Adventures in job hunting: a clarification

I know that my adventures in job hunting series can, for the most part, come across as quite negative. Anyone who’s been unemployed for any length of time is aware that job hunting is quite stressful and can be filled with a lot of false leads, unfortunate events and people who just don’t seem willing to be honest and up front about what they’re looking for.

This is not to say there aren’t positives in this process. Because there are. But I like to talk about the negatives and rant about the employers who seem to be conducting their hiring processes all wrong because, quite frankly, I know I’m not alone. These types of things happen to everyone.

Through the past few months, being selected as one of the final two candidates several times, getting hired and then having my job offer rescinded (due to “corporate restructuring”) and so on and so forth, I’ve learned to be a little more mum about the things I’m excited about… the things I’m hopeful for. Why? Because when I get excited, it often ends in disappointment. Actually, since I’m still technically unemployed, I’m batting 0 for the year and, it always ends in disappointment. That doesn’t mean these weren’t good experiences though. That doesn’t mean there aren’t good HR people out there. That doesn’t mean that nothing good ever comes from job hunting.

For me, it’s hard to get my hopes up, to get excited about it and to really believe it’s going to happen only to have my dreams quashed when they ‘take a different route’. That’s not to say I have any negative feelings or ill-will towards that company, that’s just to say they didn’t want me.

There are good people working in HR. I’m sorry if it comes across as my bashing HR. I have had good experiences. There are good hiring managers in this world. I’m sorry if it comes across as my consistently bashing these workers. Because in spite of all the idiots and assholes I cross paths with, there are some really good ones in this world.

It’s just, when I’m dealing with the disappointment of making it all the way to being final two and then I don’t get selected, it’s tough to then turn around and tell stories of my consistently not being good enough. For that reason, ‘Adventures in Job Hunting’ tends to be a series more about the epic failures of companies that I cross paths with in this unemployment journey. Adventures in Job Hunting is all about the struggles that I, and all too many people go through to try and find a job. It is by no means a reflection of job hunting as a whole.

I just like to vent about the shitty stuff, the assholes and the liars. Because venting about it helps me get over it and move on faster.

Because… I’m onto the next. I’m not giving up. I can’t give up. Someone, somewhere out there is going to realize my value and what I could bring to their office. Someone is going to know they need to hire me. Until they do though, I’m sure there’ll be many more ‘Adventures in Job Hunting’ posts to come.

Sorry, not sorry. That’s life.

37 thoughts on “Adventures in job hunting: a clarification

  1. I know you kicked the crap out of them the other day, but have you thought about the influencer route? You’re in some elite company as far as WordPress goes getting 4,650 followers. I bet if you could transfer your style to short videos geared at a slightly older age group than who most influencers go after, you could gain some traction. And…it gives you something to market. Turn yourself into a brand. You’re already doing a hell of a job at it.

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    1. Kicked the crap out of them. lol. Thanks for making me laugh!

      Honestly, what keeps me away from Youtube is that I like my anonymity. Here, as an anonymous blogger, everything is based on who I am and what I think and how I convey my thoughts. Whereas with youtube, a lot of it is about how you look. And I guess I just don’t want to be judged for my appearances…

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      1. That’s why I’m suggesting you target an older audience. I was very hesitant coming on here as myself, but I haven’t had a single problem in real life with it. If people want a model, they can go find a model. I think there’s a market for the older, podcast-listening crowd who wants good content, regardless how lustrous your hair is today. Like I said, you’re in a rare position with how many people you’ve attracted. You could translate it if you took the leap. And if somebody doesn’t like how you look, who cares? You’re judged on appearances everyday whether you like it or not. Might as well put some kick-ass content behind it and land some sponsorships. Plus, interesting people are always more attractive once you get to know them

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      2. It’s not that I’m worried that people will not like how I look – it’s that I don’t want my appearance to play any role in it whatsoever. When people see me they see blue eyes, blonde hair and big boobs and assume I’m a ditz. If they don’t know who I am, I don’t ever have to prove myself to them. Which is why I think this blog works so well. There’s no face to it, it’s just a random girl from somewhere in the world who can put into words what a lot of people go through. And I don’t say that to sound like I’m bragging. That’s just kind of my niche. The faceless girl.

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      3. And you do a hell of a job of it. You wouldn’t be about to hit 5K if you didn’t. I’m trying to figure out how you can monetize it, or evolve it. You seem too smart and driven to be working for anyone but yourself. And no matter what you do, you gotta stop caring what people think of you. I did that for way too many years and it wasn’t worth the effort in the end. If people are going to stereotype you, it just shows their biases. You can’t respect someone’s opinion if you don’t respect them.

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      4. Thank You!

        I’m going to email you tonight with some questions. Just whenever you have a chance if you’re able to get back to me I’d really, really appreciate it!

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      5. I think if I polled my audience on this blog, a lot of them are a lot older than I am. I’m not really sure why or how it ended up that way, but I think it’s cool that people care.

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      6. Right!!! Me too! Hearing mid life crisis or the generation after Gen X makes me realize I’m not in my 20’s or early 30’s anymore. 😕 But truth be told, it’s better to BE in my 50’s then not to be at all! That’s what I tell people who whine about their birthdays. Better to have them or not!

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      7. My mom says life gets less stressful as you go through the years. I’m hoping that’s true. Part of me believes I’ll always have an anxious heart though.

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      8. Well, I’m not 100% in agreement with you mom about the stress level but putting serious and generous funds into your retirement NOW is a huge thing. I know you’re job hunting but even $100 or $50 a month will pay big later. I will say though that each decade has been better than the last, although the 50’s have started out very “challenging” (read mind-boggling depressing.) However the decade is young so there’s lots of room for improvement.

        I will say that if you think you will have a “nervous heart,” you will. Know that the physiology of fear and excitement are EXACTLY THE SAME. What makes them different is the meaning we attach to those physical sensations. And your mind will go along for the ride no matter what you decide to choose. Fear vs excitement. Anxiety vs anticipation. The other shoe WILL always drop bc life is messy. Don’t waste precious time fretting about the yet-as-dropped shoe. Don’t pre-worry. It doesn’t help. Enjoy everything you can and then when the shoe eventually does drop, you have so many tools, experiences, people to help you bounce.

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      9. My 2 cents on video is that I simply don’t like it or find it useful. I have to waddy(and wait) through an unknown length of time to get to the nugget of gold that may or may not be there. Now, this, of course, depends on what kind of job you’re looking for.

        As a Strategic Communications Program Manager, I have to admit there’s a place for video. But I think it is replacing other forms of communication and much is lost. Execs talk like presidents: a lot of words that seem engaging but at the end you’re left empty when asked about what you just watched.
        Ok, maybe that was 3 cents.

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      1. Wow, thank you. You have a gazillion followers and feel complimented that you not only took the time to read my reply but my post on LinkedIn too. It got a couple of reads but not many bc it DOES fly into the face of conventional wisdom.

        You WILL find that job! Until then, rant all you want.

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  2. Hello V,
    I too, do not think you are coming off as “negative” or company-bashing. In fact, quite the opposite – you always try to provide a rational perspective, and when your views become subjective (as is bound to happen when involved in something as stressful and important as a job search) you always point it out.
    Having gone through and continuing to go through similar experiences, I appreciate how clearly you can articulate for those of us who might not be as articulate (and when English is not the primary language) 😉
    As always, you have my warmest support.

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    1. And you often assimilate humor and astute perceptions to whatever you are writing. That’s a gift. My tag line is “No fear. No whining” (created right before going on a 500 mile iron butt ride on the back of a Harley sportster. Those last 10 miles heading back into Houston were aging but I refused to whine.

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      1. Lol! No! On the back of a Harley Davidson. But the sportster models aren’t really designed for passengers and even the driver’s derrière gets a bit sore. Touring and larger models have softer seats. That’s why they call them “iron butt” rides.! But thank you for asking!

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  3. 2007 my husband and I both lost our jobs. He was out of work 2 years and me over 3. I wrote a song while looking for jobs, The Unemployment Shuffle and even put it on Youtube (check it out). i did not have any instruments and I am not a musician and it isn’t a great video but it is important to keep creativity flowing even if it takes a while to land the job. Funny thing is I only thought I would be out of work 4 or 5 months. Just keep posting and it will all work out.

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  4. I have had a solid career for 25 years. In April I was abruptly fired from my job of 5 years. Unemployed 2 months. In June I began a new job. Then I was fired 2 months later. Talk about rejection! When people learned about this they ALL said basically the same thing….what did you do to cause this? Both times, I was unfairly judged due to my disability. But I can’t prove that. I finally found job #3 and started last week. I had many interviews over these months and some negative experiences, mostly with recruiters. The process is awful. Unemployment is awful. Being broke is terrifying. If I had to do it over again, on day 1 of each unemployment I would have started doing Door Dash. Or Uber. It’s low pay but it’s better than nothing. Instead, I’m drowning in debt!

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  5. I don’t know who has criticized you for being negative, and I’m sorry that they have, but don’t listen to them. Adventures in job hunting wouldn’t be adventures in job hunting if you got the job and were working! People who treat you the way they have make great stories and deserve to be called out. Doesn’t mean everyone is like that. You in no way suggest everyone is like that either. Keep venting, keep writing, keep adventuring. I’ll keep reading. 😊❤️

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  6. I call this the Anonymous Void and it’s a great place to dump your pains, annoyances, cry about it, whatever. I do so, and it often comes across looking whiny or negative. But I have posted before that this is the place I can go to cry or rage or vent or whatever else I need to do to get things out when I don’t have anyone out in the real world to listen, and I can do so anonymously (only one person who follows me knows my identity). Out in the real world I smile at people and offer kind words even as people would prefer to ignore me.

    Keep saying what you need to say to let loose your frustrations. Whether anybody looks or not (and it appears you don’t have to worry about the not) it still feels good to get it out.

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    1. Thanks. I appreciate the advice and the vote of confidence. I guess i just felt the need to clarify because I’ve been getting a lot of hate recently. I wanted to address the hate because I’m definitely not trying to single out people in certain position sand make them feel bad. I’m really just ranting to rant. So thank you!

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  7. Job searching is definitely draining, especially when dealing with companies who unfortunately hire for nepotistic reasons. I’ve seen this happen recently and it’s a shame that some of the candidates they hired are below par.

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