The problem with chasing the storm…

Tragedy blows through your life like a tornado, uprooting everything, creating chaos all around.

I think they call it a lose-lose situation. It’s the kind of reality in which all you can do is wait for the dust to settle and then choose. You can live in the wreckage and pretend it’s still the mansion you remember. Or you can crawl from the rubble and slowly rebuild.

After disaster strikes, the important thing is that you move on. So why is it so hard to move on? Because if you’re anything like me, you just keep chasing the storm, dwelling on the past and wondering how to change what you have no control over.

The problem with chasing the storm is… it wears you down, it destroys your spirit. It eats away at you, slowly but surely. Swallowing the very best aspects of who you are. The problem with chasing the storm is, nothing can stop it.

So why am I still trying?

40 thoughts on “The problem with chasing the storm…

  1. Hey V. As usual, you write beautifully and it’s a joy to read your work, even when you’re feeling so low.

    I feel for you – I’ve been in that place where the past keeps popping into your mind and you keep chewing on it, even though you know it’s not doing you any good.

    “So why am I still trying” – that’s a great question. Have you any idea inkling about what’s driving this behaviour in you? For me, it’s often been because I felt I was being treated unfairly and I found it very hard to let go of that feeling of injustice. For me, forgiveness worked miracles, though not instantly.

    I have faith that life will get better for you, hopefully sooner rather than later.

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    1. I think it’s just because I had a plan for this year. Everything was going to be so good and go so smoothly and nothing has come to fruition so I’m feeling like a failure. I’m not sure how to get past that.

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      1. I wish, I had some. When, we watch or read stories the experience is traced inside our brains not just through mirror neurons. Our amygdala, overreacts. We sweat from excitement or distrust and fear. We feel, what we see. The lower order of our brain delights in this trick stories create. While the upper order creates the space and wires the strings to light the stage our mind creates. Now. I think, all this has to do with pride in the subtle ways we tattooed what we saw onto ourselves. My friend, owns the shop I work at and he swears we’ll be the next “Gas Monkey Garage” or “Orange County Choppers.” All this fame and money will come. I bring him down to Earth, a lot especially when the bills come. It’s just, pride.

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  2. Storms come and storms go. No need to chase them.

    Learn to hop on the cloud and ride it out. The storm will blow out and dissipate soon enough. Don’t react to the angry thunder and lightning. It just forces you into life in the wreckage.

    It takes practice to stop chasing storms and instead learn to just drift with the current of the clouds. Ride it out….

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      1. I hope this for you too friend. I seem to be in a continuous s*** storm lately, so maybe I need to invest in a wetsuit! πŸ„β€β™‚οΈπŸŒŠ

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  3. The past is a constant. The future is unknown territory. Only the present moment is tangible.

    It has taken me 50 years to understand that. Whenever I feel like shit and everything is upside down, I now turn to some beautiful words that every time helps me ride through rough times :

    Happiness is the new rich. Inner peace is the new success. Health is the new wealth. Kindness is the new cool.
    (Who wrote this, anyone).

    You write beautifully, spot on.

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    1. Wow, I love that quote.
      I kind of want to put that on a sign and hang it above my bed. I wonder if anyone has ever put that on anything before. Thank you for sharing ❀

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  4. I tend to do the same thing — as if the terrible thing that’s happened isn’t enough, I dwell on it for days, weeks, months, sometimes even YEARS. Then I get mad because I wasted so much time and energy dissecting the event.
    For me, I think part of the reason I do this is because I was never taught healthy ways to deal with disappointment, anger, and sadness. I was just always told “it’ll be okay” with no details on how to sift through the mixed emotions and fallout.
    I also think some peoples’ minds just work differently from others — like if we’re more complex/creative, we morph downfalls into a whole new animal.

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    1. 1) Yes, “It’ll be okay” never really helps. It’s just something people say instead of “Move along” or “let it go”. Which doesn’t solve anything.
      2) I wholeheartedly agree that some peoples minds just work differently. Faster. More in depth. More… unable to move on and let it go.

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  5. My Dear,
    It saddens me to hear you are a storm chaser though I can completely relate. it’s a horrible way to live. It causes anxiety and depression and you can never truly find happiness in the present because you are locked in a cage in the past. Meditation and quiet contemplation has helped incredibly. I’ve examined WHY I do these things so I can work towards changing the pattern. I hope you soon find peace within to survive the storms ahead and thrive from the experience instead of being buried by the ruble.

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    1. Thank you, Elizabeth. You are so kind. ❀ I've tried meditation. Presently, I'm trying yoga, I just need to find my happiness soon and then I think the storm will pass. Or at least, I hope.

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      1. Yoga is good and meditation is difficult when you are in this state so I understand. I would also delicately suggest you tru taking an only course of kabbalaha. It’s eye opening. Good luck and I’ll keep checking up on you. If you need to talk feel free to reach out

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  6. I suppose, until it heals out completely, it’ll stay. And ones it heals but you can still see the mark, it’ll stay. It’ll dissolve like it just naturally moulded itself within you. Until then, it stays 😊 It’ll takes its own time. But you’ll surely get through πŸ€— I don’t know if I made sense though 😬

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    1. It made sense. Your words always make sense. I think because we’re kindred spirits in a way. I totally get it, I’m just hoping it ends soon and I can find my happiness again.

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      1. I guess what we think as chasing the storm is actually, going with the flow. In transit you see πŸ˜‰ And Kindred spirits, I think so too. I wish you a good day dear 😊

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  7. I think sometimes we chase chaos because it’s more ‘familiar’ to us than the unknown. The Devil you know…
    Fear drives us not only away from tornadoes and stormy personalities, but I think sometimes also motivates us to stay there too… “At least we know what to expect”. We all have our fortresses we hunker down in. The key is to know when your fortress is becoming your tomb and having the courage to strike out into the unknown and save yourself.

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  8. This is totally true.
    I have to remind myself that tripping over the past is useless and future tripping is equally useless.
    Matthew 6:34 NIV
    Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
    Chasing tomorrow or yesterday… means you are missing out on REAL LIFE and everything that is your present.
    Which leads to more of the same cycle. I too am still trying… But doing better than I used tooπŸ’—

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  9. Im loving your posts (i know these are from september) but i don’t have the words to comment. I want to say something, but today, a few hours after i wrote my latest 2 blogs, my mind has been messy. I wrongfully accused someone of being interrogative when he was just asking me questions out of care. I think i projected the feelings i had towards another toxic person on him and he forgave me anyway. You know those people in your life that love you so much they forgive you no matter how horribly you act? My husband is like that to me and it makes me feel guilty bcz im not like that to him. Told u. My mind is messy today

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