There’s something to be said about solitude. It can be both the best, and worst thing to happen to you… simultaneously. And that, that is considerable power for a state-of-being to hold over you.
Thankfully, when solitude comes in small, infrequent doses, it’s much easier, and more pleasant to accept. Waking up in the morning, brewing a cup of tea and curling up on the couch with a good book is a nice treat. Losing your flip flops as you run through a field of perfectly trimmed, untouched grass has a certain childlike luminosity to it. You can’t help but smile and remember that sometimes, it’s the smallest of moments that make the biggest of difference in our days.
I tend to get so wrapped up in life that I forget about the world going on around me. For such a long time the only thing that I have even contemplated wanting is success. And, whilst I do not believe determination to be a bad thing, I do tend to forget to enjoy my days. It’s nice to not have to be somewhere by a certain time, and have people expecting things from me.
Today, I had the immense pleasure of sitting down with Hilary from Serene Luna Blog at Starbucks for a couple hours of conversation and frappucinos. That’s right, the blogger girls did coffee!
I’ve never met anyone from the blogging world before. This was definitely a first for me. She has this distinctly honest presence about her and authenticity that radiates through every motion she moves and every gesture she makes.
As an introvert, it takes a lot for me to step outside of my comfort zone. It’s easy for me to be anonymous, I like being anonymous. I like not being known. If I can take one thing away from my coffee date with Hilary, I think it’s that I should’t be so afraid of new things. I think I need to put myself out there more often. There’s some pretty wonderful people in this world and I’m not doing myself any favours hiding.
It’s good to put yourself out there. It’s good to be real, to meet new people and do new things. I need to remind myself of that more often. I need to remind myself to not hide. Because, while there’s very much something to be said about solitude and the peace that it can bring, there’s also something to be said about friendship and an appreciation for the good that people can bring to your life.
**Note to Self – Make more acknowledgement of the good that people can bring to your life. Let them.
“She was fierce, she was strong, she wasn’t simple. She was crazy and sometimes she barely slept. She always had something to say. She had flaws and that was ok. And when she was down, she got right back up. She was a beast in her own way, but one idea described her best.
R. M. Drake
She was unstoppable and she took anything she wanted with a smile.”
It is scary to take that leap and come out from hiding. I felt that fear when I first started blogging (as I share with friends and family too), but letting go is powerful in its own way. Sometimes hiding takes more out of us I think than letting it all go.
I’m still super jealous you two got to hang out and have coffee together! If only I were in Canada… 🙂
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Couldn’t agree more that it takes more out of us to hold on than to let go. ♥ Makes me think of the story of the butterfly… if you hold it tight it will die and will never be yours, but if you let it go and it returns it’s truly yours. Slightly different idea, I know, yet somehow they connect in my mind. Trusting YOURSELF enough to fly is the challenge, me thinks. 🙂
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Next time you’re in Canada…
Or maybe I’ll come visit California…
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Yes please do! I will take you to the beach!
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I’m in Canada too. Newmarket Ontario… Wikipedia says that we are part of the Golden Horseshoe but that is b.s. 🙂 We are a town proper.
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I love finding more Canadians on this site. It’s a special club, you have to belong to it to really understand!
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I’m delighted to hear you ventured out and let someone know you… the real YOU. ♥ You have so much to share with the world…and in return to get from the world if you only allow yourself. 🙂
People get angry at me for saying this, so I don’t point it out often…. being shy is a form of self-centeredness. I was told the exact same thing many times through my process of breaking out of my shell, too, which is the only reason I’d dare tell anyone else the same thing. I found fact in those words once I was willing to look deeper. For today… YAY Vee!!! You captured an adventure and found joy in it. ♥
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I understand that it’s self-centered. But, it’s just the way I am. Baby steps, I guess. Right?
Hilary is wonderful. I think everyone should check out her blog! I wish everyone could meet her in person – but since that’s not possible, they should definitely check out her blog!
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Most definitely!!!! I hope your take away from my comment wasn’t about being self-centered, rather about how excited I am that you’re progressing!!! ♥♥♥
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I absolutely love this post! I am starting to become this type of woman myself. I normally am the one running around doing my outlandish best to please everyone else and never focus on myself, until I am overloaded with grief from always doing for others and I can barely get anyone to be there for me. I do have 3 maybe 4 people that I can definitely have in my corner. Everyone else can kick rocks!
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Oh, I completely understand you. I think we’re long lost kindred spirits.
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Yeees, girl!
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Such a great post. A really useful perspective on life and the power of both solitude and just meeting to chat. Thank you.
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Thank you! Every now and again someone can definitely show you what it’s like on the other side of the spectrum and why you should open your eyes a little more!
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I loved this post!
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Thank you<3
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I love this Vee! Beauty of Balance. I see that as the wonderful interplay of yin and yang. ☀️⭐️☀️⭐️☀️⭐️☀️⭐️☀️⭐️
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I was crying tears of joy when I read your post last night and was blown away by your kind words!✨ I’m so happy that I got to meet the real you and to chat over Starbucks. You are the first blogger I ever met too, and meeting you was a step outside of my comfort zone as well. Crawling into bed and never leaving your room is totally fine, but doing something outside of your comfort zone is what makes life exciting! 🌱
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It was a sincere pleasure and I hope our paths cross again soon, my dear. Goodness knows, I could use a friend like you in my life.
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A Beautifully penned powerful message! Love it❤️❤️
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A Beautifully penned powerful message! Love it❤️❤️
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This post is both bold and beautiful. Thanks for putting it so elegantly. 😍
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Thanks for reading! ❤
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