not the truth. You can be kind, caring, compassionate, sensitive, giving, fierce and strong. You can be a force for change and you can force change.

Don’t ever allow anyone to let you feel as though you’re anything less than Goliath on a good day. And, most importantly, don’t ever apologize for being a powerful fucking woman.

26 thoughts on “Never apologize for being a powerful fucking woman.

  1. Patriarchal culture that is too strong at some places often views women as an object. They think that women have no power so they can control anything of the women’s life aspect. Yes, I agree with you. No need to be sorry for being powerful f*ing women!

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    1. I genuinely do think it’s a flaw in both genders. My mom is someone who raised me with the beliefs that I am to cater to men and do as they please and that, in a marriage, I am to bow down to my husband’s needs. I think it’s something the whole world needs to work on if we’re ever going to find equality.

      There are definitely some cultures that are fully controlled by men and women don’t get a say. But there are also cultures were women have a say and they choose to not use it. Ya know?

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  2. Indeed!!! ♥ I couldn’t agree with you more, V. It’s been years since I’ve apologized for having opinions, standing up for myself, being intelligent, fighting for others when they can’t do so themselves. I am a very powerful woman… a force to be reckoned with. I will never apologize for these things! NO WOMAN SHOULD!!!! I’m sure there are those who would read my blog and think this not to be true due to the nature of my marriage. Funny part… it is exactly this strength and intelligence which drew Him to me. I am able to submit to Him because we both know that we are 100% equal… and when all is said and done, I won’t tolerate BS.

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    1. I think it’s a positive and important lesson to remember for if we’re ever going to find equality in this world.

      A girl can hope, dream, wish and desire, right?

      And you are a force to be reckoned with. I’ve seen what you write. You don’t put up with any shit at all. I admire that.

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  3. You make a necessary statement. What do you think of Paul the Apostle saying, “Wives, obey your husbands…?” There are even some women who subscribe to this thinking. I don’t credit them with much intelligence.

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    1. I’m not a fan of the belief that wives should obey their husbands. I’m of the belief that a true partnership should be just that, a partnership. No one needs to obey the other, people work together harmoniously, or through struggle, so that they can experience things together. I believe that a partnership should be equal, and if it’s not, then I’ll be looking for a new partner.

      That being said, I’ll never tell someone who believes differently they need to obey their husband that they’re doing life wrong. There are plenty of women in religious circles (and not) who do believe they’re supposed to obey their husbands. If that’s what they know and that’s all they’ve ever known then they are doing what they think is right. I don’t think that’s unintelligent at all. I just think they might have never been given an opportunity to know or see differently. And I hope that, for them and their futures, they’re one day given the opportunity to find their own power and strength to make decisions without their husbands telling them.

      Hopefully that makes sense?

      One of my favourite hockey coaches and people of all time, Mike Babcock, writes in his book about the success of his 20+ year marriage through the trials and tribulations that is professional sports and the pressure it puts on personal lives. One of the things that he said is that he grew tired of people always saying his wife was a ‘great support system behind him’. His response has always been ‘My wife’s not behind me. She’s beside me, every step of the way, she might not be on the bench with me but she is at my side for every step of this journey and I think that’s an important distinction to make. We are in this together’. I really appreciate his outlook.

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  4. I absolutely agree with everything you say. Unfortunately, so many people (men and women) are intimidated by strong females. They see a powerful woman as aggressive, bitchy, or selfish, and that really needs to stop. Living it almost daily in a male-dominated work environment. Sigh.

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    1. A man who stands up for himself is strong. A woman who stands up for herself is a bitch. It’s sad but that’s the way it sees to be in society.

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  5. Hmm yes I don’t swear but ur title highlights the sentiment of your post.

    In the Nigerian culture I’m presently living in, there’s this stereotype of behaving aloof and superior…like I’m often advised to not be so kind and smiling all the time. People won’t respect you. Overfamiliarity breeds contempt. People will take your kindness for granted.

    I didn’t want to accept it at first. But over time I had to learn how to “harden” myself a bit

    But now I have come to believe that patriarchy is so so strong in African culture as well as in Western, especially inside the marriage institution.

    I don’t know if ur from a Christian background but i know the whole bowing to husbands needs stem from the verse in the Bible that says we are to submit to our husbands.

    If the Bible is read more thoroughly and if a Christian is one who walks closely with God and experiences transforming power of God’s unconditional love, a husband isn’t supposed to be domineering.

    He is supposed to cherish, adore and love his wife with such a sacrificial love that will evoke respect from the wife that she will submit to his leadership

    Women are strong/our compassionate heart makes us stronger

    We don’t realize its far easier to hold onto grudges and distance ourselves from those who despise us and hurt us. It is easier to ignore them, unfriendly them and block them out from every aspect of our lives than to forgive them and love them and stay in relationship with them

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    1. I really love what you’ve written here, because, while I am not of a religious background, I have friends who are deeply religious individuals who believe their job in life is to bow to their husband. I have a friend who lets her husband beat the crap out of her, because she believes as a Christian, she’s supposed to.

      It sounds like Nigerian culture is one that takes some getting used to. And really, hardening of one’s personality isn’t an awful thing, right? It teaches you… to an extent.

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      1. Pls help me show your friend my reply and also this scripture. While she should submit, it doesn’t mean allowing him to beat her. She needs to value her life so she can stay alive for her children’s sake, if she has no concern for her own. Her job is to pray for her husband encounter God and know love from Jesus sacrificial heart.

        Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
        Ephesians 5:25‭-‬33 NIV
        https://bible.com/bible/111/eph.5.25-33.NIV

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      2. The Bible verses are self explanatory and I don’t need to explain, except we women have put ourselves in deep bondage, we don’t even need our men to do it for us. So let me just highlight:

        Husbands are given a mandate to love their wives as their own body. Only a fool or someone with certain mental health issues will beat himself mercilessly. That’s why any good Christian counsel will speak in this way to any man found to be abusing his wife. The pastor will most likely tell this to husband and house the wife somewhere else while the man seeks help, if willing

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      3. About Nigerian culture, yes, it does, just as any culture requires.

        And hardening is also a sign of maturity and leadership because one can’t always be playful and nice. Being stern, firm and giving discipline is a practice I now find very valuable in so many areas of my life, most especially as a new mom 🙂

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