What do you want for Christmas?

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I find this question really interesting to ask people because there are so many different ways a person can approach this question.

There’s people who’ll say “a million dollars” and people who’ll say “I don’t want a thing”. There’s people who’ll say items that they really know and love, and people who’ll provide practical options they know that person can afford. Some people even ask for donations to be made in lieu of gifts.

Honestly, to me, what people provide as an answer tells me a lot about who they are. Not that any one answer is better than another. Well, perhaps some answers are better than other’s. If you told me you wanted to kick a puppy for Christmas then I’d think you’re a bad person But, that was a huge tangent and I should get back on track. For the most part, when people answer this question, I really think it tells you a lot about who they are. I read a lot into what people ask for Christmas.

Me? People look at me oddly when I say it, but I tend to tell people that I want the staples for Christmas gifts. Shampoo, conditioner, body wash, toothpaste, makeup remover… these types of things. Is that weird? Possibly. My thoughts behind it is, if people give me these things as gifts, and I can use them for the next 3-6 months (or longer depending on what they give me) then that’s expenses that I don’t have to worry about. It’s practical to me. And I think that’s really thoughtful. I mean, whoever buys me those things are going to be giving me something that I’ll like and get use from.

Decorative blankets are great and all but there’s only so many of them a girl needs, ya know? And heavens, I’ve got enough clothes, shoes and accessories. I don’t need any more. Of course I’m always thankful for someone thinking of me, but if someone is going to go ahead and spend their money on me, I just hope they’d take me seriously when I say I want thinks like shampoo and toothpaste, etc…

I’m curious to know, what do you want for Christmas? Are you the ‘ask for everything’ type? Are you the ‘ask for something I know they can afford’ type? Are you the ‘I don’t want anything’ type? Or do you prefer experiences over tangible gifts?

121 thoughts on “What do you want for Christmas?

  1. Well… I just want to be with the people I love. I have struggled and my journey is not over – it’s not really the gifts for me… it’s how lucky I am to still be alive and how much I love and appreciate the people I do love. They are my gift.

    I know that sounds corny or whatever – but is true. I don’t want my Christmas to be about what to get me… or him… or her… I want my Christmas warm and filled with love… I know how lucky I am. I didn’t know if I would make it or not to be honest… so it’s just not the gifts.

    And I really hate the commercialization of Christmas anyway.

    We do give gifts – but thoughtful loving ones. I don’t have a lot… and my kids know this… I asked them for their Christmas list … their reply was … mum we are happy to just still have you

    So that was kinda my gift ❤️ … these are kids in today’s world – but they are thankful I am still alive … so it just depends on your perspective

    I just want them happy and I want to be with the people I love – I am grateful, thankful and blessed already. I just want those I love.

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    1. Now, I try to follow American politics but I’m not sure on this. Even if he’s impeached, he actually has to get kicked out of the presidency doesn’t he? What if Mitch McConnell blocks that?

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      1. Oh, Mitch will block it for sure. Even if he doesn’t, the Ratpublicans still seem to be lining up to brag about how they intend to prioritize party over protecting the Constitution or the Presidency.
        However, I think without even an impeachment in the House, this clown wins a second term. If he’s impeached that could swing the least stupid of his base back toward a moderate Dem.
        Now, to find a moderate…

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      2. Interesting. I hadn’t really thought of it that way. That would definitely be an added bonus because the US is already going to suffer the consequences of the past couple of years for the next hundred or more. I don’t even want to know what a second term would do.

        That being said, I watch the Democratic Debates a couple weeks back and honestly, I don’t even know which of them I’d recommend. I question if any of them could win. Especially with current American culture…

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      3. I’m not sure I’d call what we got going here “culture”, per se, since culture is a thought rich endeavor. Most American thoughts tend to not stray too far from “Me, me and more me with a side of me!”
        It’s a sad state, that’s for sure.

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  2. I definitely tailor my response to whoever is asking me. Not solely based on budget, but also their tastes and what we have in common. For example, I’ll ask my sister for fun things that I wouldn’t buy myself that aren’t going to bankrupt her. For my parents, I ask for practical things that will make them feel like they’re helping me out. And my boyfriend usually gets roped into giving me currency for whatever international travel I have planned. He never complains. In fact, I think he prefers that to having to face the crowds in the shops.

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  3. Gift cards for coffee shops are useful to me. There’s a MCDs down the street and early in the morning I walk there for coffee. Sure, the Tim Hortons is 3 feet away, but MCDs coffee is better imo (and further away, so extra steps). I only recently started doing this because of their coffee promotion. Once the promotion ends, I probably won’t be taking as many walks there. As dumb as this sounds, I pay in cash, and I don’t have much cash on me these days. So to me, gift cards are practical.

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    1. That’s such a good idea for a gift too. Honestly, especially if you’re going back to school, too. Imagine if all your family members just sent gift cards for coffee for you. I bet that would really help you through your semester!

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      1. The sad thing is that they don’t send gift cards or coffee, or really anything for that matter. I don’t have friends who give gifts either. Some used to, but stopped once their lives got busy. It’s just not what it used to be. Others who used to do gift exchanges are no longer my friends after a fallout in 2017. My aunts and uncles don’t give gifts, and neither do my cousins. At least not outside of their immediate families. If I want a gift card, I have to buy it myself unless my mom gives me one. 🤷‍♀️

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    1. That’s a good outlook too. Because I know there are lots of things people like that wouldn’t spend the money on. Do you tell them specific gifts or just a general idea of something you wouldn’t spend money on?

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      1. I feel ridiculous now and don’t know why I answered that way. I guess I was thinking more of the past. These days I basically just get money/gift certificate from the parents and one other couple. The girlfriend will usually ask what I want but end up buying something I’ve been talking about recently. I guess you could say in that case she takes the burden of that purchase I’d like to make but probably won’t.
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        Memory is a funny thing, but I think I’ve always leaned (post adolescence) more toward not requesting anything particular and being grateful anyone thought enough to give me anything. I just love when anyone gets me something, anything really.

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      1. Hmm I’m pretty excited for the present I’m getting my husband – George at Zoolon is recording a broken down version of one of my poems into a song for him. So on Christmas morning I can hook up his earphones and boom best wife ever moment 😂

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  4. We always got a little something when I was growing up but it wasn’t much. So I learned not to expect much and it has served me well in adulthood. But my parents always got me and my siblings something every year but they are both gone now. My ex and I will exchange gift cards and some candy or cracker snacks but that’s about all I’ll figure on getting. I prefer to grab a card off the angel tree and get something for some kid that may otherwise not have much. I wish I could afford to do so for more.

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    1. Same with me. My parents always got my brothers and I something, always small and always the same so that we wouldn’t fight.

      What’s the Angel tree? Is that like buying a gift for a stranger? That’s incredibly kind of you if it is.

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      1. I can’t believe I missed this reply until just now. Angel tree is a Salvation Army program. They have names of underprivileged children and their wish list and you take a name from the tree and buy those presents and turn it back in and they are distributed to the kids. I hope I got the right stuff. I know nothing about kids toys and clothes.

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      2. I can’t believe I missed this reply until just now. Angel tree is a Salvation Army program. They have names of underprivileged children and their wish list and you take a name from the tree and buy those presents and turn it back in and they are distributed to the kids. I hope I got the right stuff. I no nothing about kids toys and clothes.

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  5. Actually I stopped buying Xmas (and birthday) gifts a few years back and now just buy my nearest and dearest gifts as and when. It’s so much less stressful. Hence I don’t want anything for Xmas though a spot of peace on earth and goodwill to all wouldn’t go amiss.

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  6. I remember when our children were young, I would always impress on them to ask “what would you like”, and to say “I would like”. It changes the perspective a little.

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  7. I definitely enjoy the gift of experiences and quality time more than a physical gift. For example if my husband took me out to dinner and spent time with me I would be happy with that. I also want my sister in law to teach me how to crochet as my Christmas gift 😊

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  8. I guess it depends who is asking what I’d actually say. I’m more of a gift giver than a receiver. When I do get gifts I like things that are practical that I know I will use or experiences or books of course 😉). If someone asks (and I know that they want to actually buy me something) I would probably suggest something that is within their budget. Normally I don’t get a lot of people asking though. My hubby usually asks me for ideas (more like an exact list 😂) at Christmas but that’s about it.

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  9. For Christmas, I want health and happiness for me and my loved ones, friends, family and mostly for everyone. I want us all to be able to have one day out of the 365 where we can have a sense of belonging, safety, comfort and true happiness. I know it’s not possible in today’s world but that would be the best gift of all.

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  10. I’m definitely one to give ideas within budgets. one of the best xmas presents I ever received was Charlie. Charlie was a teddy given to me when I was about 7ish, he was huge (not so now :D) Then with all my moving around, he got stuck in my mum’s loft, then I got him back about three years ago, he went in a cramped cupboard. my daughter, washed him, topped up his stuffing and sewed him up again – I swear, i loved getting him second time round more than first time round. He now sits on the spare bed, and nieces love him.

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  11. Of course what I always really want, is for my family to be altogether over the festive period cos I love all the fun, laughter, stories, games and dancing. I say ‘I don’t need or want anything’ but my sons get us some sort of experience every year: theatre tickets, concert tickets, chocolate making, wine-tasting and Michelin star restaurants dinners, to name but a few. I love these and the boys are very thoughtful – they just know what we’d like!

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  12. It depends on who is asking. From my husband I generally will ask for things I want that may be less practical. Though honestly I’m not big on spending so what I want is mostly practical. But I’ll ask for things a bit more meaningful and personal. From family practical 100%, if they’re spending money on me I would prefer to get use out of it daily or have a purpose for it in mind. I’m very pro gift card to specific places, like Lowe’s or Walmart for example.

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    1. Husband’s are best if you tell them exactly what to get from the store and then, if they take directions well they go to the store and get exactly that. lol. I say that not having a husband.

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  13. Your post invoked so many thoughts in me, you can’t even imagine! I will write a blog post about it :). But in short, here is an answer. I always felt that Christmas gifts should be something you do not really NEED-NEED, but much desire. Even at the time, I was poor and lacked necessities. This being said, another blanket might be not a gift at all, because you neither need it nor desire. The best gift is like my son put it: how did you know when even I didn’t know I want it?! I taught my kids this art of looking for a gift which would raise these happy “how did you know?! ” in the room when we open the presents. And on this note – I remember how a YMCA staff was telling me with the tears in her eyes about a person asking for cleaning supplies for Christmas (we had a usual Giving tree in the lobby)

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    1. I love ‘How did you know’ gifts. I really do. I always feel like someone really understands and knows me if the manage to get me one of those gifts. I think that’s such a great outlook, I bet your kids take the holiday and make it really wonderful if that’s their outlook to it.

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  14. I’m with you! Practical gifts all the way. With how crazy this year was (Marriage, first pregnancy, buying a house) I honestly just want to not have to worry about buying things like a new wallet, bath stuff for my increasingly sore muscles, and candles/aromatherapy tools for my anxiety and stress. My sister had a big year too and is asking for gift cards to the stores she needs necessities from so…I guess we’re both on the same page! Once you get past your teens I think the practical gifts become more and more wonderful – adult budgeting is NOT easy…

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    1. Oh my, you’ve had a really busy year! I bet you get tons of gifts for babyyyyyyyyyyyy! Congratulations on one heck of a year! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas season and the anxiety doesn’t get you too bad.

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      1. Thank you Vee! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas as well, I am glad to hear you rested when you needed it (from your latest posts). This has definitely been a whirlwind of a month but glad to have the next few days to enter the new year as relaxed as possible. The theme for this year’s gifts, which I loved, was things to help a new mom take care of herself (bath bombs, incense, tools for de-stressing) and tools to inspire me to write more: all practical and all reminders to not forget about me and my needs once baby is born! Very thoughtful. Hope you received gifts to help you thrive as well!

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  15. I asked my husband for a perfume called ‘Good Girl’ but that goes back to him always calling me a bad girl because I’m not afraid to speak up if I sense injustice. Normally it’s also practical things for me too, like warm tops and hoodies, or my favourite wine or chocolate to enjoy. I’m a minimalist, so I don’t want stuff lying around.. we just won’t talk about the two lip gloss owls that have sat on my desk lamp since 2017 😉

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    1. That’s kind of cute! Have you smelled the ‘Good Girl’ perfume? I hope it smells good for you! I just googled it and the bottle is a shoe. lol

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      1. Yep, it’s kind of classy so it’s my kind of thing. He got me Amani Mania Pour Femme last year because I’ve never shut up about it lol. I also know now that he got me perfume because earlier he said I’ve got Good Girl at home and I said “have I really?” Whoops! Haha

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  16. I definitely prefer the experiences over gifts. If we’re talking love languages, gifts is definitely my lowest priority. I appreciate receiving gifts, but I’d rather not get anything. Because, and this may be a product of exposure to extended family, I kind of grew up seeing gift giving as an obligation. I would much rather get together with my family at Christmas, share a big meal, and then call it a night. But that’s just little ol’ introverted me talking.

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    1. I much prefer giving to recieving. I think that’s why I prefer the practical gifts, because I know I’m going to get use out of them if someone is actually going to spend their money on me. That being said, experiences are so much better. And a nice meal, maybe some laughs sounds like a really nice night.

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  17. Year after year, I tire of being in a room full of people I love looking at their phones. Each in their own world, I die a little inside every holiday. I would like a, no cell phone rule, for Christmas. I don’t want or need anything other than proper communication with the people I love.

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    1. You sound like my mom. To me, I just think phones are important because I want to wish merry Christmas to my friends and family who aren’t there. I want to see photos of my nieces and nephews who aren’t there. want to face time with my friend in Egypt.

      While I think no-technology Christmas is a good idea in theory, not everyone I love would be here. Ya know?

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      1. I like cellphones for photos and face calls (my daughter and bestfriend are in New York). Other than that, spending quality time looking my loved ones in the eyes is of the utmost importance to me. I understand where you are coming from.

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  18. “People look at me oddly when I say it, but I tend to tell people that I want the staples for Christmas gifts. Shampoo, conditioner, body wash, toothpaste, makeup remover… these types of things. Is that weird? Possibly. My thoughts behind it is, if people give me these things as gifts, and I can use them for the next 3-6 months (or longer depending on what they give me) then that’s expenses that I don’t have to worry about. It’s practical to me. And I think that’s really thoughtful. I mean, whoever buys me those things are going to be giving me something that I’ll like and get use from. ”

    I do this exact same thing and get a similar reaction! I don’t know why it may be seen as a negative thing? I’m assuming it’s because it’s not special enough but I like practical gifts. I also struggle with these thoughts when gift-giving. I want to give the receiver something I know they will use and not something “expensive” or “pretty” that will later sit around collecting dust, even if it is a practical purchase.

    I also like being gifted experiences. I’m planning on trying out a couple of restaurants next year for a “Christmas” present.

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    1. Your restaurant idea sounds like a great idea.

      And I agree on the dust collector thing. I try really hard to make sure that I don’t get a gift to collect dust. There’s enough dust collectors in this world…

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  19. I’m very practical and usually ask for clothes that I don’t want to go purchase myself. Pants, socks, coats, gloves, etc. But if I actually find something special I want, for example an acoustic guitar this year, I’ll ask everyone to pool their money together and only get me the one fancy gift. I also wouldn’t care if I didn’t receive anything either.

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  20. I used to ask for things that I needed like dish towels or cute socks but one year I was told that I was asking for things that I should be buying for myself. I was supposed to be asking for things that I wanted. But what it those are the things that I really do want? So now I say I want nothing, because what’s the point? I’d rather people spend a couple extra bucks on something for others than on something for me that will just collect dust anyway. I hope that doesn’t sound rude or mean.
    If I could ask for absolutely anything though, the one thing that I really wish for is one last Christmas with all my family, just like it used to be when I was growing up.

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    1. Anyone who told you that you were asking for things you needed to buy for yourself is kind of scrooging. The gift aspect of Christmas shouldn’t come with a ‘this is acceptable and this isn’t’ tag…

      It’s funny, you wish for a Christmas with your family like from when you were kids and me, all I want to do is get away from my family Christmas… maybe head for Mexico!! We’re totally opposite. I understand it though. If you miss your family, spending the holiday together is probably a better feeling than what any gift could give you.

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      1. Yes, it’s because after my Mom and Grandma passed away, the family has broken up and no one speaks to anyone anymore. It’s a sad situation, heart breaking. I miss the fun times with all my cousins 🙂 Other than that fact, I don’t want to be anywhere near any of the toxic vibes anymore.

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  21. I’m exactly the same!! I told my aunt the other day that I think I’m boring or getting old because I like practical things. She asked me what I wanted and I was like a simple Dove set is great for me. I can actually use it and they come in nice bags, I can put other toiletries in! Great post!

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  22. I worked at a homeless shelter for a year and it has forever changed me. I have to say working on Christmas day was the best Christmas I have ever had. If you’ve never seen someone grin from ear to ear because you look them in the eye and call them by their first name, you are missing out. Dignity is the best gift you can give or be given. I was subjected to Christmas music for 5 hours yesterday and all I could think of were the homeless and how the holiday’s are not happy for everyone. I swear I’m not a scrooge, when my kids were little I was a Christmas junkie. Experiences bring about change for sure.

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  23. A few years ago I would have totally thought it was weird to ask for things like this. But now? I think asking for practical gifts like shampoo makes total sense. You know you will use it, it’s something you both need and want, so why not ask for it. For our wedding anniversary last year, I asked my husband for socks because mine were getting worn out and I honestly couldn’t think of anything else to ask for. Sometimes it’s the simple things that mean the most to us.

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    1. I love when people buy me socks. I don’t know about you but I find that people will buy me the expensive socks whereas I’d only ever buy the cheap wal mart bundles! haha I totally understand you.

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  24. Ah, a night on the roof with a huge fire at the center of a circle of 15 of my closest friends. Mindless chatter, everyone singing their own tunes and whiskey.

    Give me that on a Christmas. Like seriously, I’m craving friends this year.

    Enjoyed this post a lot. 😊🎉🎊

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  25. It is the same thing each year; all the kids go to grandmas place and not hear the words “mom” for 48 hours: this and a clean house for the same amount of time.
    Friends look at me oddly like; you want to be alone in a clean house what is wrong with you. The thing is the kids live with me, grandma is 6 hours away, and inky see her grandbabies two times a year if daddy and grandma want the kids, who am I to deny five people a small amount of happiness.

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  26. For me, what I want for Christmas this year is to be able to stay home, relax and play video games 😂 I don’t like going out as much. But I also want to be around my family.

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  27. Reblogged this on WordyNerdBird and commented:
    I’m keen to give people what they want and what they need, rather than spending money on something they won’t value. I’m also increasingly aware of the level of waste and discarded goods that are piling up on our planet.

    So, this year, I have gone a little green, too.

    My gift request of my husband was to buy me a couple of trees for our yard. The first one I chose is a maple, as anyone who knows me would assume,- and the other is a spruce that we can use as a real-life Christmas tree each year, and dress it up in the garden. Both hearken to my love for Canada and the very happy memories I have made there. I am unable to travel there at the moment, so why not add a little more Canada to my home? While some might say that I should only be planting Australian species, I would argue that tree is a tree, and any tree is better for the planet than having none. In this case, two trees are better than one!

    Without disclosing any secrets about gifts I have bought for others, I have rejected anything plastic, disposable or wasteful. I’m using recycled giftware and cloth ribbons rather than the curly plastic variety. I’m buying from local small businesses, and hopefully helping them provide their families and workers with a good Christmas too.

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  28. I would be very disappointed if I got shampoo for Christmas. I prefer not to give gifts to friends and just spend time. My list is a mix of practical and fun so I guess i can see you desire for shampoo. Merry Christmas.

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  29. My answer depends on who’s asking. For some people I’ll state something that’s within their budget, or I’ll remind them of something they’ve already got me that was perfect. These are mostly people I know will get me something even if I say “don’t get me anything”, so I don’t say that. Now, there are people that I’d suggest doing something with instead (like a walk, or a treat day).

    I think the staples you’ve asked for are perfect, (especially after reading your post about your skin getting thinner). I see & admire the strong practicality of it. & those gifts will never end up being regifted & potentially offending the donor.

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    1. I love it. I don’t know how my family feels, but in addition to the gifts I got them, they’re all getting one toothbrush, one tube of toothpaste and one stick of deodorant. I highly recommend!

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