There will always be bad people in this world.

The fact of the matter is, no amount of effort put forth will eliminate the evil in this world. All that we can and should do is try to lead by example.

There will always be bullies, there will always be keyboard warriors and there will always be those who thinks that their wealth or privilege allows them a right to treat others poorly. There will always be crime and people will always be innocent victims because of that.

We need not be evil though.

When you’re trying to justify horrible behaviour, don’t. You’re better than that. When you’re thinking that revenge is the right answer, it’s not. You’re smarter than that. If someone tells you that vengeance is the answer, tell them they’re wrong. A temporary solution to a permanent problem is going to give you nothing more than an empty feeling in your heart.

Be good. Do good. Lead by example.

‘Be the change you want to see in the world.’ I hear this quote recited a lot, but I think people often forget about the message it conveys when they get angry. When in reality, it should remain applicable regardless of what happens.

Be the change. Don’t tell me that because bad people will always exist that you don’t need to be good. That your goodness couldn’t possibly matter. That shows weakness and lack of character. Are you either of those things? I don’t think so.

Goodness matters, every day. Kindness matters, every day. Be the change. Lead by example and let the bad people, the bullies and the idiots self-destruct with their own… because you know they will.

I want to talk about faults.

Because I have a lot of them. And I’m a firm believer that, in this life, if you own who you are (both the good and the bad) that is how you lead a fulfilled life. Being self-aware is also a means to get better.

When I talk about my faults, I don’t do it to be self-deprecating. I don’t do it for pity, or for people to feel sorry for me. I do it because I have a keen understanding of who I am and I do not believe that you can work past your faults or through your struggles if you do not own them. And I want to bet a better person.

  • I get angry easily. In life, in traffic, in line at the grocery store… and it’s not always easy for me to let it go.
  • I have a hard time forgiving. And I never forget. Things tend to haunt me, rather than me being able to move on.
  • I’m cranky sometimes. Actually, if you talked to any of my exes, they’d probably tell you it’s more than sometimes.
  • I’m a bit of a pushover. I have a hard time standing up for myself. A lot of the time I just say it’s not worth it, and as a result, people tend to treat me like shit. Which is probably a big contributor to my low self-esteem.
  • I swear far too much. Sometimes I can help it and sometimes I cannot. But either way, I’m aware of how often I swear. And I get really angry at myself when I do it front of kids.
  • I’m insecure about a lot of things. My intelligence, my appearance, my ability… to name a couple of things.
  • I like things to be my way. And I don’t always handle it well if I don’t get my way. Again, my exes could probably attest to this.
  • I let my social anxiety keep me from experiencing the things in life I dream of doing.
  • I don’t trust. But I am also too trusting at the same time.
  • I shop too much. I think that things will fulfill me when I know that’s not the case. But alas, here I am with all of these things that don’t bring me the happiness I am looking for. And, in the grand scheme of things, I don’t have all that much. Knowing that almost makes me more sad.
  • I use the faults and the hardships of others to boost my own confidence. And that makes me a shitty fucking person.

Growth. while it has always been something I’ve sought, is something that’s become more important to me this year than ever before. I want to be better. I want to work through my faults to become a better person – the best person that I can be.

My inherent flaws have become abundantly clear to me to the point that I can no longer avoid them.

I need to be better. Perhaps if I tell more people about it, I’ll be more inclined to make changes in my life to actually be better and not just talk about it…

Simple ways that you can be a better person today.

I’m a firm believer that if you take small steps every single day, you can be a better person with each day that passes. It doesn’t take much… it really doesn’t. There are no grand gestures needed, no shows to put on for attention. It’s just a matter of making select choices to make your life better and make the lives of others better.

Here’s a few small things you can do to be a better person:

  1. Tell someone you love them. Whether it a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, mother, father, brother, sister, daughter, son… whoever it might be, just tell them you love them. We all need to hear it once in a while.
  2. Hold the door open for someone. It’s a small gesture, but it means a whole lot.
  3. Use your manners. They cost nothing, but mean a whole lot. Please, thank you and have a nice day can make a difference between someone having a shit day and someone having hope in the human race.
  4. Offer a compliment to a stranger. Everyone’s just trying to get by and kindness from a stranger can go a long way in this crazy world.
  5. Be honest. Stop lying to people. Show them that you respect them enough to tell them the truth.
  6. Listen. Listen. Listen. Sometimes, being an ear for someone to talk to is the best thing you can do for a person. You don’t even have to talk at all, sometimes all someone needs is just to be heard.
  7. Help. Whether it’s giving up your seat to an elderly person, helping someone carry their groceries, or corralling a runaway toddler, a little bit of help that takes virtually no time out of your day can make a world of difference.
  8. Be yourself. The world doesn’t benefit from your playing small to fit in. Be who you are, who you want to be, who you dream of being. Project your best self and you can be your best self.
  9. Be respectful. You can disagree with someone without being an asshole. You can appreciate the time someone takes, even if it isn’t of benefit to you.
  10. Educate yourself. Learn. Learn what you can. Learn all that you can. Knowledge is power and spewing opinions and misinformation because you aren’t up to date on the current situations of the world, it doesn’t benefit everyone. If your thoughts, opinions and words are factually based, that’s one thing . But if you’re just spouting regurgitated talking points, stop… educate yourself, then try again.
  11. Make someone smile. I’m a firm believer that a smile is the best, and cheapest, gift that you can give someone. And, since you never really know what someone is going through, giving them a smile at the least is a great addition to their day and can often mean so much more than you could ever imagine.
  12. Let go of anger. It’s not doing you any good. It’s not doing the person you’re angry at any good. Just drop it. You’ll feel better when you do.
  13. Try to assume the best in others.

Snarky Snippet

Photo: Paul Ekman Group

***The idea for this post came from my reading of the blog Filosofa’s World. (I love her blog by the way. If you haven’t checked it out, you should)

The leader of the Conservative Party of Canada (the ‘Official Opposition’ as he refers to himself as) has been caught in a lie about what he did as a career before entering politics.

Colour me shocked. Colour me surprised. Never did I ever think that he could tell a lie. (Hey, that almost rhymed)

In true fashion of what is his personality (a pathalogical liar, in case anyone is curious), he refuses to acknowledge the lie, or apologize for continuing the lie for the past umpteen years. Instead, he’s trying to ‘spin’ the story to make it sound as though he never lied to start with. Doubling down and tripling down in an effort to bury the lead.

Sound like anyone else we know? (Possibly someone south of the border?)

In the province of Saskatchewan, you are required to pass licensing in order to be an Insurance Broker. This is a law that is in place specifically to keep citizens from getting swindled by people claiming to be Insurance Brokers who are not. For the record, it is against the law to claim to be an Insurance Broker if you have not completed licensing.

In claiming that he was an Insurance Broker when he was not, it is 1) Clearly a lie, 2) Against the law to misrepresent himself as such.

Is this a big lie? No. Is he being an idiot in his response? Absolutely. He’s single-handedly pissed off everyone who has gone through the time trouble and effort to get legal licensing to be an Insurance Broker in Saskatchewan and followed the law to maintain their right to do their job. He’s also single-handedly pissed off everyone who works as a clerk, both in the insurance industry and in other industries because his falsities carry the notion that being a clerk isn’t a reputable enough career… that he’s too good to be a clerk. In still refusing to acknowledge that he was a clerk he’s underhandedly telling the clerks in this country that they’re not good enough.

For reference, a clerk is a really good job. It’s a reliable job, it’s important work and it’s a great, steady, sturdy career.

Am I shocked that he lied? No.

Am I shocked that he refuses to apologize for such a stupid lie? No.

Do I think more lies will come out over the next 21 days prior to Canadians heading to the polls? It’s more than likely.

I’ve already shared my thoughts on the man (here). What I will say at this point is, if he’s willing to lie about something so little and so stupid, and refuses to acknowledge this lie (or apologize), imagine what the sheer extent of possibilities he could lie about if elected?

I’ll leave it there.

Fun Facts on a Sunday

Because you never know when you’re going to play your next game of Trivial Pursuit, or… Jeopardy.

A single strand of spaghetti is called a spaghetto.

The hyoid bone (‘U’ shaped bone in the anterior midline of the neck) got its name from the Greek word ‘Hyoidese’, which loosely translates to ‘shaped like the letter upsilon’ (the Greek ‘U’).

There are only two United States Capitals that have a letter ‘U’ in them. These States are New Mexico (Albuquerque) and Hawaii (Honolulu).

Chicago is not known as ‘The Windy City’ because of the weather, but rather, it’s a nickname that came about from Journalists perpetuating the notion that people within the city are ‘Windbags’ or… full of hot air and of no substance. Primarily they were referring to politicians and people of prominent wealth in the city who had a fair amount of sway in city legislation, but over time the name just stuck.

Blue whales have a heart that’s roughly the size of a small car. Their hearts beat at a rate of 8-10 beats per minute and can be heard from up to two miles away.

The breakthrough that is Penicillin (and subsequently all antibiotics) was invented on sheer accident by Alexander Fleming in 1928. After leaving a petri dish out in his lab, he returned to discover that some of the liquid around the mold had killed bacteria in the petri dish. And this is how antibiotics came to be. A scientific breakthrough for all mankind made on complete accident.

A group of ravens is called an ‘Unkindness’. A group of crows is called a ‘murder’.

It takes roughly 700 grapes to make one bottle of wine.

It’s a habit of the highly intelligent to be annoyed by virtually everyone around them, but also, to never say anything about it because they’re smart enough to avoid pointless arguments.

The world’s most expensive handbag is a Birkin bag, purchased for 500,000 USD by a professional gambler from Las Vegas. He uses it to pick up women in clubs and bars. $500,000 for a single bag is a long way for the Birkin roots, which were oringially designed and created to be a diaper bag.

Swedish meatballs actually originated in Turkey but were made famous by King Charles XII in the early 1800’s.

Unpopular opinions… or just opinions. Unsure what to call this.

Firstly, I don’t really think that unpopular opinions are actually unpopular. I just think these opinions are things people might be afraid to say. But I’m sharing this list because I hate when I read unpopular opinions and people are all: coffee isn’t good. Girl, everyone knows coffee isn’t good. We just drink it anyways because caffeine gets us through the day. Also, that’s why there’s 50 million different flavours of coffee… to try and make it less awful.

Being vegan or vegetarian does not automatically make you a healthy person. There are plenty of people in this world who are vegans and vegetarians who eat some really unhealthy shit. Just because they eat more vegetables than those who eat meat, doesn’t necessarily mean they’re healthy.

When people say that self care is lighting a candle and having a bath, they’re devaluing the struggles people go through to just be alive. Good hygiene is important, yes. But self care is something that goes far deeper than lighting the latest scented candle from Bath & Body Works and putting a bath bomb in the tub. Besides that, who wants glitter in their vagina?

People who partake in cancel culture are idiots. If someone continues to show you time and time and time again that they’re a shiteous person, why are you waiting until they’re being publicly ‘cancelled’ before you decide you don’t like them? You’ve always known who they were. All you’re doing is showing you’re a petty little follower trying to be one of the popular crowd in a high-schoolesque clique that is the internet.

The second amendment needs to be deleted. I’m not sure if this is unpopular or if a lot of people are just afraid to say it… but following a constitution that was written in 1791 and believing it to be the best thing for a civilization in 2019 is idiotic and showcases a governmental system that is failing its citizens.. It also shows that the US government lacks backbone because they’re unwilling to make a decision that might upset those who hold the ‘purse strings’ as far as donations go. It doesn’t need to be amended, it needs to be deleted.

If women did half the shit that men get away with every day, there would be an uprising. Men get away with A LOT of shit. No woman could do what Billy Bush did and get hired to be back on TV again, whilst claiming to be a victim. Bill Maher screaming that fat-shaming should come back in style? If a woman said that, she’d be fired. Men expect women to be ‘dormant’ while they run around making idiotic decisions and doing stupid shit just waiting for us to let it go and let them have their jobs back or keep their jobs.

Just because you say it does not mean that people will read it. Just because you say it does not mean that it’s good, or smart, or even remotely worthy of attention. More than half the planet now has access to the internet and is sharing their artwork, writing and talents online. If you think you’re special, you’re not. You’re a small fish in a big ole pond.

People who use religion to claim moral high-ground are the ones with the most skeletons in their closet. And I don’t think this is a coincidence. It’s one thing to follow a religion, which everyone has the right to do, but it’s something completely different to push your religion on someone else. And those that do, typically tend to be those with the most secrets they’re trying to hide.

Getting presents sucks. It reminds me of how little people actually know about me. I know, I know, I know, it’s the thought that counts. But I’d rather you take the time to get to know me and never buy me a present than ignore me but remember to give me a present on my birthday.

If a parent isn’t parenting their child in public, I should be able to. If a kid is pulling clothing off the shelf and dropping it on the floor, knocking over racks and laughing and the parent is nowhere in sight, I should damn well be able to scream at the kid for being a fucking moron and remind them what is and isn’t acceptable behaviour in public… because their parent clearly doesn’t give a damn.

None of the Hemsworth brothers are really that good of actors. I just think they’re famous because they’re attracive. And let’s face it…prettier people do have it easier in life.

If anyone reads this and wants to share their unpopular opinions, or just opinions, with me… please do! Also, please remember that you can completely disagree with everything someone believes and still respect them. So… be kind. The world has enough assholes in it already.