What day is it?

I sent my brother to the store for me this morning.

I have a cold. It’s just a cold. I’ve been through it 15,000 times in my life and I know that it’s just a cold. But, knowing how many people are on edge about germs at the moment, I decided the last thing I needed to do was make anyone in a store worry about me.

So I sent my brother to the store.

I asked him to purchase me cough syrup, cough drops and neocitron… all over the counter items that can help someone fight a cough/cold. Did I need them all this morning? No. But, in limiting the amount of times we visit a store, and in thinking that it’d be smarter to have these things at home for fighting this cold, I asked for each of these items.

While he was standing six feet behind the woman who was already paying at the register, two other women in the store berated my brother for what he was purchasing. One of the women went so far as to yell ‘You’re going to kill us all’, at him.

These women were assuming he was sick because of what he was purchasing. In trying to calm them down, he tried to explain ‘I’m purchasing these things for someone that I know. I’m completely healthy and I’m standing away from everyone. Please do not worry’.

The women then decided to berate him for being inconsiderate to the general public by associating with someone who is sick. Then they told him to go home because he’s a carrier and if he keeps on he’s going to make everyone in town sick.

I’ve largely been held up in my bedroom since my cold symptoms started. Why? Because, while it is just a cold, something that goes around each spring… I didn’t feel like spreading germs to anyone in my home given what’s going on in this world.

No one should be shamed for purchasing medication at the pharmacy right now. I know, the world is stressed out. I know that people are on edge about anyone who sneezes or coughs in public. That’s precisely why I sent my healthy brother and I didn’t go to the store myself. People need to remember that it’s both allergy season while still being cold and flu season. Allergy pills, cough syrups, cough drops, neocitron, nasal sprays, these are all things people still need to purchase right now.

I count myself lucky that I could send my brother to purchase those things for me. I was really disheartened when I heard what happened to him at the store. My brother is such a docile person that when two women started yelling at him all he wanted to do was leave. But, he wanted to make sure that he got me what I had asked for so he just had to stay and listen to them. He was so frustrated that he called to tell me what happened on his way back.

I know people are anxious, but berating someone for buying cough syrup is not going to fix anything. Furthermore, berating someone for picking up goods for someone else is not productive. I thought we were supposed to only send one family member to the store. I thought we were supposed to ask neighbours, friends and family and so on… if they needed anything before going to the store so it could all be bought in one trip. What do I know though?

I’ve been laying pretty low… not leaving my room a whole bunch. And I’ll continue to do so until this passes.

82 thoughts on “What day is it?

  1. Good post. I’ve just started reading your blog, lately, having seen what your themes are like, in terms of what you write. I am sorry this incident happened.

    It must have been stressful for both you, and for your brother. Remember everybody is feeling more on edge, of course, it goes without saying.

    I considered going to the drugstore yesterday afternoon, in the sunshine, and I wondered why people were standing idly outside, and what they might say if I approached. Soon I realized it was the store line-up, people waiting to go inside, standing apart from one another, for reasons of personal safety. Then and there I changed my mind about going.

    The situation is just new to everybody.

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    1. We’ve been really lucky here in that we haven’t had lines to get into stores. I can’t imagine how much that adds to the situation when you have to wait in a line of people to get into the store. Hope you’re staying healthy and safe ❤

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    1. Hopefully a little compassion can teach those ladies to be a little nicer. I know everyone reacts to stressful situations differently, I just hope experience can teach them there are better ways.
      Thank you for the well wishes ❤ I hope that you're safe and healthy and well.

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  2. Lol. People are fun! I got kicked out of the grocery store on Friday. I have allergies in the spring and my nose started running. The proprietors came up to me and asked me kindly to leave. I told them it was just allergies and did they notice how I wasn’t coughing or sweating or bleeding from the eyes? They then informed me that they were calling the police and I had five minutes to leave. So… yeah. People are fun.

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      1. And where would this realistic place be? People are acting like that everywhere. They don’t know what to blame since they can’t see what’s making everyone panic. It’s not their fault, they’re just scared. And just because a couple people in one store did this don’t assume the rest of us are like them. I don’t mean to snap, but I’m sick of everyone always hating on my backwater state. COVID is making everyone everywhere a little bit antsy. But we’ll get over it.

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      2. I think people are panicking across the world at this point in time. There might be varying degrees from the people you cross, but every town/city/place is struggling with it.

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  3. Whoa, can’t wait for the mask shamers here in California. Already just going on a run the climate went 6′ smiles to frowns because I might be breathing too hard on my run. Pray for mankind, this is just ugly. Get well!!

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    1. Ooh man, I can’t even. When the president said everyone should wear masks… or their scarves… I just pictured people running to target and home depot and wal mart and buying all the masks in sight. And probably fighting over that like they did with toilet paper.

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  4. I’m so sorry that happened to your brother. People are such jerks, especially right now. We should be trying to be kind to each other, not shaming each other. 😦 I’m also sorry you don’t feel well, V. I hope you get to feeling better this week. You’re lucky to have a sweet brother to run and pick up the things you need. 🙂

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    1. Some people have been really great and really kind and wonderful and others, well, there’s got to be a few bad apples. Right?

      Thank you for your well wishes ❤ I am really lucky to have someone who can go to the store for me. I hope that you're safe and well and healthy where you are!

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    1. They are. That’s what I told my brother when he called me. I think he just didn’t really know how to deal with getting through this. Hopefully they’ll get better at it as this continues as it seems we’ve got a ways to go yet.

      Hope you are well my dear ❤ Stay safe and healthy.

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    1. Thank you. I also hope a little cough syrup and a couple days of sleep will help me get over this.
      Hopefully as this goes on people become more and more equipped with dealing with the stressors of life.
      Hope you are safe and healthy ❤

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  5. Ignorance and fear are alive and well in this crisis, and some people act dumb when they’re scared (although some act dumb even when not at all scared!) I hope your brother can put this behind him, and that you feel better soon. Take care.

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    1. He’s definitely put it behind him. I think I was more upset than he ended up being because I felt like I sent him into the fox hole. Is that the saying? Into the fox hole?

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      1. We might say “into the lion’s den,” but fox hole works for me. Pleased to hear he’s bounced back. Don’t you beat yourself up about it either, you weren’t to know he’d get ambushed like that. Keep smiling 🙂

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  6. What your brother experienced is an example of the mass hysteria that is gripping the general public.
    Social media and TV needs to spread the word that the common cold is not CORONAVIRUS. And buying medicine should not be a reason to ostracize people.

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    1. Like you say, anyone who volunteers to go to the store or do things like this for others right now, we should be thankful for. We shouldn’t be berating them. These people volunteering – whether it’s for a neighbour or a friend or someone compromised, or just someone with a cold, they are so genuine and wonderful.

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      1. I’ve only been out twice in three weeks and on Sunday the supermarket girl was new – she’d signed up to help in our local store as she wasn’t at uni. People are doing great things in very desperate and sad times

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  7. Oh boy, this story really bothers me. I have been on my own property for 3 weeks now since I Luce in a major city that has strict shelter in place orders until the end of May. I have heard such stories from my friends of this new trend in humanity. I don’t ever want to view other people as a problem, EVER. The amount of fear that has been infected into our world is entirely overwhelming to me. I am a lover, a giver and a real people person. I am so sorry your brother had to deal with this. Stop the judging and open your heart. We are all in this world together and what you do to one of us you do to yourself and all of us.
    I hope you recover quickly and feel yourself ASAP. It is cold and allergy season. Take care my friend (((((virtual hugs)))))

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    1. I appreciate your mentality about this and ensuring that you continue to see the good in people, even with the fear circulating in society. It’s definitely not easy right now, but people like you are going to push us forward.
      Also, thank you for the well wishes ❤
      Stay safe and healthy.

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      1. Yes my friend. As an empath and lightworker, I had my awakening awhile ago. Many are now going through this and I feel, along with many others this is our job. To shed and shine light. I have always had a love for others. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the fear of this thing but only together can we make it through. It may sound cliche but love is the answer, always was and will always be.

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  8. Wow…
    I hope you feel better soon V
    And sorry about what happened to your brother.
    Some people tend to forget that everyone is going through the same thing they are; watching the same crisis, facing the same risks.
    We really should be more aware of words we say to others so as not to injure
    We’re all in this together
    Nice post 👌!

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    1. We are all in this together, you’re so right. I hope that where you are, you’re safe and healthy and able to keep yourself at a safe distance from others!

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  9. The solution, and share this with your brother so he knows next time, is to respond in a low, serious tone. “You’re wrong. I’m going to kill them all except you. I need you to tell my story.” People seem to back the fuck off at that point.

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  10. hope you feel better. this situation is capable of making monsters out of all of us. patience is the greatest virtue you can have in these times. sending strength to you and your family. as well as to the rest of mankind… :/

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  11. I get that everyone’s worried about catching this, but some people are just ignorant. Surely they wouldn’t think him daft enough to go out in public, asking for allergy meds and cough syrups!

    My son was in a large store yesterday, picking up groceries while chatting simultaneously to his dad on the phone. He was telling him about his day on the Intensive Care Unit, in full PPE, sweating as he turned people over onto their front. My son’s wife noticed the cough-cough and tut-tuts of others near(ish) by and nudged at my son to end the call. He too was berated!! aarrgghh!

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    1. That’s so sad. Really, if I crossed paths with someone who is a health care worker at the store, I’d be like ‘Dude, I want to give you a hug. I can’t, but I want to.’ Can’t believe someone would berate him over that.

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    1. I think people are too scared for common sense right now. Which I can kind of grasp. I’ve been having a hard time dealing with it myself, but… I guess lashing out is how some deal.

      I hope you are safe and healthy ❤

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    1. Oh man, I’m so sorry. Firstly, for missing this comment when you first left it, and secondly, for being at risk with respect to this virus. That has to make navigating the present world really difficult. I hope you’ve managed to find some sort of a balance this past month.

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    1. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh I’m sad I missed this when you left it.
      I, too, enjoy calling them Karen. Apparently, according to Karen if someone gets sick they should just die. Okay that’s a little mellowdramatic, but I’m in a sassy mood tonight.

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    1. Oh Andy, I can’t imagine being in such a populate city right now. I’m sorry that I missed this when you left it but I just wanted to say that I hope you’re staying safe and healthy.

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      1. Thanks, love. I am doing the best that I can. Staying focused on being positive in a time like this. It is a bit stressful at times, but I am thinking of how I am helping others in need.

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