#MillennialCommandments

  1. Thou shalt not take advantage of thy parents basement.
  2. Thou shalt not skip an opportunity to have avocado toast.
  3. Thou shalt use the terms ‘hella’, ‘yaaas’, ‘AF’ and ‘salty’ as frequently as possible.
  4. Thou shalt never know how to properly do one’s taxes.
  5. Thou shalt always allow the desire to stay home alone win out over the desire to go out with friends.
  6. Thou shalt always remember the life lessons of Doug, Daria, The Fresh Prince, Uncle Jesse and the Rugrats.
  7. Thou shalt leap before looking because the best things in life come from a willingness to try anything at least once.
  8. Thou shalt continue allowing Baby Boomers and Gen X believe that we know nothing about politics because it’s far easier to not argue antiquated practices with someone unwilling to change or see a new perspective.
  9. Thou shalt work for for little to no money at all because ‘experience is something money can’t give you, kid’.
  10. Thou shalt run this world one day… rebounding the economy, the education system and the government from whatever the fuck is happening right now.

Saw this trending today on Twitter. Anyone have any #MillennialCommandments to add?

Things I wish I knew when I was 22

  1. It’s not the end of the world. Yes, things sucked. Debt is not fun. Having shitty people in your life is also not fun. Realizing that the bull shit you thought you were going to be done with when you finally find your place in this world is a fact of life. But, at the end of the day, you’re still going to wake up tomorrow and put one foot in front of the other. Move on, don’t forget, just look past it.
  2. DON’T EVER SETTLE. The moment you do, you’ll end up with so much less than you ever settled for. You are important. Yes You. And don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise. If you want to run a marathon – instead of listening to someone tell you why you can’t, put your running shoes on and get to training. If you want to be a doctor, you better be willing to study. If you’re going to be President, you better want to be president. Barack Obama didn’t just wake up in the Whitehouse. How many people told him it was never going to happen? He didn’t give a damn and neither should you.
  3. Just because you don’t talk to them for long periods of time, doesn’t mean they’re any less of a friend. Shit, life happens. You know that better than anyone, so don’t go holding it against the people in your life when they get busy.
  4. If you let the bad stuff matter more, you’ll never be happy. Heartbreak and loss, destructive insecurities… they’re the inevitable facts of life that catch up with everyone eventually. When you don’t have a reason to be happy, give yourself a reason to be happy. Just as much as you want to be happy, the people in your life want you to be happy too. So go get a pedicure, walk in the rain, buy a puppy… whether the reason small or large, give yourself a reason to smile. You deserve it.
  5. Remember to laugh. Remember to cry. Remember you’re only human. As much as it might suck to feel vulnerable, strength comes when you discover your weaknesses and overcome them. Laugh a lot, cry a little and learn your lessons. Repeat.
  6. Go easy on yourself. Everyone and their dog can say “I’m my own biggest critic” because we’re always aware of our biggest flaws and greatest insecurities. Thing is, even the harshest critics in the world take a day off once in a while. If they don’t that negativity will take over who they are. Are you going to let it take over your life?
  7. Play the lottery. Lightning isn’t supposed to strike twice, but it does. The underdog isn’t supposed to win, that doesn’t stop them from it. Not asking is worse than asking and getting a no. Not playing lessens your odds a whole lot more than buying a ticket. You never know when your windfall will come. Open your arms and let it.
  8. Work. Work hard. Work your ass off. “C’s may get degrees” but in all honesty, what reason do you have for not doing your best? Laziness is a demon that will eat away at you if you let it. Be the best version of yourself. Work, work, and work. Each time you do something, strive for a higher achievement. You don’t know what you’re capable of until you get there, so work your ass of and get there.
  9. Rome wasn’t built in a day. As much as it’s become common place to say, it still isn’t really understood properly. Change is not an overnight occurrence. You won’t wake up tomorrow and be a completely different person. It’s a much slower, much smaller process than that. Don’t expect yourself to change, allow yourself to change. One day you’ll look back and see how far you’ve come and wonder how you ever were that person.

A note to self.

Listen to me: It is okay to be a mess. 

It’s okay to have thick thighs and lots of questions and crumbs in your bra. It is completely alright to fall too hard, to feel too much and to overthink everything. 

You can be too scared to move out of the place that you hate, you can be too stubborn to ask for the help you need and you can be too shy to make a move, hang on a little longer or hear those words. 

Do not tell yourself to be to be quiet. Do not tell yourself that you’re too wild, too forgetful, too stupid or not good enough. You need not sit and wait and do as they please. 

Be sharp and shy, and a lazy bum in your bed every weekend. Be thoughtful, and sentimental but never regretful. Be the kind of person that looks herself in the mirror to see the good, not the bad. 

May that cackle remind you the sun will come out tomorrow and may that kindness remind you that even when they don’t deserve it, you will be bigger, better, not once second guessing that choice. May that pocket-full of sarcasm guide you through the worst of days and brighten the best of days.

You are a complex creature with a pinch of this and that, pastels and petals. There will always be more layers than meets the eye, for you are not one thing, but a whole fucking gallery of complexities, conundrums, insanity and happy.

It’s completely abnormal to be abstract and absurd, barely there and all-in at the exact same time. And you, you do it well. It’s what you are. So alive it makes your eyes water, your lip twitch and your heart beat.

So hear me when I say this, because I want you to really listen to me. It’s okay to be a mess. Be exactly what you need to be, and want to be. It will always be good enough.

Late night thoughts: My mind won’t shut off.

It’s easier to do math with a calculator than it is to try and do it in your head. It’s easier to listen to audiobooks on your electronic device than it is to actually sit and read a book. It’s easier to drive to the store than it is to walk. It’s easier to assume the worst than to put your trust in someone, even if that someone is someone that you love. It’s easier to judge someone for who they ‘appear’ to be rather than who they actually are. It’s easier to go along with everything then it is to stand up for something you believe, even if it isn’t something most people do. 

Society chooses to do a lot of things the easier way. Why? Laziness? Or convenience, I guess. It’s convenient to bust out the calculator rather than trying to multiple 70×70 for most people on their own. So, if you don’t have to then why would you?

I’ll tell you what though, this restless mind of mine cant ever accept anything as is. I can’t help but believe there’s a time when convenience crosses into an inability to do anything for ourselves. Sure, technology is great. GPS relieves a lot of headaches. But there are people in this world who are driving that still can’t read road signs. Calculators are great; they’ve given us the assistance to solve many of the universe’s greatest questions, but the amount of people in this world who can’t do simple math in their head is alarming. Just about a week ago now I had a cashier whose register was broken and she needed to pull out a calculator to do $3.00 – .32 cents. 68 cents lady. It’s $2.68.

There’s a lot of talk. Everybody’s got words. But the lack of actions, that’s something that bothers me. So many are so quick to judge the homeless man as a ‘dirty rotten scoundrel’ who is clearly unintelligent and brought his situation on himself. Because believing that what is expected, what is believed of him to be, that is far easier than actually getting to know that he’s a war veteran with a masters degree who, thanks to situations beyond his control, lost a whole lot more than his belief that people will see the better in him. Believing the dirty rotten scoundrel of it all is so much easier than actually having to care… to take notice, and to be forced to think about what actually happens in this world.

All I’m saying is that sometimes a little math is good for the mind, and, a little truth is good for the soul. Reading books is not for punishment, but rather for expanding your horizons of what you ever believed possible. Questioning is never a negative, and getting to know someone is always a positive. Even if it’s just to learn who you don’t want as a part of your life, everyone’s got a story to tell. Convenience is great but sometimes it’s nice to take the road less traveled. 

You don’t always have to take the easy way out.

Day 29: A rant.

There’s something that happens whenever I speak about the very real issues of inequality – things like sexism, classism, racism and pay gaps. 

I’m met with responses such as: “Don’t be ridiculous!” or “Why are you making problems where there aren’t any?”

Every time. And every single time, I get frustrated. How do they not get it? Why don’t they care?

I honestly believe that they just don’t know any better. I think we’ve reached a point in society where it’s inequality has become so prominent that we don’t even realize it’s happening when we see it happening. We downplay it, we minimize it, and we overlook it. And why?

Now, to preface this, I grew up in a very middle-class comfortable white family. By many, many, many accounts I have had a lot of privileges in life. I’m not trying to cry foul, I am merely trying to shine a light on the fact that as a society, women are largely undervalued in a world dominated by ‘boys-club’ mentality.

When women speak the very real truth that we’re underpaid and undervalued for the things that we do in the workplace, we’re mocked. Or ignored. Or, in a lot of instances, we’re even called liars. And why?

Heaven forbid we stand up for ourselves. Heaven forbid we point out the very reality that we’ve come to face every day in society. The reality that we, for the most part, quietly, humbly, and politely accept. We’re taught to. We’re told to. From a very young age it’s instinctively drilled into our minds that this simply the way the world works and trying to fight it, or change it, is going to be a waste of our efforts.

It doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel right. And it most definitely doesn’t feel fair. 

But maybe they just don’t know? Perhaps they aren’t aware that a male and a female doing the same job have salary differences in the upwards of tens of thousands of dollars per year. Perhaps they don’t know measure education, work-experience and skill-sets when setting these salaries. Perhaps it was just a lottery and he won the larger salary.

Maybe they honestly believe that calling us ‘gold-diggers’ is a fair assessment to make when we seek financial assistance in raising children.

Maybe they simply think that they bring more value to this world. 

They most certainly don’t believe they’re doing anything wrong when they insult each other in ways that demean the female gender. “Don’t be such a pussy”, I’ve heard said more times than I would ever like to admit to. You throw like girl. You’re such a little bitch. Sissy-boy. And the list goes on…

They don’t see it when we clench our jaw, force a smile, and continue on as to not ‘cause a scene’.They don’t know how often it happens. So often that it’s become routine to ‘grin and bear it’.

And heaven forbid we stand up for ourselves. Heaven forbid we raise very valid points that treatment of that nature is not fair, not right and not called for. Being labelled as a “difficult woman” is not a title that simply fades away with time.

This isn’t a new way to view the world. It’s always been happening. As female we’re taught from a young age how to do this. How to stand down. How to not cause a scene. So much so that we often don’t realize we’re doing it anymore. We’ve taught ourselves to be masters of de-escalation. To treat it as though it’s not happening; to be grateful for the mere fact that we have a job at all; to accept every name called, every insult heard, every insecurity showcased as a fact of life.

That’s the reality of being female. 

At my former place of employment my boss was married to a doctor. A very highly respected, hard working, incredibly talented doctor. Though she had more education, more skills and was far superior to him in intelligence measures, he weaseled his way into a high-paying job where he got to treat people like crap. His wife’s salary was 20,000 less per year than his and he never let her forget that. It almost seemed as though it was priority in life to demean and demoralize his wife for not contributing in the way that he did to their shared expenses.

My best friend’s ex-husband, without an education, works a job that pays him more than 100,000 dollars per year more than his ex-wife. His ex-wife that he, on regular occasion, referred to as a ‘free-loader- whilst she stayed home during the first year of each of her two young-children’s lives. His ex-wife, who he then referred to as selfish for not wanting to be with her kids, when she attended nursing school to help establish her career. His ex-wife whom which he now refers to as a ‘gold-digger’ on any of the rare occasions in which she has asked him to contribute towards hockey registration fees, or dance class fees.

These are just stories at top of mind. These are just people. And it’s not just in the people that I know. It’s everywhere.

It’s in the hallway of the office, any office, where I hear a male coworker to tell one of his counterparts to ‘stop pms’ing’.

It’s in the hockey arena, when the coach shouts that a ‘Dumb Bitch’ isn’t qualified to officiate his team’s hockey game. Because she’s female, she can’t possibly know enough about hockey to be qualified. Is that what we’re supposed to believe, coach? Thank you for passing along this incredible messaging to the next generation.

It’s over the phone, when a complete stranger’s first words to me are ‘Oh, you sound like a hot line call girl’, only to further that with ‘That voice could get me through a lot of lonely nights’.

It’s everywhere and nowhere, all at the same time. 

It’s so frequent and prevalent that we pretend it doesn’t happen because often times it means requires a battle so time-consuming and recurring that it’s not something we can physically and mentally focus on.

When a woman asks to be treated fairly, do it. It’s not a lot to ask.

When a woman comments on the pay gap, don’t ignore her. Don’t devalue her. 

When a woman seeks help, don’t criticize her. Don’t diminish her self worth.

When a man doesn’t measure up to your standards, don’t insult him by demeaning women. Don’t insult him by demeaning anyone. Actually, don’t insult anyone. Negativity perpetuates negativity.

I guess all that I’m trying to explain with this really long-winded discussion is, be kind. Treat everyone with the respect that they deserve. Try to understand. Or, at the very least, try to listen. Don’t de-escalate. Appreciate. Value. Put a stop to the inequality, the bullshit and the unfairness. Put yourself in their shoes. Put them in your shoes. Remember that no one else in this world has had the advantages that you have.

Be fair. Create equality on your own. Perhaps others will follow suit. At the very least though, at the very possible least, you’re going to make the women in your life feel a whole lot better when you attempt to understand. And it doesn’t take a lot of effort.

So just fucking do it.

Travel Diaries: I left my heart in the Rocky Mountains.

There’s a song by Joe Walsh called Rocky Mountain Way. The first line of the song, ‘spent the last year Rocky Mountain way, couldn’t get much higher’, aptly describes my feelings towards this perfect part of the world.

I still remember the first time my parents took us into the mountains. Growing up with the pacific ocean just minutes from my front doorstep, I’d never experienced anything close to the majestic nature of the mountains before. And the Rocky Mountains, they’re like any other on earth.


I’d never seen anything so beautiful in my life. I remember sitting in the car getting lost in the views outside the window. Anywhere you turn. Everywhere you turn. Seeing snow in June. Seeing elk walking down the sidewalk as though they’re humans. Those four days will forever stand out in my mind as my favourite holiday ever taken with my family.


I have stood/sat at this lake shore in every season under every type of weather imaginable and it is always the most beautiful sight I have ever seen. That being said, Lake Louise definitely has a certain je ne sais quoi about it during the winter months.

Being able to walk out on the frozen lake and look back at the shore is an experience everyone should try in their lifetime. It’s something so small, but it means so much when you’re doing it. And, if you happen to catch Lake Louise in late January you can see some incredible ice sculptures built on the lake each year as a part of the Ice Magic Festival. Info here: https://www.banfflakelouise.com/ice-magic-festival

Things to do in Lake Louise:

  • Lake Louise. That’s it. Just go see it. You have to. Sit at the shore. Walk around the lake. Take the horse-drawn carriage. However you do it, just go.

If you carry on down the highway to Banff you will find the tourist mecca that is (quite possibly) the most known of Canadian town in the country of Australia. Banff caters to tourists. Amidst the big chain stores (that normally are only found in larger city centers) there are tiny little one-of-a-kind cafes and shops where you can truly find the spirit of the mountains.

Highlights of Banff:

  • The Rose and Crown – incredible food and has some really fantastic staff.
  • Banff Ave – This is the most photographed piece of Banff. Main street is worth the wander, just to see what kind of treasures you can find.
  • Mount Norquay – Head up Mount Norquay to see some incredible views of the town from above, and, of the landscapes surrounding Banff in the national park. Info here: https://banffnorquay.com/

Now, Canmore. Let’s talk about Canmore. Do you remember when you were a kid and your parents would read you storybooks about perfect tiny little towns where everyone knows everyone and everything is good? Those books were written about Canmore. Well, maybe not. But, if ever there were a town that could have served as motivation for those books, it would be Canmore, a tiny little town of dreams in the mountains.

When you wander into Starbucks you see the barista wearing a nametag that says “Songbird” and you’re quickly reminded of the slower pace of life that comes in small towns.

Don’t get me wrong. Canmore is a resort town. There are some incredibly breathtaking places to stay in Canmore. The thing that I love about Canmore so much more than Banff, though, is that it’s less touristy. It’s more home-y… if that makes sense. Everything seems to be within walking distance from you, and even if it isn’t, you want to walk anyways because the views are so breathtaking.

I love Canmore. I’ve been 15,000 times in the past six years. Okay, that’s an exaggeration, but truly, if I could have been 15,000 times, I probably would have. Take a hike, take a bike, see the galleries, eat the food, be at peace in this tiny little town in the Rockies.

Must see in Canmore:

  • The Drake Pub – Trust me, you won’t regret it.
  • Dogsledding – Do it. Epitomize what it means to be in winter. Info here: https://howlingdogtours.com/our-tours
  • Golfing – Stewart Creek Golf & Country Club is one of the most incredible courses I’ve ever had the privilege of golfing. If you’re a golfer and you visit in summer, check it out. Info here: http://www.stewartcreekgolf.com/