The relationship advice you didn’t ask for, don’t need and I’m dolling out anyway. Deal with it.

I’m in a mood. So, here goes:

If he doesn’t answer your phone calls, that’s a problem. I’m not talking a one off or a once in a while. I’m talking every call. Every single call. He ignores them only to call you back when he’s alone. There’s a reason he’s not answering your calls, whether he admits to it or not.

If he’s only willing to speak with you when he’s alone, that’s a problem. Is he trying to hide that he talks to you?

If you ask a simple question and he responds with anger, that’s a problem. Also a pretty good inclination you won’t be getting an answer from him.

If he inconspicuously disappears on weekends, that’s a problem.

If he has a million excuses as to why he cannot see you, but never any reasons why he can, that’s a problem.

If he says he’s going to show up and he doesn’t, that’s a problem.

If he says you’re being overdramatic when you ask him to spend more time with you, that’s a problem.

If he lashes out at your standing up for yourself, that’s a problem.

If he frequently gets angry enough that he doesn’t talk to you for days on end, that’s a problem.

If he lumps you in with ‘everyone else’ when he’s complaining, that’s a problem.

If he says he’s there for you, but he’s never really there for you, that’s a problem. A problem that you’ve likely heard 1,000 different excuses for.

If he doesn’t want you to know where he lives, that’s a BIG PROBLEM.

If he treats you like a customer, not his girlfriend, that’s a problem. You deserve to be with someone who’s proud of you and proud to be with you.

If he’s lied to you in the past, then gets angry with you for questioning him, that’s a problem. When trust is burned, it has to be earned back, and that doesn’t come with him intimidating you into accepting everything he says as word.

If he’s not willing to try, for you, that’s a problem. If he’s not willing to make an effort, for you, that’s a problem. If he gets angry with you for acknowledging that lack of effort, that’s a problem.

You deserve to be treated properly. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be an equal in a relationship. You deserve to be made to feel special. You deserve the moon, and a person who truly loves you would want to do everything in his power to give it to you. You deserve communication, and laughter, love and happiness. And if you keep running into problems, don’t let them slide, no matter how angry he might get.

Asking to be treated fairly is not a lot to ask for, and asking to be treated fairly should NEVER be an inconvenience. You’re not asking for yachts and diamonds and gold encrusted gifts. You’re asking for someone who answers their damn phone, and visits you when he says he’s going to, and tries to help make your life better.

19 thoughts on “The relationship advice you didn’t ask for, don’t need and I’m dolling out anyway. Deal with it.

  1. My ex boyfriend is like this… thank God I dumped his ass. So glad for the lessons I’ve learnt. I am are worth it, I am are worthy of love and appreciation. Now I’m in a better place and I’m loving it.

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    1. Oh, well if any of it resonates with you then I encourage you to remember your worth. I know it’s a cliche, but the saying ‘know your worth, then add tax’, is a good reminder to keep.

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  2. “Asking to be treated fairly is not a lot to ask for, and asking to be treated fairly should NEVER be an inconvenience.” Amen to that! We should never allow someone to treat us as lesser than, as if our existence is only for their convenience and disposal. There’s no love in that type of relationship.

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  3. If he won’t talk to you for days…this guy is trouble. He’s either got other stuff going on or he’s fucked up in his head. I knew someone like that. Stay far away. You deserve someone who is open and truthful and makes you feel special.

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