I need ideas for birthday presents

My mother’s birthday is coming up.

If you have any suggestions for birthday presents for mom’s, I’d love to hear them.

My mom is a very casual person. She’s a jeans and a t-shirt type of lady. So like… nothing that’s fancy, because she’s too casual for that.

Thank you.

Edited after the fact because people pointed out how petty I was being and I heard them. Removed the pettiness. Thank you for being honest with me.

54 thoughts on “I need ideas for birthday presents

      1. Oh, you didn’t make me feel bad. If anything, it smartened me up. Being petty doesn’t solve anything. Our relationship is complex and I do have the power to be a bigger person. And I should.

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  1. I get it. My mother could be seriously hurtful. But this isn’t about how your mother can be – it is about how you are. My mother passed away eight years ago. I am way over being bothered by anything she said or did (I know she suffered chronic horrid migraines, she raised six kids, she took care of my dad for five years when he had terminal cancer… the list goes on) and I have absolutely NO regrets for anything I ever did for her – and I did a lot, especially for the twenty years after my Dad passed away. Honestly, you won’t regret it if you buy her the best gift you could ever give.

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      1. I mentally did one of those cheesy wink and finger clicking things 😉.

        That’s amazing. And was it a winner!?

        For bonus points— inundate yourself with houseplants. They start multiplying themselves. Free presents whenever you need them 😁.

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      2. HHAHA!
        The cactus actually didn’t go over well. My parents have a dog that is a real idiot. She’s sweet as heck, and adorable as a dog could possibly be, but she’s not the brightest dog in the world. Anyways, she tried to eat it and wound up having to go to the vet to have emergency work done on her mouth to get the prickles removed.

        I think I might just stick with a book, honestly. I’m a houseplant person, but I think my mom is just too low maintenance to remember to keep it alive. Or to keep it out of reach of the dog. hahaha

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      3. Oh wow, that gift idea really couldn’t have gone any worse!! That’s a hilarious response to my confident assertions 🤣. That’s disastrous!!

        To be fair, plants and pets don’t seem to mix well. Seems I’ve destined myself to have no pets, just a house full of plants xD.

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      1. Haha !! 😁. Cacti in particular do grow so slowly though so I’ve seeded another batch and think I’m just going to keep growing more. I’m catching the cactus bug but figure I’ll thank myself in a few years! I just bought a packet of 100 seeds for £2 😂

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  2. A great hug.
    Some nice beauty stuff.
    Maybe make dinner that day..
    Tell her you are getting/thinking of marriage 😂
    If theatres are open there movies..
    If she is like very much into spirituality or stuff like mystic stuff..crystals..n all…
    Plants!
    🤗 Also…
    Happy B’day to her on my behalf..❣️

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    1. My mom would love it if I told her I was getting married! hahaha
      She got married when she was 19 and she’s always told me she wanted the same for me. The fact that I’m in my 30s and not married likely disappoints her. If I told her I was getting married, she’d probably start planning a wedding!!! lol

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  3. I wish you hadn’t edited “after the fact.” I would like to read how you really thought/felt/experienced your mother. I am sorry if people called you petty for expressing yourself honestly about your childhood. It’s sort of that ‘get over it’ and move on mindset, that totally negates the honest child and adult.

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    1. Thank you.
      Honestly, the pettiness I displayed in the original post really didn’t speak to our relationship at all. It was just me being petty. If I really wanted to talk about what it was like to struggle in a relationship with parents as an adult, I’d be better off actually explaining what goes on with us and not just writing a passive aggressive suggestion about why I want to/don’t want to buy her a birthday present.
      I’m actually glad people called me out for being petty. The pettiness I’d originally written didn’t solve anything. It was just me being petty. I could talk a lot about our relationship, and to some extent, I have. And probably should more because I am betting it’s something that a lot of people could related to.

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    1. Thank you for the great suggestions. My mom is very sentimental and she does love collecting cards and displaying them on her fireplace.

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  4. If your mom’s a casual type of person, I’d say a nice, home-cooked meal would be nice. Or if you don’t live near her, an offer to pay for a nice lunch/takeout. Maybe a Kindle if she likes reading. Hope she has a lovely birthday, regardless!

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  5. How about a nice book where it’s loaded with questions she can fill out about her life, like a ‘my life story; book? My daughter did that for both me and her grandmother. I finished mine and it forced her to do hers. It was very cathartic and did help their relationship as my mother is a very good-willed, but judgy, person.

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    1. I’ve never heard of “My Life Story” books before. I actually think that’s a really cool thing. Before her dad (my grandfather) passed away, he’d spent the last 5 years of his life recording all of the facts of his life on casette tape. My mom cherished those tapes so much, but sadly, she never converted them when technology improved, so now they just collect dust. Her writing down her stories of her life into a book might actually make her really happy.

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      1. I did this for a friend’s Uncle who passed. He had about 20 hours of performances on different kinds of audio. I changed it to digital but kept the warmth. Amplified the kid’s playing in the background. He had nodules so, like a whole generation never heard him. Maybe, do that for…her?

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  6. I’m going to do you a favor and steer clear of giving you any gift ideas because I am horrible at giving gifts. Whenever my mother’s birthday rolls around I make her a birthday card and usually just get her a gift card for somewhere I know she shops. Gifts is not my love language… I don’t care to receive them and I definitely don’t like to give them. I always think of presents as an obligation, which has always made Christmas with the extended family cringey at best. Funny enough, my mother’s love language IS gifts, so every year she’ll say we’re not doing presents for Christmas but then she turns around and buys me a bunch of stuff she thinks I’ll like but I definitely don’t need… While I bought her nothing, thinking we weren’t doing presents this year.

    Yeah… sorry, that’s not helpful at all…

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    1. Gifts are so tricky. Honestly, in a lot of ways I feel the same as you. Gifts are often an obligation, and so I try to buy people gifts throughout the year at random times because then it feels like less of an obligation and more of my just choosing to be nice. Gift cards are a good go to, though. Thank you for that suggestion. Because my mom lives so far away, I need something that is easy to transport, and something that she’ll use. I’m having a much harder time than normal this year because earlier this year my parents received their share of my uncle’s estate (the uncle who passed away in March 2020). It was a “winfall” of sorts. So they’ve had the chance, for basically the first time in their whole lives, to buy everything they need and want. So I really need to make this present an “Oh my child is the sweetest, kindest” kind of a present. It’s hard.

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  7. In my whole life, I don’t think I ever succeeded at pleasing my mother. She always smiled and said “very nice darling”, but I never saw the spark of pleasure I hoped for. Father was worse!

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    1. Oh god, I feel this. I completely understand this.
      My mom and I have such a complicated relationship. Sometimes it’s the best, sometimes I wonder how we’re related and how I could ever speak to her again.

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  8. Since I get the email notifications, I know the before edited version and I can say I understand. I also understand that in my case, my mother isn’t deliberately hurtful, just a bit thoughtless in what she says. My hope is that is the same in your case. I am always at a loss for gifts for my mother as well as she will be quick to inform that she needs nothing, and that is true so for a while it was a near panic time every time birthdays rolled around. I do like all of the prior suggestions offered. I don’t know the area where she lives as to climate, but maybe a sweater/sweatshirt, even a light weight one. I had one of those canvas from photos made of a family portrait. Hopefully you will find something that will show her how you honor her on her day.

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  9. Haha, everytime I come across an Instagram ad promoting a product that makes me think ‘oh, that looks cool. Might make for a good present for someone one day’, I save it. Have saved me the hassle of thinking of a present many times already😂

    As for your question, really just get something which you think she’ll have no problems with. Blandest and most basic answer, but sometimes getting an A+++ with every present just isn’t worth the effort😅

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  10. Kinda sad I got here after the edit. Seems like it was a fun post!

    I’m terrible at gifts and usually default to the card/candles/plants/dinner that I think all women over a certain age like/tolerate. I love getting gifts for hobbies people have, but no one has any hobbies they’re passionate about. It’s depressing.

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      1. You can’t expect her to wait forever, V. After all, you’re not getting any younger, and men don’t grow on trees 😂😂

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      2. As a general rule, you probably shouldn’t make backhanded comments equating a female’s worth to their ability to reproduce. While I’m sure you’re trying to be sarcastic, it’s a sore spot, given that there are still so many men in this world who won’t offer promotions to women because of the chance that they could, maybe, potentially, one day consider having a child.

        Specific to me – I don’t intend on having kids.

        Specific to men – That’s probably a good thing.

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      3. I didn’t mean that. Not even remotely. At worst it was a biological clock joke, which is still definitely poor taste, and I very much apologize for it. But my parents and relatives always use that line on me, so it wasn’t intended as something gender specific at all.

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  11. Why is it so difficult to get gifts for people? I feel like I rarely get it right. It tortures me to the point that I often end up getting nothing because I can’t make a good enough decision. #poopourri

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