Guest Post: How being a loner can be one of your most useful and powerful assets

The following is a guest post written by V from the blog StormyNook. V’s first language is Italian, and he likes to share motivational and thoughtful content to help everyone be the very best version of themselves.


If you fall in this category and you think that being a loner it’s sad, or brings you misfortune…

Think again. You’ve probably been misusing or neglecting your “superpowers” while falling prey to your self-loathing.

Useless! You should instead exploit your UNFAIR perks.

What are they, you ask?
Let me give you some of them:

1) YOUR ABILITY TO WITHSTAND LONELINESS.

WAIT.
Before you enter “forever alone” mode, hear me out. I don’t mean it in a bad way.

Because by being able to do so, on paper-you don’t have the urge to have social interactions, when compared to more outgoing individuals.

Who actually need to be around people to feel great-and might experience & feel loneliness more than you.

Instead, you’re fine both ways!

2) YOU HAVE MORE TIME THAN ANYONE.

And this, I consider a cheat code for life, IF you can exploit it.

Think about this.
If you avoid unnecessary social interactions (Spending nights out drunk, meaningless hanging around, useless partying that leaves you in pieces in the morning, ecc..)

You have the ability to use that otherwise wasted time, so you can focus on:

  • The things you LOVE
  • Your projects\business
  • Improving yourself
  • Learning stuff
  • Becoming a better human, overall

More time on your hands = More relaxation = More time to get ahead of people, HAH!

Isn’t it amazing?

3) YOU CAN CUT OFF MEANINGLESS RELATIONSHIPS MORE EASILY.

Now this might sound cold-hearted and very “inhuman” even, but…

There are some kind of relationships you’re better off without.
I’m talking about the toxic ones.

The ones that hold you back,
That damage you,
That are not giving as much as you,
That you don’t really enjoy.

And while you shouldn’t cut off people randomly from your life (because that IS IMMATURE and shows that you can’t handle cultivating a relationship)

There are times when doing this it’s much needed.

And, being a loner- this might not have the same emotional impact on you-because you’re used to being on your own.

Giving you the ability to be more detached, logic-driven & able to walk away from something that is not for you.


Thank you to V for his contribution to #MillennialLifeCrisis. His blog is StormyNooK. Click here to visit StormyNook > and, while you’re there, drop him a nice note. Being as he’s in Italy right now, he’s under Corona Quarantine and could use some sunshine in his life.

20 thoughts on “Guest Post: How being a loner can be one of your most useful and powerful assets

  1. This is SO TRUE!! I was just thinking about how so many people are stuck inside due to this coronavirus scare. I go through this being alone all of the time, so it’s nothing new to me. Keeps me out of trouble and I work on more projects!

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    1. People need to learn how to entertain themselves for the first time in a long time.
      One of the things Shaw has done here in Canada is open up all of their internet hot spots for free use by the public – so that if anyone didn’t have internet at home because they couldn’t afford it, they now can hopefully access it. Which I think will go a long way in helping keep people able to be at home and working!

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  2. This is all so true! ✨ I know people that are going to find it very difficult to self isolate but I’m completely used to it what with my chronic pain, it’s finally coming in handy 😂 Great post, I will have to go check out the StormyNook blog! 💕

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    1. Indeed Elsie!

      While this might be normality for some people, now it’s the “best” time than ever to be a loner, this hard situations won’t affect you AS MUCH.

      Thanks for the kind comment. 😀

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  3. It’s great to have a little alone time. Very rejuvenating. It’s sad to see that being a “loner” is portrayed in a dark or sad light, on social media or TV shows. I actually enjoy spending time with myself and doing things I like, for example, reading a novel or writing or listening to music. Great post!

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    1. Exactly that.

      Being able to stay alone with yourself…
      It’s a skill that usually needs to be developed and nourished, but some are naturally born with it.

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    2. Sometimes being alone can provide one’s self much needed peace… even if we don’t know we need it. A little peace is good for the soul. I definitely agree with you.

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  4. That’s good to focus on. Being a chronic loner myself I agree with everything. On the first note I can definitely say not being swamped in company left right and centre on demand makes me less fearful of loneliness & somehow less terrified of dis-approval. I suppose the one benefit of being of being lonely is that it’s possible to find other ways to feel that you’re worthwhile that don’t depend or RELY on approval of others. That can certainly help to feel less vulnerable and not care as much what people think of you.

    RE having time to devote to other projects; so true. That note on drunken nights out, shallow waste of time, no quality conversations, could rant on.

    I would also add to the third note that self-reflection and really thinking about what you will and will not tolerate in a friend or lover & what you want & what’s valuable to you, that can be a really good use of time when lonely.

    Thanks for this, this is genuinely helpful and useful to focus on instead of envying people who we think have a better social lot than us.

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  5. Being a loner as a child was great and the best thing of all-my parents never heard me say, “I’m bored!” because I was constantly creating in my alone times. I still enjoy being alone; it’s how I decompress and create.

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  6. I am definitely reaping the benefits of being an introvert with a lot of hobbies right now.

    Love to all the extroverts. I don’t understand you but I know that this is as stressful to you as crowds are to me.

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  7. Trueeeeee! Loners like me or you are at a great benefit in this situation since we know ways of entertaining ourselves. I think we should similarly motivate and help the extroverts who are unable to deal with the self-quarantining situation. In the end, this situation is about being there for each other (while social distancing of course).

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  8. Yes! This is true. You have a lot of time for seeking newness. However, it is not healthy when it is too much. It is not healthy when it is a forced type of loner. I was both a forced and a volantary loner.

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