Everybody’s got an opinion

If your opinion doesn’t align with mine, that is completely okay. There’s no need to fight, there’s no need to be rude, there’s no need for name calling. We can agree to disagree. Plenty of people disagree with me for plenty of different reasons and I still have a great deal of respect for all of them. I cannot and will not respect you, however, if your inclination is to start ‘throwing stones’ so to speak, solely because we disagree.

My standing up for myself is not my fighting with you, it’s my standing up for myself. Period. I’m not attacking you, I’m simply stating my opinions. You had your chance, why shouldn’t I have my chance? There’s no callous nature behind it, I am simply trying to share my side.

I want to get to a place in society where we can agree to disagree and still be kind to, and show respect to one another.

49 thoughts on “Everybody’s got an opinion

  1. Amen sister, preach!!! I am 100% on board with thiese statements!! We are talking at each other these days instead of to each other trying to find some common ground. Our world is too divisive lately. It’s not right or wrong or all good or all bad. There is common ground in every situation and topic I believe. We should try to find that because we are all the same inside, we are all connected and on this revolving ball of dirt and water TOGETHER!! Can’t we all just find a way to speak to one another with respect for difference and a desire to care for one another with loving kindness. People get so programmed, operate on automatic and through all decency out the window. I all friends from all over the world who look different, think differently, believe in different ideologies and I love them all the same💜😊
    It really shouldn’t and isn’t that hard to decide that no matter what I am going to love and respect each person I encounter because you never know what somebody is going through. A simple smile, a nod or a I understand goes a loooong way and can change somebody’s day for the better. I aspire to be the change I want to see in the world🥰✌

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    1. I think that being the change is the best goal you can set for yourself. Honestly, even if it’s only one person at a time, slowly but surely, teaching people that we can respect one another even if we don’t get along is so important.

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      1. It’s a ripple effect that just one person can start. Yes, I firmly believe it. The law of attraction too. I have changed my vibration so I attract so many more like minded people but I have noticed that the frequency I vibe on is infectious in such s positive way on others 💜
        This is a great post V!!!

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    1. Actually, this was with respect to an argument I had with my sister in law this morning. Sadly, her response to my disagreeing with her was to throw ‘verbal punches’.

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  2. The medium we choose to communicate can really help in this regard, and I think our mediums are bringing us to a better place in terms of disagreement. I think a lot of people who still buy cable packages are combative because they’re surrounding themselves with a narrative that tells them that everything is combative. The smarter we get as a society and the less cable news we consume the more we can actually talk to each other about the little things we disagree with.

    That’s my optimistic opinion.

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    1. I would agree that certain stations are really combative. I don’t think that all are and I don’t think all newscasters are. But I just fear if people stop watching the news they’ll (even more so) flock to twitter and facebook for their news and that scares me a lot more with the misinformation spread on facebook and twitter. I don’t really know what the solution is, really.

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      1. I mean, the great thing about the internet is that you can drill down the accuracy of things pretty quickly. I’m not on facebook or twitter and I don’t have a cable package. I listen to a lot of Joe Rogan and read articles online. That’s pretty much it, haha. I don’t know everything, but I’m think I’m pretty decently informed.

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  3. For that to happen, we must pure-breed only autistic people…no, joking! xD. I completely get you–– for so long I’ve noticed that people assume something neutrally stated is meant negatively, and can start being defensive unnecessarily. Even more common in text than in-person. I’m very very careful about what I discuss in text and who with!

    Sometimes I point things out just because they’re interesting, and the default interpretation of the purpose of me mentioning it can be wildly wrong! I always state what I mean and don’t leave things between the lines–– if I’m unhappy with something I say it. If i’m not saying I’m unhappy about something, then I’m not! So there can be problems with interpretation of meaning/tone even before the problems with interpretation of intention.

    It’s always really refreshing to meet somebody who takes things at face-value and whom you can share ideas with.

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    1. So few people take things at face value. I think it’s human nature for most to spin things to fit their own narrative. Honestly, too many people just act like the world’s out to get them. Oh now, how could anyone disagree when they’re always right? It must be a conspiracy.

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  4. E.g. I find it soooo insulting when somebody thinks I mean something other than what I’m saying, because I’m scrupulously honest with things! It’s one of the worst forms of intellectual insult, for me.

    This is partly why science works so well, of course, because it’s taken for granted that in scientific papers etc, what is written is what is meant, without additional emotional subtlety, without anything being meant personally.

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  5. Great article, V. I am graced (cursed?) with a huge family and we all have differing opinions to certain situations, be it religion, politics, love, and sex. (All those things we are never supposed to talk about.) With the exception of my dear mother, we are all comfortable with our opinions and will say so for the sake of a good discussion. We are also loud, which leads my 19 year old to believe we are fighting, but as I said, large family, and if you want to be heard you must speak above the others. There are times I feel for my mother because she never discussed these things with us as children and I think she holds onto the belief these things should not leak into our public lives. She is also less liberal than my father, my sister, either of my girls, and most everyone else in the family. My husband just says, “I do what she tells me to do.” The one thing my mom gets and goes out of her way to make sure she is heard is, it’s okay to disagree. It doesn’t mean we love each other any less, we just see things differently. We are never fighting, we are discussing. However, I have talked to many people and I find we agree on much more than we disagree with in the end. It is usually in the “how we get to the end” where we disagree.

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    1. Your mom sounds like a smart woman – even if she doesn’t want to talk about certain subjects, instilling the belief in her family members that you won’t be loved any less for having differing opinions is something I wish all families could have. While I know that my parents love me, there are definitely some days that I question whether or not they even like me because my beliefs differ so much from theirs. But, then I look at it from the perspective that hopefully they’re proud of themselves for raising a child who is willing to form her own opinions and isn’t afraid to speak her mind, even if it doesn’t align with them.

      Long story short – families are complicated… yours, mine, everyone’s. And a little patience goes a long way. Not everyone is going to agree always and that is okay!

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  6. Another current annoyance of mine. People who cannot tolerate other people’s opinion and become aggressive and rude. The world is too small a place for the current level of offence and outrage being taken in the name of opinion. Great post Ver.

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  7. This post made me happy that at least there are people who also think it is okay if someone has a different opinion than ours. I guess the best thing we can do is to show this through our actions to others and I am sure many others who are mature and sensible will do the same. Especially for young ones adults are kind of playing the role of role model. People adapt good qualities from others. Plus this post will help some in realizing this concept!

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    1. Leading by example is the best thing we can do. I can only hope that if people see others accepting differing opinions and still treating one another with respect, they’ll think it’s okay too.

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  8. Especially opinions on inconsequential matters, like taste. People rip each other to shreds over Star Wars. And it’s like, are you even an adult? I guess they’re just projecting their political rivalries onto that, though.

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    1. Oh, I tend to just completely walk away from discussions/arguments where people are inclined to rip each other apart over things like Star Wars. I know that’s bad, but it’s just an argument worth having, ya know? I wholeheartedly understand and agree with you here.

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  9. This is a disease that has spread across the planet. We are in the age of “being offended” when someone disagrees with what you say or believe. It’s the age of unreason! The most pernicious element of this is “no platforming” in universities, where someone is scheduled to speak on a political view, science against global warming, gender etc etc but is blocked by those with opposing views, often violently. This is not how the world has advanced in medicine, physics, culture, art etc. It has to stop!

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  10. Thanks, V.

    When someone disagrees with me, I immediately feel guilty for upsetting them or offending them. Why? Because offending was never my intention. I was just sharing what I thought or believed. Others get to. Why can’t I? It’s a mystery how people think they can say what they think, but we shouldn’t. Then, if we do, suddenly we’re being offensive.

    Bah! Let’s just agree to disagree!

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