We spent this afternoon/evening calling and emailing all of our family, extended family, extended-extended family, people we treat as family, friends and former coworkers to let them know.
At the end of the day, there would easily be 200 people coming for the service, and, with many of them being elderly, we don’t want to put anyone in harms way. I have to believe that’s what he would have wanted too. He wouldn’t want anyone he loves running the chance of getting sick from travelling to his service.
We’re talking about maybe hosting one later in the year… maybe in August around when his birthday would have been (if things calm down by then). But for now, it’s the right decision to not have one.
A difficult call but the correct one in the current environment.
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I’d definitely agree there, a difficult call, but I think the right one, too. It’s difficult with a memorial because part of me wants to say it’s just an event, it doesn’t change the feelings and thoughts and care for that person, but the other part of me knows how important they can be, symbolically and getting everyone together. As you say, there’s always a chance further down the line. I’m so sorry this has been such an awful time.. ♥
Caz xx
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Thank you ❤
It's been a long couple of weeks. The best thing we can do for each other now is just to look out for one another and make sure we stay as healthy as possible.
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Thank you for the reassurance. It’s sucky, but it needed to be done.
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That’s definitely the right decision. Yesterday we cancelled an event proposed for next week, albeit a much smaller one (and a celebration rather than a memorial) on the basis that most of the attendees would be elderly. The worry caused to people attending such events, and the guilt the organisers would feel if a vulnerable person got ill, and maybe died, as a result of attending means that it’s better not to proceed right now. It’s a tough call, but the current crisis is going to require lots of similarly difficult choices. Stay strong, stay healthy, Vee.
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Same to you, Monsieur Platypus. Don’t go out unless you have to. Keep yourself and Madame Platypus safe and healthy, please. You’re far too valuable to this world.
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I promise to be good … which is a first for me 🙂
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You’re doing the right thing by postponing it for the time being, even though it’s a hard thing to do. It’s a difficult time right now for everyone and I keep praying that we will be stronger on the other side once COVID-19 is under control. I really do hope that you can have the funeral when things calm down and we are no longer in a medical state of emergency. Stay healthy, V! 🙏🏻
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Same to you. Stay home where you can please. I’ve seen and heard lots of crazy things coming out of Calgary and I’m hoping you haven’t gotten caught up in any of it.
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We checked out the campus today to see its current state. It’s a ghost town and I’ve never seen it this empty. At the beginning of the week, I had planned to spend my weekdays at the library but after what we saw today, we think it’s best for me to stay home. I haven’t been motivated to do homework which is not like me at all. Things just feel off and the media is also quite unsettling 😕
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Hi V, these are very strange times indeed. You seem to always have big things going on in your life. Postponing the service is the right thing, and having it around his birthday if possible would be symbolic and fitting.
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I don’t know that I have big things going on in my life.
That makes me sound like a bit of a drama queen.
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Oh, I did not mean it like that, sorry! Significant things. You were already going through a significantly tough period, the job stuff was already very difficult. Then there’s your crazy cousin with the pregnancy stuff…that’s all enough for one person in a short time!
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Thanks for clarifying. My crazy cousin weighs no bearing on me now. She’s made her own choices. It was just a story I updated on because I tend to tell stories and forget to tell the updates. I’m the queen of starting stories and not finishing them.
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Haha 🙂. Ok, sorry, it was a careless comment to start with said quickly late at night.
Do you still have relatives around you? Your place in Canada looked quite remote, it’s hard to imagine the virus getting there at least! And Canada is mostly so sparsely populated.
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My brother that came from Denmark came in before things started getting really serious and travel restrictions started being put in place. He’ll be here with his girlfriend and their baby for a while. They’re not risking travelling right now.
My brothers that could drive home are home now.
80 percent of Canada’s population lives within 100 miles o the American border. While we have a much smaller population than the States, the majority of the country is, in itself, really close together.
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Cool, at least you’ve got their company too! Interesting times eh. Are they missing work then, or able to work from home? Either way, they’re not on a different time zone. Must feel very strange to be in that situation!
Yeah, to be honest I knew that about the population. It’s the same in Scotland haha. There are so many parallels between Canada and Scotland it’s weird. And you’ve got the two main population centers on the East/West coasts…
I guess, you still have all that space to Potentially spread out into! Go and live in a log cabin 🙂.
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You’re doing the right thing. The strength I mentioned in my earlier response is starting to show through. Stay strong.
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My condolences to you and your family. I hope you all find strength in this difficult time. What matters is you all find the peace and closure that all of you need, it doesn’t have to be immediate.
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Just because it’s the right thing doesn’t make it easy to do. It sounds like a tough day for you all. Hugs.
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Thanks my dear ❤
Happy St. Patricks Day
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Thank you 😊❤️
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Hello Vee,
I can imagine it was a difficult and painful decision for you, and for everyone who cared for this special person. As always, I continue to think of you. Hugs.
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Definitely a sensible, though difficult decision. Hope you’re all well.
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We’re good for now.
Going a little stir crazy staying home together, but it’ll pass eventually.
Hope you’re doing okay
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I’m okay. Missing some people though…
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Sending you peace during this time, friend. 🕊
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Thinking of you
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Must be really tough to do all this, sensible thought. Stay strong
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It will all be okay, I am sure. In due time, once the world calms down.
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Good call. Memorials are for the living, not the dead. His memory and spirit will live on in you for a service be it for two days or two years, and long thereafter. Your family is making the wisest choice possible and I think you’ll have that confirmed for yourselves after his memorial, whenever that may be. Stay strong…and inside.
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Wise, wise words.
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Hugs my friend. I know that was a difficult call to make but bravo for thinking of everyone’s safety because some people would not be that kind. Hang in there. I’m here if you need to talk ❤
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Thanks my dear ❤
Have a house full of people just itching for me to talk to them. I do appreciate the offer though.
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I work for a funeral home on weekends…
Pretty much everyone is currently opt’ing to have memorials AFTER at least May
You can’t really control when someone dies, and their memory is still important – the situation is just sensitive at this moment
We have still currently been having small viewing services and burials – but the memorial services are being put on hold.
Hope you are holding up ok through everything. ✌️
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It’s good to hear that others are making the smart choice to put Memorials/Funerals off until later.
What the world needs right now is people to stay home.
Hope you’re staying safe at work and that you’re healthy. ❤
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Holding you in the light, peace in this time of difficulty.
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Thank you ❤
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I feel your pain. My family is having to do the same with my late grandma’s memorial service.
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your grandmother. I hope that you and your family are doing okay ❤
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Sorry to hear that v.
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V, sorry to hear about having to delay such a long time for the memorial tribute.
Grieving is hard enough, but having too face a long wait to celebrate a person’s life must be very painful.
My heart goes out to you!
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We will persist. So long as Canadians hunker down and stay in their homes. Right?
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So true, I am doing just that, staying home.
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That’s rough. Be nice if the world cooperated.
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They better park their butts inside their homes and stay there for the next two weeks. That would be a nice gift.
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You have my deepest condolences.
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