Please be kind. It’s a general rule for life, yes. But I find this time of year everyone seems to be stressed out and some people really don’t handle it well while in public. This is just a reminder that, instead of losing your cool on the poor cashier who didn’t cause the issue and can’t solve the issue, just be kind. Don’t yell at the Post Office Attendant because everyone in the world wants to mail something at the same time as you. Don’t walk out of the restaurant without tipping your waiter/waitress just because the kitchen was slow. That’s not your servers fault, everyone eats out this time of year. Also, please, please, please don’t harass, belittle or mistreat the gate attendants if you’re travelling. Hundreds of thousands, if not millions, are all trying to get somewhere for the holidays and they’re only trying to help. They cannot control plane maintenance, weather, where you’re sitting or where your bags end up. So please remember that when you embark on your travels.
Please be kind.
Practice patience. Be kind. Leave yourself a little extra time to get things done and the busy stores, restaurants and post offices won’t seem like as much of a hassle.
And, as a general rule of thumb, whenever you get the urge to be an asshole, stop yourself.
Instagram is a tricky beast. I love sharing photos and I love looking at photos, whether they’re of people, places or things, but I am also abundantly aware of how fake the platform is.
There are some incredibly creative people in this world, people who quite literally share their talents with the world thanks to Instagram. But, for the most part, the platform seems to be a beauty worshiping pit of vanity. So I have always been hesitant to share photos for fear of feeding the beast.
A few days ago I stumbled about an YouTube video made by someone from Vancouver who spent nearly 45 minutes going through her perfectly curated Instagram feed to talk the truth behind the beautiful photos and catchy captions she’d been posting for years.
With 2.1 million Instagram followers, hearing the truth behind her photos was actually quite shocking. As much as you know people aren’t truthful with their Instagram accounts, you tend to just envision people’s lives as perfect because… well because that’s what they want you to think. But her life, well it’s far from perfect. I was quite shocked about how far from perfect it was. But I found myself respecting her so much more after knowing the actual truth behind her photos.
I’ve decided that I’m going to start sharing some photos on Instagram and, in the comments, sharing two captions. Firstly, I’ll share the caption I would write if I were trying to make my life look perfect, and secondly I’ll share the reality of what was going on at that point in my life when I took the photo.
And, if anyone else wants to include this ‘Instagram vs Reality’ captions on their photos too, let me know and I’ll follow your Instagram.
Honestly, while I think my life is far from interesting, by any means, I do live in Canada and this entire country is basically the equivalent of a ‘Wish You Were Here’ postcard. So, I do have some pretty beautiful photos. But, as with all things in life, there’s two sides to every story…. Instagram versus Reality.
They really hurt. Sometimes words have the power to swing faster, hit harder and deliver a stunning blow stronger than any raised fists.
People think that they know everything about you based on what little they hear and they judge. People always judge.
My skin is getting increasingly thinner by the day and I’m having a harder and harder time dealing with the things that people say.
The other day, I was told that I’m abusive. I was told that I, the person who goes out of her way to make anyone and everyone happy no matter what it does to my state of being, am abusive.
I’ve been told that I’m lazy, stupid, jarringly out-of-touch with reality. I’ve been told that I don’t want a job because I’d rather sponge off my family than actually work. Trust me, I have heard it all.
And it bothers me. As much as I’d like to say that the words of other people don’t bug me, they do. It hurts to hear people who say they love you, say those things to you. It hurts to hear people who really don’t know you, say those things to you.
Sometimes I’ll say something. Sometimes I’ll fight back, stand up for myself, remind people to use their words wisely because the things they say can and will affect the people they say them to. But, a lot of times, I won’t. People think that’s me being a pushover. But really, it’s me understanding lot of times nothing I say will change their minds. Nothing that I could possibly say, no matter how calmed and reasoned or loud and intimidating I could say it, would make a damn difference.
When people make up their minds, most of the time logic has nothing to do with it. A lot of times, they think what they think and that’s the bottom line. And to those in this world who feel it’s appropriate to voice their judgments, put their harsh words on display, nothing is really going to change that.
Whether your mind is made up, or there’s room for change, all I ask of people is that they think about the things they’re saying before they say them.
Because words hurt.
And you haven’t the foggiest idea the power your words can hold over someone.
I think this is an important clarification to make. Just because I forgive you for something that is done to me, does not mean that I am going to forget what happened. I’m going to protect myself. I’m going to take proactive measures to ensure that it doesn’t happen again.
Don’t just expect me to let my guard down. Don’t just expect to me to pretend all is good and dandy. Just because I’ve forgiven you does not mean that you’re automatically entitled to the same level of trust that you had before.
Fool me once… I’m going to take some serious precautions about the way I live my life to ensure that it’s never happening again.
*Please note that I am not trying to single out any one particular person in this post. This is not an individual problem, this is a societal problem. We all need to be aware of it and we all need to do better.The above photo was just one I took from google. I googled “PR Unboxing” and this was one of the first photos that came up.Honestly though, there are hundreds of images on google and videos on YouTube just like this.
In recent years, the effects of Fast Fashion on our earth has really come to light. With newscasts, documentary series’, hundreds of youtube videos and books on the subject, we’re becoming an educated society on something that is extremely harmful.
Even so, there are still hundreds, if not thousands, of people on youtube, using their influence to post ‘hauls’ on a daily basis. These hauls showcase clothes that are new and trendy for this season and they’ll likely get worn once(if that) and stay in the back of their massive closet screaming over-consumption from the depths of the untidyness.
We know the issues, we know the environmental impact, and we still do it anyway.
Something that people don’t talk about as often, if at all, however, is fast makeup. And honestly, THIS IS A PROBLEM.
If you walk into any drugstore this time of year, browse the aisles of Sephora or Ulta, Nordstrom or any other store that sells cosmetics, you’re going to be bombarded with ‘Special’ and ‘Limited Edition’ sets and individual pieces of makeup that are ‘only here for the holiday season’. A lot of the products aren’t even new, they’re just packaged together in a ‘Limited Edition Set’. And even if they are limited edition, don’t buy them anyway. What are you going to enjoy them for a couple of months and then never get to buy or see them every again?
Thing is, the exact same thing is going to happen for Valentine’s Day, for Spring Break, for Summer, and so on and so forth. It’s a cycle. Companies release ‘Limited Edition’ makeup at various points throughout the year, convincing consumers to purchase these items because they’re a hot commodity due to their ‘Limited Edition’ status, and what we wind up with is hundreds, if not thousands, if not millions of females(and men) around the world with more makeup than could ever possibly used.
The Youtube ‘Beauty Community’ is a perfect example of this. ‘Beauty Gurus’ as they’re reffered to, have entire rooms of their home dedicated to the collection and hoarding of makeup. Makeup they might try once, makeup they’ll never wear, makeup that is still in it’s store protected packaging because they have so damn much they’ll never get to it, makeup they’ve only swatched once and lots and lots and LOTS of makeup that is expired.
Because, that’s right, makeup does expire.
Every time I look at a Beauty Guru’s makeup room, I can’t help but wonder just how much of it has expired.
And please don’t be fooled into thinking that this is just the Beauty Gurus of youtube who have rooms like this. Women and men all over the world have entire rooms dedicated to their makeup collections who you won’t ever see in a youtube video.
It’s a problem.
Why does any one person need 50 eye shadow palettes? Actually, why does any one person need five eye shadow palettes? You only have two eyes. How often are you possibly using all five of them?
Why does any one person need a ‘highlighter collection’? How many highlighters could you possibly put on your face at one time? How many highlighters in that drawer of yours aren’t even being touched but are just being kept for clout, or because it looks pretty to have a collection?
The problem here isn’t just the makeup and it’s not just on the hook of the individual consumers. It’s at the fault of companies as well.
A certain beauty influencer just released a collection of highlighters as a part of her ‘Cosmetic Line’. You might recollect that she’s the same person this year who sold her YouTube audience hairy, moldy, scratchy lipsticks and never refunded people for their purchases. Well, this collection of highlighters she released, there’s 18 highlighters and three brushes all being sold at egregious costs. Just as makeup companies do, she’s released a PR package, sent to all of the richest, most popular beauty gurus (who definitely don’t need anymore highlighters and who absolutely have the money to afford them) to review on their channels and give her HYPE.
The thing that really pisses me off is, this PR package she’s sending out, it’s 90 percent packaging and 10 percent product. Not only that, but it’s filled with glitter and plastic, cardboard and polystyrene. The entire mixture of the package is going to make it difficult, if not impossible, to recycle.
*Tidbit – For those of you who aren’t aware, in order for things to be recycled, they need to be broken down into like pieces. So, for example, pop bottles have to have their caps and labels removed before they can be recycled. They can’t just be thrown into the recycling compactor together as there are three separate materials to a pop bottle. It simply isn’t recyclable unless it’s separated into its components.
Trying to recycle that package, someone would need to painstakingly remove all of the glitter, separate out the plastic from the cardboard, the polystyrene from the ribbons, etc… etc…
Now, this package is just one example of thousands upon thousands of PR packages being sent out, by companies, to these wealthy Youtubers, actresses, actors and people of Influence as a means to try and sway us to buy their products. And all of these packages, they’re problems. Not only are they packages of products that we likely all already have in our makeup collection, but they’re packaged in such a way that I’m lead to believe there’s no chance the materials will get recycled.
Companies are increasingly releasing vast amounts of limited edition products, and products that aren’t labeled as limited edition but that they still don’t intend to sell long term. They’re trying to stay hip, top of the market and on consumers minds at all times. In the process, they’re creating an environmental impact that we just can’t come back from.
A pressed powder alone contains a cotton puff, mirror, plastic casing, metal pan, the makeup and ink. Could it be recycled? Sure. Is it going to take a hell of a lot of work to separate and break down those materials for recycling? Absolutely.
I don’t want to make people feel guilty about purchasing makeup. I love makeup. I love wearing makeup. I just want people to be aware about their makeup purchasing options, so they can make smarter decisions.
So how can you make smarter decisions when purchasing makeup?
Don’t purchase limited edition products. When you do, you’re supporting a piece of the industry that is wasteful, harmful to the environment and that’s sole purpose is to gain as much money as possible as quickly as possible. Companies are trying to dupe you out of your money.
Purchase products that are regular staples to the makeup shelves. Something like the Maybelline ‘Fit Me’ concealer has been on makeup shelves around the world for years, is a staple product for anyone’s makeup and comes with minimal packaging.
Stop purchasing products made by beauty influencers. They’re not interested in the environment. They’re not interested in you. They’re interested in lining their pockets. These products are brought to market in enough of a quantity to make them millions and then are never to be heard of or seen again. I have nothing against the game, nor the hustle, but unless they’re going to start showing their products are being made in an environmentally conscious manner with environmentally conscious packaging then they’re only adding to the problem big cosmetic companies have created.
Don’t purchase makeup products with egregious packaging. You can tell when you look at the shelves in stores that certain products have way more packaging than necessary. Play by the rule that if the packaging is not necessary for sale, the product isn’t necessary for your use.
Consider only purchasing one or two of a product. You don’t need five foundations, or eye shadow pallets or lipsticks. If everyone cuts down on their individual consumption, sales might go down overall and the companies might take a hint as to their production schedules.
If you see something that’s unnecessary or egregious on shelves, tell the company. It’s true, one person’s word to a multi-million dollar company might not have a lot of sway. But, if we all come forward with comments about egregious packaging, unnecessary products or straight up stupid marketing, then maybe the companies will listen.
Bring up these suggestions to your friends in a positive manner. A lot of times when you talk about things like this with friends, they can take offense to it or feel attacked. I know that it’s not always easy to find the right medium to have these conversations, but they’re important conversations to have. The more we make people aware of the problems with fast makeup, the more of a chance we have to limit it.
If you are a beauty guru or beauty influencer, stop accepting PR unless the company can prove the package is minimal or recyclable. I know that it sounds crazy, turning down free things. But, do you really need it to start with? Yeah, it might be cool to have but when these PR packages are being sent by companies, they’re a huge part of the problem. Send them a message. Let them know that unless they change their ways, you’re not going to promote, or use, their products.
I really think that it’s time we all start having more conversations about the harm of fast makeup on our environment.
If we can all collectively agree of the harms that fast fashion brings, I bet people could easily see just how harsh the fast makeup industry is on our environment, and our wallets (for that matter).
My incredible best friend sent me a Sephora gift card for my birthday. Naturally, since I love all things Sephora, I had to place an order right away to take advantage of their annual sale.
I ordered the Drunk Elephant ‘Midi Committee’ kit, used my gift card and was told that it would be to my house in 7-9 business days.
The package ended up getting to my house a lot quicker than expected, and what I got in the package I was less than impressed with it.
The Drunk Elephant ‘Midi Committee’ is a collection of travel size, and smaller than travel size, skincare items. There are five in total. As one could imagine, the products are small and don’t take up a lot of space.
The packaging, on the other hand, was over-the-top, and absolutely unnecessary.
I consider myself a very environmentally conscious person. I don’t speak about it always, but I do try to make my friends and family members more aware of the choices they’re making. I don’t use plastic bags, plastic straws, I try to limit my waste, try to recycle as much as possible. I want to be good to the planet. As good as I can be.
I’m a firm believer that small changes every day can make the difference. I also believe that if everyone made small changes every day we could collectively make one hell of an impact on the earth.
I don’t believe that it’s just individuals responsible for making these changes. Companies should be doing it to.
While I don’t use plastic bags, only use stainless steel straws, try to limit the amount of trash I am creating and overall just try to be good to the planet, it really disheartens me to see companies like Sephora and Drunk Elephant putting so damn much packaging on such small products.
The trial sized Drunk Elephant products came in plastic molding that was inside of a box, that was inside of a plastic/cardboard mixed wrapping that had branding on it, that was inside of the white box, that was inside of the Sephora box that was filled with brown paper because the Sephora box was so damn big it was easily 5-6 times the size of the Drunk Elephant packaging.
I’m not impressed.
Firstly – if my order alone had this much packaging to it, think of how much truly unnecessary packaging is shipped out of Sephora’s facilities each and every day to fill the thousands of orders they get. Are all of those thousands of people going to recycle or reuse the packaging? How much of that excess packaging is going to wind up in a landfill?
Secondly – With respect to Drunk Elephant, there is absolutely zero need to have products in plastic, in a box, in a plastic/cardboard wrapper, in another box. If Drunk Elephant has this much packaging on one kit, I can’t imagine how much packaging the rest of their skincare line has.
As a planet, we’re quite literally in the middle of an environmental crisis and WE ALL need to do our parts. Even companies. We all need to limit packaging, cut down our waste and make a difference. The onus cannot be put solely on consumers because we’ll be fighting a losing battle if we try to make changes and companies are still pulling this shit.
A friend of mine said this to me the other day. I’m not really sure how I feel about it. After I was dropped from that job in July that would have seen me make decent money from writing, I’m beginning to wonder.
What are your thoughts? Is there money in writing? Can you sustain yourself in an industry that seems to be somewhat on its way out? Or will there always need to be some sort of a catch?