Worries and such.

I had a dizzy spell yesterday. I lost peripheral vision for a short period and it was so bad that I was too scared to drive anywhere. I didn’t want to worry anyone so I told my family that I was going to call my best friend so that they wouldn’t bug me while they thought I was on the phone and I ended up staying in bed for several hours because of it. I actually fell down the stairs as I was heading to my room, which really scared me. My anxious mind wandered a lot of places and my rational mind told me I should just sleep it off.

I fell down the seedy dark corners of trying to diagnose myself using google and found nothing good.

The one good thing I did find is that you can get blurred peripheral vision from severe sinus pressure and head pressure. I’ve been battling a nasty sinus infection and, because if it, woke up with a pretty horrendous headache yesterday.

I’m chalking it up to that, for now.

It went away after I laid in the dark for a while.

I do not need to diagnose myself on google anymore. If anything else happens, a doctor can tell me what’s wrong with me.

Anyone has the power and possibility to do anything that they set their mind to.

Yes, read that again. Because it’s true.

At 12 years old I was listening to a presentation from (now former) NBA player Steve Nash. Nash said ‘Raise your hands if you want to be Prime Minister of Canada one day’. Only a couple of kids in the room raised their hands. Nash then said ‘Raise your hand if you think you’re going to be Prime Minister of Canada one day’. Only one girl, a girl named Rachel, kept her hand up. Nash then said ‘Rachel is the only person in this room who will be Prime Minister one day’. A few of the boys in this room took aim at this statement and responded with ‘No she can’t because she’s a girl’.

The two things Steve Nash said next have stayed with me ever since.

Firstly, he looked at those boys who took aim with the idea of a female Prime Minister and said ‘My hope for you is that as you move into your teenage and adult years you adopt a way of thinking that measures a person’s value on who they are, not what they are. A person’s gender matters not to whether or not they are capable of a job, any job, and your discounting Rachel based off the fact that she’s a girl is a disservice to all women and girls around the world. You are not superior simply because you were born male. Please remember that’.

Secondly, he said ‘The only person in this room who can be Prime Minister one day is Rachel. I say this because she’s the only person who wants to be and she’s the only person who thinks she can be.’ He went on to say ‘The only limitations you have in this world are the ones you put on yourself’. If these boys over here don’t think she can do it, are they going to stop her? No. If Rachel wants it bad enough, she’s going to make it happen regardless of who says what to her. If Rachel doesn’t put a limitation on becoming Prime Minister, I see no reason why she cannot grow up to be just that’.

‘The only limitations you have in this world are the ones you put on yourself.’

Anyone has the power and possibility to do anything that they set their mind to, so long as they’re willing to work for it. So I guess the question is, if you’re not willing to work for it, do you really want it?

Also, it’s important to stop passing on the notion that people are less valuable to our society because of their gender, age, ability/disability, skills, intelligence or anything else that people use as a means to discredit or undervalue someone. Even at twelve years old the boys in my class had already had it ingrained in their minds that women couldn’t do what men could do. We need to remind ourselves, our friends, our family, that a person’s worth to this world is not measured by statistics. It’s not measured by the things we cannot control.

If Rick Hansen can wheel over 40,000 kms through 34 countries on his own, in a wheelchair and Terry Fox can run 5,300 kms on one leg, if Susan Wojcicki can be the CEO of Youtube, if Ruth Bader Ginsburg can still be sitting on the Supreme Court at 86 after beating cancer several times, and people all over the world can defy the odds (the odds we put on ourselves no less) then the future really has limitless possibility.

Remember that next time you judge someone based on their appearance, their gender, their age, or any other reason you think is an excuse to devalue the potential someone brings to this world.

Life Things

One of my cousins (well, my cousin’s son… so second cousin?) is in need of a bone marrow transplant. Honestly, news of this has circulated so quickly, I’m unsure of how it all works still.

My cousin, though she’s Canadian, lives in the United States with her husband (an American) and their two kids, both who were born in the States. Quite a few of my family members, the healthy non-smokers, are going to get tested to find out if any could be possible donors. Realistically speaking, I’m not sure how it would work if someone in our family were a match. Her kiddo, the one who needs the transplant, has been sick for a while, so I don’t think that he could be released/transferred to get the procedure done in Canada? Then again, I’m not a medical professional so I do not know one way or another. I wonder though, if someone in my family is a match, would it be possible to go down to the United States and do the procedure to help my cousin’s son?

Being Canadian, we obviously wouldn’t have coverage for medical treatments/procedures in the United States, but, if the bone marrow transplant could possibly save this kid’s life and a family member could provide it, rather than having to search for a donor, could that possibly speed up the process? The States wouldn’t stop that from happening just because a Canadian was a donor, would they? Goodness, I hope someone in the family is a match.

Lots to think about and figure out…

I think my cousin is talking to the doctors and her lawyer to find out if it’s possible. We’ve got a big family, so hopefully one of us is a possible donor.

I feel like an idiot for not knowing any of these answers.

On a lighter note

The world is now covered with snow and it sure does look beautiful. That’s the lake my doggo is wandering out onto.

Just wanted to share a little bit of beauty for the day.

We have to keep a red collar on her because of her fur, when she plays in the snow she tends to disappear! hahaha

Okay, so

Last night I made a post on this blog about three serious topics that I wanted to give my take on. I am someone who believes that even the difficult or taboo subjects should be talked about because, so long as we’re talking, we’re educating… ourselves, others, the world in general.

These subject matters, specifically the third that I spoke of (I’m being very careful to not type the subject matter again because I don’t want to get flagged again), offended someone, or multiple people. I’m thinking multiple people based on what has happened in the past 24 hours.

While I am sorry that someone took offense to the subject matter, I am not sorry for what I said. There is a systemic culture of toxicity in our society that will continue to thrive so long as we continue to sweep these subjects under a rug and pretend they do not exist. My blog frequently talks about subject matters that are those which people don’t necessarily just blurt out in coffee shops with their friends, mostly for fear of being judged. I take great pride in touching on these subject matters that are so, so very important to not just me, but should be important to everyone. And I want this place to be a safe space for people to share their thoughts on these subjects as well, whether you agree with me or not.

What I don’t want is to censor myself.

To address a certain concern:

I received an email last night stating that it was in very poor judgment of me to talk about subjects of these matters whilst I’ve recently been made aware that people as young as fifteen read this blog. They went on to say that 15 year old’s should not have to be subject to these subjects and that I should be more cognizant of my choices of topics.

Firstly, suggesting that someone who is fifteen years old isn’t able to grasp, and shouldn’t be able to discuss the subject matter of what was in my post last night is severely underestimating the intellectual and emotional maturity of youth. It’s also incredibly naive to suggest that people who are teens, or in their early twenties, aren’t talking about these subjects already. I guarantee you they are.

Secondly, I believe in education. I believe in open and honest discussion with people while they are any age (whether they’re a teenager or 65) and I believe in allowing them to ask questions, or learn that the world isn’t always perfect. These things, like I spoke of last night in my post, do happen. If people are educated when they’re younger, they’ll be more able to stick up for themselves and know they’re value when they reach an age in which they start a relationship of their own.

You might believe that teens deserve to be sheltered. You might believe that teens should stay as young as possible for as long as possible. And that’s your prerogative. I believe that the more we empower teens with truth, the more value they’ll place upon their worth and the more likely they are to stand up for themselves and know the difference between right and wrong should these situations ever happen to them.

If you read my post from last night, thank you to those of you provided me some really incredible comments. I hope that the post reappears and that more people get to read it, and the comments that were left on the post. It’s an important discussion to be had.

That’s it.

That’s all.