Job thoughts.

Do you ever meet someone and think ‘damn, you’ve got so much potential’? It always seems like the people who have the most potential are the ones who are the most against changing, improving and getting better. Whether it self esteem or something else, for whatever reason, they just don’t think they can succeed.

Maybe you are that person.

I know I was for many years.

I became so complacent in the position I was in. In the stage of life I was in. I told myself that was what I deserved and, even though I didn’t like it, I accepted it. I told myself that people like me weren’t meant for more in life.

Now that I realize what I’m capable of, what I can accomplish, what it’s like to feel valued… I look back on that person that I was and… while I am not ashamed, I am angry at myself. I stayed still for years. I was treated like shit at work for years.

There are some people in my life these days that are just… still. They don’t move. They won’t move. Every time I try to tell them how great they are and how much potential they have and how they just need to step out, I get excuses. Different excuses every time. There’s always a different reason as to why they cannot. And I get, I do. I was there for sooooo many years. But, now that I realize how wrong I was, I don’t want to see other people making those mistakes.

You cannot achieve anything in life if you don’t try. I should know. There are posts on this very blog where I talk about how I wouldn’t try, I didn’t want to try and I wasn’t going to try.

Change is worthwhile. Even when it sucks. Actually, when change sucks, that’s probably when you’re accomplishing the most growth.


I know it’s hard when someone is seemingly bossing you around, trying to push you into a place you’re not comfortable with. Just know that it comes from a good place. Take that from someone who ignored those people for YEARS and now has become one of them.

It’s okay to want more for yourself.

It’s okay to chase more for yourself.

You might not be able to make a change tomorrow, but as long as you’re working toward something, progress will do wonders for your mood and well-being. And to be clear, I’m not advocating for anyone to up and quit their job. I just think it’s important to make a plan. A reasonable plan. Something for you to look forward to. Something for you to work towards. Something that’s realistic and able for you to accomplish. Six months? A year? Two years? Five years? Give yourself something to work for.

I have a plan in place. Just knowing there’s a plan helps me immensely.

24 thoughts on “Job thoughts.

    1. It’s a scary, scary world out there, my dear. Don’t move until the time is right, until you’re comfortable. Until you know your family and you can do so. ❤
      Sending you love and plenty of positive thoughts. You're capable of more than you know!


  1. Yes, having a light turn on at the end of a long tunnel is so helpful, I agree. Seeing yourself as a valuable asset is so key too, but also getting some validation along the way.. And that validation doesn’t have to be from others, it can be from yourself and how you’ve become lighter, brighter, happier, etc.

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    1. Exactly! You can get so much validation from looking inwards. I fully admit that I never would’ve said that a year ago. I probably would have laughed at the thought of it. But the truth is, the past year has changed a lot. Internal focus helps so much with well being.

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  2. Bravo! My son is like this and it kills me to watch him get beaten by his fear of failure. His response is always “I’ll have the imposter syndrome, I don’t know enough.”
    In the first days on a job, especially for those who are young? That’s everybody.

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    1. It must be hard to be a parent and to watch your child struggle like that and not really be able to do anything about it. I can’t imagine.


  3. Awesome post! I agree, I think it’s hard for most of us to look introspectively at times and realize our true potential or tell ourselves the hard truths. Sometimes encouragement from others is what we need to face our fears of the unknown.

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    1. Encouragement is all others can give us. We’re responsible for taking that encouragement and running with it. In the case of me, I’m going to be an annoying, encouragement pest in the ears of the people I know. I hope everyone does something similar for themselves and their friends/family.

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  4. I always saw much light in you V and reading this I can feel you are knowing your own magic these days!! WooHoo sis, go for it all!! Knowing one’s own power is such an empowering place to be in. You go girrrrl🎆🙌❤😁


  5. I needed this today. Seriously! I’ve been stuck in the same place for years and I don’t seem to be able to get out of my own way. I finally took a chance last year and tried for a promotion and actually got it. This was after 2 years of my supervisor begging me to go for it. But I thought I would suck at being in charge but I’m actually pretty good at it lol. But now I want more. I want bigger and better. So maybe it’s time to really look at what’s next and make some strides towards it. You’re a rock star always V!!


  6. I think this especially applies to us, being in our 20s and 30s, as we’re still young and have decades of life to live. I can see why after a certain age (50s and above) people settle, as they’ve worked a huge chunk of their lives and have saved up a lot on their way to retirement. I currently work in the public sector, and it’s notorious for having folks who are complacent and stagnant, as it’s a VERY stable field of work (i.e. really difficult to get fired once you pass probation) and offers more work-life balance and pension than many private sectors. I know that I wouldn’t want to stay in my current position for the rest of my working career, but I do want to stay within the public sector, despite its complacent notoriety. I also think it’s important to at least get a few years in in whichever job you have, especially if it’s to advance your career: as I’ve previously had only jobs which lasted 1-2 years max, I’m looking to settle in for a bit longer than that, and ideally in the field that I’m in. So long story short, I agree that it’s important to take risks, but to append, to also think long-term and take your time with your work to build up the skills and savings before jumping to the next opportunity.


  7. I feel that there are two types of people, the ones who have potential but are stuck or complacent and the ones that are realising it, striving, and struggling. Most people are both at different times in their life. Although my job is all about supporting people in getting the best of their careers and making that potential work for them, I believe that sometimes it’s ok to sit down, have a break, and let life happen.


  8. You were born to be a life coach. Your words are so motivating. How is it whenever I read a blog post of yours, it feels like we are sitting face to face and that you are talking to me? It feels like I’m chatting with a friend and you know inside my head and giving me advice for that specific thing I need. It’s mindblowing.


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