Daydreaming again…

Last year, I went on a trip for my birthday.

And, while I really, truly loved Las Vegas, the people that I went on the trip with were… less than stellar travel companions and it really took away from my trip. It really dragged me down. Here I was in one of the most exciting cities and I was dealing with two Debbie Downers who didn’t even really want to be there.

I really felt like I got robbed of the true experience, in a sense. And I’m not saying that for pity. I’m just saying that because… the trip, treating myself for my bithday, it was a big deal to me. I’d never done that before, so to have my first foray into Birthday travel be that crappy, I want a do-over.

I’m daydreaming right now. My birthday is coming up and I really don’t want to be here for it. I want to go somewhere. It doesn’t have to be far away. I just don’t want to be here. Where can I go, on a limited budget, that will allow me to enjoy myself and feel as though I’ve truly treated myself for my birthday? I know Vegas is out of contention for this year, but I’d love to just go somewhere. I just want to do something for me. I know that’s selfish, but that’s what I want.

My parents and brothers have been asking me what I want for my birthday and I’ve just been telling them money. I know you’re not supposed to request money from people, but honestly, even if they just gave me 20 bucks, that would be an extra 20 bucks I could put towards an adventure, right? They don’t understand why I want to go. I can’t understand why I’d want to stay. Alas, we’re at the crossroads that is myself and my family.

There’s a whole world out there… and I just want to see all of it. Right now, though? Daydreaming of an affordable Western Canada or Western USA destination that I could escape too for a weekend.

I’m open to suggestions… if anyone has any.

Happy Thanksgiving (Canada)

I’m thankful for the health of all my friends and family members,

I’m thankful the fire still burns inside of me, even if it only embers.

I’m thankful for my blessings, my good fortunes and my truths,

I’m thankful for being 30 and still having so much youth.

I’m thankful for my Sunday’s, for strangers and for friends,

I’m thankful for how he makes me feel and hoping this distance does soon end.

I’m thankful for the good music, the movies and tv,

I’m thankful for the people who can always see me for me.

I’m thankful for an opportunity to give and to change some minds,

I’m thankful that we’re all different, even if we’re the same kind.

I’m thankful for another holiday and a reminder of my privilege,

I’m thankful for for the welcome mat and that there’s always food in the fridge.

Thank you for this community and for all you’ve shared with me,

I’m grateful for the opportunity, and dreaming of all this place can be.

Happy Thanksgiving ❤

People who half-ass their way through life.

I know that I’m ranting but I don’t understand this mentality. I don’t understand why groups of people believe that paying the least amount of attention possible towards the tasks they need to do is a great outlook towards life. This notion that not caring is ‘the cool’ thing to do is silly.

If you’re going to do something, you need to put your full effort forward. If you’re not going to put your full effort into it, why the hell are you even bothering to do it?

I hate sayings like ‘C’s get Degrees’ and ‘Any effort is good effort’ because these catch phrases promote the notion that if you apply only half, or a third or even less of your capabilities, you’re still doing yourself a favour. You’e really doing yourself a disservice if you’re not putting your full efforts into the things that you do.

No Olympian gets to the track and says ‘You know what, I’m going to run at half my speed today. Just finishing the race is all that matters.” An Olympian is someone who will operate under the mentality that even if they pass out on the other side of the finish line, they’re going to leave 110% of their speed in that race.

If time has told us anything in this life it’s that the most successful people in history, and in present are those who put their full heart, passions, skills and desires into everything they do. No one ever accomplished greatness by saying ‘Average is better than nothing’…

Natalia Grace – I can’t even with this crazy story…

Photo: insider.com

Though I know this story has ‘blown-up’ in recent weeks, I’m not too sure how far this story has reached. It’s certainly been captivating a lot of my attention, though. Anyone who talks about it, anyone who shares their perspective, I need to read it, watch it or hear it.

I apologize in advance if any of the information in the following paragraphs conflicts itself. This story has been so hard to track and has had so much speculation and unknown information surrounding it that I’ve had a really hard time keeping track. But it’s so wild and crazy that I really just need/want to share.


Natalia Barnett is a Ukrainian girl with a rare form of dwarfism who was brought to the United States in 2008, when she was believed to be five years old. Prior to coming to the United States she had lived the entirety of her life in an orphanage in the Ukraine. She was adopted by a family who had the promise of helping her with medical treatments and surgeries needed (due to her dwarfism) and sent into the foster system less than two years later with no explanation as to why.

Insert Kristine and Michael Barnett. The couple, who at the time already had three boys, were looking to complete their family and decided they could adopt Natalia (to have the daughter they’d always wanted) and provide her a good life, affording the medical treatments and surgeries required to do that. They adopted Natalia in 2010 at the age of what they believed to be 6, turning 7 years old.

In 2010, as the adoption was being processed, Michael and Kristine Barnett’s son Jacob was gaining local notoriety for his intelligence. He is an autistic boy who is highly, highly, highly intelligent (boy genius status). The Barnett’s say that he’s been mastering college level math and science classes since the age of eight. This notoriety shone a bright light on Michael and Kristine, promoting them in the media as ‘Parenting Goals’ so to speak. Kristine even going so far as to writing a memoir about parenting.

From 2010 to 2013 Natalia lived with the Barnett family and, during this time was taken to see several doctors and doctors and specialists with respect to her condition. Over this period she was institutionalized for brief stints relating to mental health issues that Psychiatrists had diagnosed as Radical Attachment Disorders likely stemming from living the first five years of her life in an orphanage in the Ukraine.

During this time Kristine Barnett claimed to see ‘signs’ from Natalia that lead her to believe the girl was not the age she was claiming to be and that she was an adult, using her dwarfism, to masquerade as a child and take advantage of this family.

Kristine took Natalia to a specialist to have her bone density measured as a means to garner a better estimation of her age, but due to the girls rare form of dawrfism, it’s difficult to judge age like one would with a normal human being who has normal bone density. Due to her condition, the doctor stated she could be anywhere from 8-14 years old.

Kristine, carrying on the narrative that this young girl was older than she said was, continued noting ‘signs’ that Natalia was lying. She said that she gave the young girl a bath and noted she had pubic hair, something a seven year old shouldn’t have. She said that she was speaking with a vocabulary higher than that of a young child. She said that she founded bloody clothes of Natalia’s in the garbage can, as though Natalia had been having her period and trying to hide it from the Barnett’s to try and hide her age to continue using her dwarfism to masquerade as a small child.

(Please note that entering puberty at a far earlier age is a side effect of having dwarfism, so if a normal girl can start her period at ten, it’s not that far fetched to think that a young girl with dwarfism could have hormones and start her period as young as seven or eight)

Kristine also stated that the Ukraine is notorious for not keeping track of records properly with children who are abandoned and for that reason, they believed her birth certificate to be forged. There’s a theory that in orphanages a child’s age is determined by how they match in comparison to a child of which record of their age is known. So, if they have a record of [John Doe] and John is ten years old, they would measure someone taller as being 11 and someone shorter as being nine. Kristine states that Natalia used her dwarfism as a means of keeping the orphanage from knowing her real age and having them believe she was a young child.

Kristine Barnett also went so far as to state that Natalia’s mental breakdowns saw Natalia take actions that could be classified as attempted murder on her, her husband and her children and that they were in fear for their safety, they had to hide the knives in their kitchen and couldn’t leave their biological children unattended with her because they thought she would cause them harm. We’re talking she’s depicting scenes straight out of the movie ‘The Orphan’ as though they’re playing out in her daily life.

Throughout this, Michael stood by his wife’s side and went along with each claim that she made.

In 2013, after spewing this notion that Natalia was much older than she said she was for nearly two and a half years, the Barnett’s petitioned a judge in the state of Indiana, where they were living, to have Natalia’s legal age changed. They stated that Natalia was a sociopath adult, masquerading as a young girl to scam their family. They used their ‘evidence’ from a doctor stating that Natalia’s bone density could possibly make her much older than she said she was, her advanced vocabulary, having a period and pubic hair as a means to showcase that Natalia was not a young girl.

Somehow, in some far fetched universe that I cannot even fathom how this happened, the judge in Indiana signed off and legally changed this girl’s legal age, reprinting her birth certificate to say Sept 4, 1989, rather than Sept 4, 2003. They added fourteen years on her age and went from being a ten year old child to 24 year old woman in the eye of the law. Legally speaking the United States recognized her as being born in 1989 and thus she was no longer a little girl.

2013 was also the point in time when the Barnett’s son Jacob gained widespread notoriety for accepting admittance to a prestigious University Physics program in Waterloo, Ontario (Canada) at the age of 13.

The Barnett’s took their son Jacob, their other two sons and they went to Canada… without Natalia. They paid for a year’s worth of rent for an apartment in Indiana and set her up for food stamps and they left her there, claiming it was within their right to do so because, in the eyes of the law, she was a grown adult.

They literally took their three sons and left their adoptive daughter, abandoning her in Indiana.

After that, not much is known of what happened to Natalia. She was trying to fend for herself, living off food stamps and perhaps kind neighbours? All of the stories I have read from this point in time are all speculative as to how she got by.

Eventually, though, she wound up notifying a Sheriff’s office in the county she lived in Indiana that her parents had moved to Canada and abandoned her, and the Barnett’s were literally living in Canada without her and not even thinking about her.

Thinking she was clearly someone with special needs who needed a family system around her, the sheriff’s office listed her as someone who needed to be a dependent and it’s speculated that she went back into the system, only to get rejected because her legal age was that of an adult. From there, it’s alleged she found her new family, the family she now lives with, when she attended a church service.

The family that she now lives with are a pastor, his wife and their children, and, it’s worth noting that, though they know her ‘legal age’ in the eye of the United States Government, they are treating her as the teenager they believe her to be.

This year, the family she’s been living with filed an injunction to have her age changed back to being that of a teenager because they wanted to enroll her in school. They wanted to send her to high school to be a normal kid but they couldn’t do that because, in 2019, with a legal birth year of 1989, she is 30 years old in the eyes of the law.

Michael and Kristine Barnett, who have divorced since 2013 when they legally had her age changed, rushed to put a stop to this injunction claiming that she was scamming this new family that she’s living with, that she is an adult and that her age cannot be changed.

Make’s sense, right? If her age was legally changed back, they could face charges for abandonment of a minor, for not giving this girl the proper care she needed, deserved and was owed by the law and thus they could be in a great deal of trouble.

So, they tried to fight this injunction that would change Natalia’s birth date back to being 2003.

This is where the story starts unfolding and going viral.

Allegedly, police have sat down and interviewed Michael Barnett for a four hour period, alone. During that time, without Kristine in the room or within earshot, Michael admitted to the entire thing being a scam, that Kristine new it was a lie when she had this girl’s age changed and she did it anyway. He says that he knew when he up and moved to Canada with Kristine and their three biological children, he knew he was leaving a young child behind, abandoning her and leaving her to fend for herself.

Michael and Kristine Barnett are presently being charged with abandoning their daughter as a dependent. Because there’s this sticky situation with her age happening right now, charges are still able to proceed even though she’s not ‘legally a child’ because in the State of Indiana you’re not allowed to abandon a dependent who needs physical or mental medical assistance for survival. Natalia’s dwarfism counting as a need to be a medical dependent.

Now, the family that Natalia is currently living with is still presently trying to have her birth year legally changed back to what it was on her original birth certificate – Sept 4 2003.

Kristine Barnett is adamant this birth date cannot be changed back and that Natalia is an adult.

It makes sense that Kristine wouldn’t want her birth date changed. Because, while she’s in trouble now for abandoning a dependent, she’d be in a whole new world of trouble for abandoning a ten year old girl, legally speaking.

Thus we’ve made it to the past two weeks of reporting. Every outlet that I read, every video I watch seems to have a slightly different story of the details, I think mainly because the true details are so unknown. Nobody really knows what happened to Natalia when they fled to Canada, they just speculate based off what neighbours mentioned. It’s never been publicly released how she found her new family, it’s just speculated she found them at church. That time in between 2013 and now, only Natalia really knows what has happened.

Anyways, I’ve been reading this and watching this all unfold, and I just can’t fathom how a judge, in his or her right mind, would legally add fourteen years onto the life of any human, regardless of the circumstance, without pure, factual evidence to showcase the scam. Because, everything that Kristine Barnett presented to the courts was complete speculation.

Today (Oct 9th) a woman has come forward claiming to be the birth mother of Natalia. She claims that Natalia’s birth year is in fact 2003 and that her birth date is in face Sept 4, 2003. She has paperwork for proof that she gave birth to a baby girl on Sept 4, 2003. This woman, Anna, claims that she didn’t find out about Natalia’s dwarfism until she was six months pregnant with her. She claims that she was told by doctors in the Ukraine that her daughter-to-be would never lead a normal life and for that reason she just shouldn’t bother trying to take her home from the hospital.

It’s worth noting that it’s not uncommon in Eastern European countries to ‘discard’ (for lack of better terminology) of babies with birth defects and disabilities because of the lack of ability of citizens to care for them with lack of medical, lack of funding, lack of living conditions to support their needs.

This woman who claims to be the birth mother of Natalia, Anna, says that she gave up Natalia at birth and that she knew Natalia was sent to live in an Orphanage and that, at the age of five, the Ukrainian government contacted her to let her know that Natalia was being adopted by a couple in the United States and that she should not legally try to interfere with this adoption because the couple who was going to adopt her would be able to care for her and her medical needs and get her the surgeries she required. So Anna did not intervene, and she believed that her daughter was adopted out of the orphanage and went to lead a privileged life in the United States with a happy family.

Anna notes that it’s only recently, when this story has gone viral that she’s learned of what really happened, and learned that her daughter was not given the life she thought.

The Daily Mail broke Anna’s story today, as Anna came forward to claim that her biological daughter was, in fact, born in 2003 and has just turned 16.

She’s had her credibility questioned – claiming that she’s only coming forward for attention and in return she’s submitted paperwork of Natalia’s birth, paperwork showcasing she gave birth to a baby on Sept 4, 2003 and said that she’s more than willing to take a DNA test to prove she’s Natalia’s biological mother if it’ll help prove Natalia’s age so that her birth year can be legally changed back to what it is supposed to be.

I just… I can’t even with this story right now. It’s so far fetched and so wild to me.

Natalia’s biological mother, Anna, has also said that she’s deeply saddened by what has happened to Natalia during her life and that, never in her wildest dreams did she think it could be as horrible as what the Barnett’s did to her. She said that, being in a much better place financially now than she was when she had her sixteen years ago, she’d welcome her back to the Ukraine at any time.


WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? I have so many questions. I have so much I need/want to know. I don’t understand. I have speculations of my own. I have so much that I want to say I don’t even know where to start.

First off, in my opinion, Kristine Barnett clearly did not want a daughter. She also clearly didn’t want this fact to get out, given the publicity and notoriety she was getting as a parent because of her son Jacob. I think this entire thing was a scam concocted by Kristine Barnett thinking it would leave her legally ‘off the hook’ for leaving this girl behind because she obviously couldn’t ‘give her back’ to the foster care system with a best selling book on shelves about how great of a parent she is…

As mentioned above, it’s not uncommon for individuals with dwarfism to hit puberty earlier than people of a normal stature. This is because of the fact that their bodies operate differently and it’s not really within their control. So it’s really not a far fetched thought that Natalia cold have gone through puberty much earlier than a girl without dwarfism.

It’s also extremely hard to measure a person’s age based on their bone density if they have dwarfism because, once again, their bodies operate differently than those of people who are normal stature. So judging this girls age based on bone density should have been a factor NEVER considered in Kristine Barnett’s court proceeding to change her age.

Next – it’s not an uncommon thing for children he live in orphanages or grow up in foster care systems in countries less developed than the United States to grow up with mental health issues or suffer from mental health issues such as ‘Reactive Attachment Disorder’. So, if Natalia was suffering from such issues, it would be ‘par for the course’. This is something all parents are warned they may have to deal with when they adopt a child from overseas.

Okay, so on what planet does a judge get off changing the legal age of anyone based on speculation? Anyone? Let alone changing the age of a human being from being 10 to 24 without real, actual legitimate proof? I don’t understand how a judge did this and thought it was a good idea. Did Kristine Barnett buy him off? She had book money… that could very well be?

What kind of a horrible person abandons a family member, or anyone in distress for that matter, whether you consider them family or not. Even if Kristine Barnett’s mental health claims/concerns were real, then there was a clear indication that in addition to this girl’s dwarfism, she was suffering greatly with mental health issues. Who the fuck just up and abandons someone suffering and says ‘Have a nice life?’

It’s so sick and twisted that Michael Barnett has admitted to police he knew it was a scam his wife made on the courts to change her age and he knew that Natalia knew nothing about it and had no say in it. It’s so disgusting that he kept it secret all these years and that he openly admits he knew he was leaving his ten year old adopted daughter behind, not a 24 year old.

I just can’t even wrap my head around this story.

This poor girl.

This sick and twisted couple, now divorced, essentially fucking her over so royally like this as a means to keep themselves from looking bad in the press?

If this woman, Anna, is proven to be the biological mother of Natalia, I sincerely hope that the Barnett’s are in for a world of legal trouble and hopefully, jail time.

Also, as of right now, her parenting book is still being sold. So that should come down.

And even if this woman isn’t proven to be the biological mother of Natalia, I still think the Barnett’s should be in a world of legal hurt because of changing her legal age in order to abandon her. Michael admitted it was all fake and it was all scheme. Likely to avoid negative press because her book was so popular….

Wow. I’ll be following this like a hawk to see how it unfolds.

There are some really fucked up people on this planet.


Some links to read more:

Insider.com >

Dailymail.co.uk >

Without a Crystal Ball > (where I first heard of the story)

Politics from a ten year old’s perspective.

So, I’ve been hanging out with my nephew for the better part of today. At one point, whilst we were driving past his school, I mentioned that his school was the location in which we have to vote at for the upcoming federal election.

He said ‘Ah, that’s cool. On election day we’re having a mock vote at our school to see who the kids would elect!’

Thinking that sounded like a really cool idea, I pressed him for more information.

He said that every Wednesday, the local representative of each party comes to his school to speak at the assembly and allow the kids to ask them questions. Then on election day, taking the information they’ve been given, they’re going to have a mock vote within the kids at their school to see who the kids believe should be elected.

Firstly, KUDOS TO THIS SCHOOL. I think this is an amazing activity for kids to do and amazing way to make the next generation interested in politics and have them care about voting. (He just goes to a regular public school. The teachers just decided this was an initiative they wanted to take for the kids)

When I asked him who was left to come and speak he said the Liberal Party Representative and the Green Party Representative. So then I asked, based on what he’s already heard from the Representatives and what he knows form the news and from his parents (as I’m honestly not sure where my brother falls on the political spectrum… we have some wildly different beliefs in life), who would he vote for on election day?

He said ‘My first inclination when this started was to vote Conservative because they say they’re going to cut taxes a whole bunch which means I’d have more money which means I could buy more stuff!”

I laughed. I said ‘Good train of thought kiddo.”

Then he said “Yeah, but I’ve been thinking lately…”

“What have you been thinking?” I asked him.

“I’ve been thinking they might be lying about that. In which case, it’s not really going to benefit me to vote for him. I don’t like liars.”

“Why do you think they’re lying?” I asked.

“Well, their leader lied about being an Insurance Broker. And then we found out he lied about where he went to school… which is such a stupid thing to lie about because it’s school, HEELLO? And if he can lie about such stupid and small things like work and school, I really don’t know if they’re telling us the truth about anything.”

Thinking that was an incredibly mature answer to hear from a ten year old, I told him I was proud of him for considering all of the options and for taking an interest in politics.

“I’m just glad we’re not as screwed as the people in the States though. I mean, whoever gets elected, it can’t get as bad as it does down there,” he said.

“You know about American Politics, too?” I asked him.

“Yeah,” he said. “I pay attention to the news and what people say about it.”

“What’s your thoughts on American politics?” I asked him.

“Well, there’s this kid at school named Justin. Justin is really mean to all of the kids in our grade and below us. He’s taller than all of us so he tries to intimidate everyone. He’ll take your lunch money and then tell you that you have to thank him for taking it or he’ll punch you.But then he’s totally fake nice as soon as a teacher walks around. “

Confused as to why he was telling me about a kid at school, but also worried my nephew is being punched by a bigger kid I asked, “Does Justin hit you, B?”

He said “Oh, no. Justin hasn’t hit me. I just think… like… he’s mean to everyone and some people choose to be friends with him not because they like him but because they think if they’re friends with him then he’ll be less mean to them. But the rest of us, we didn’t do anything wrong and we suffer his wrath anyway. Just because we wound up in the same school as him.”

“Uh huh, so how come your telling me about Justin?” I asked.

“Well, the way I see it, Justin is a kid version of Donald Trump.”

And there you have it friends. If my ten year old nephew can understand politics this well, and be forming thoughtful, rational opinions based on what he’s been told and what he’s seen, then adults should have no excuse whatsoever as to being uninformed.

It’s more important than ever to go out and vote. Please, please, please, whatever your views are, get informed and go vote on Oct 21.

I’m going to file this under things that just don’t ever happen to me.

Have you ever known two people with extremely similar names? Like their names could easily be mistaken for one another if you don’t double check? I’ll give you an example – for me, I know a Kyle Deen and a Kyle Keen. While I’ve known a few people with similar names in my life, I’ve never met someone with a name so close to mine.

I have a very particular name. My name is one that I wouldn’t be surprised if I was the only person on the planet with that name. I’m not like Jane Doe. There aren’t a ton of me’s out there. It’s one of the reasons why I’m so protective of my name on this blog. After working in PR for so long, I have had my name published with articles on three continents in eight different languages and I know the extent to which one’s name can travel under the right circumstances. Nevertheless, I digress.

Yesterday, the Legal Assistant from the firm I worked with in January 2019, sent me some information that was supposed to be sent to someone whose name is extremely similar to mine. I have an uncommon last name. So this, this just doesn’t happen. Not to me. The fact that someone has a name so similar to mine actually shocked me. This information that the Legal Assistant sent me was important and highly confidential.

Having not heard form this Law Office (Lawyer or Legal Assistant) in 10 months and seeing the name on the documents was similar to mine, but not mine, I emailed them back and said ‘I think you sent this to the wrong person’.

The person who was supposed to receive the email containing the documents with all of the confidential information, the person who has a name so similar to mine, is a lawyer. She’s not just a lawyer, she’s name partner. She’s what you would refer to as a ‘shark’. At least that’s the lingo I think people use.

I’m obviously not a lawyer. So, the actual lawyer didn’t take to well to all of this confidential information landing in my lap… so to speak. She would not accept that I wouldn’t tell anyone. She would not accept that I would just delete the email and forget about it. She demanded that the Legal Assistant who sent me the information needed to have me sign a legal document stating I’d keep the information I came across confidential.

As much as I know she’s a Lawyer and she’s just doing her job, it sucks when someone accidentally sends you an email and, as a result of said accidental email, you have Lawyers calling you, breathing down your neck, demanding confidentiality and calling your character into question.

Also, it was mega weird. Weird that these two Lawyers and this Legal Assistant were so damn scared I was going to take this information and ‘run to the presses’ or… I really don’t even know what they thought I would do with it. I can’t imagine… because again, I’m not a Lawyer.

After a few annoying phone calls, I ended up signing a document stating that I’d keep the information to myself. For clarification… I would not have ever given out that information anyway. I’m not the type.

After I responded to the legal assistant stating that she’d sent the email to the wrong person… I deleted it.

It sucks. I know they were just doing their jobs, trying to cover their own butts, but it sucks having my character called into question… because of a mistake that I had nothing to do with.

Perhaps it’s just me, but if you’re going to send information that is so highly confidential and important, you would double check the email address of the person you’re sending it to before you hit send. Mistakes happen, yes. But for something THIS IMPORTANT… you gone fucked up, not me.

But what do I know?