Welcome to the world, baby boy.

The whole pregnancy, I told my brother and sister-in-law they were having a girl. They didn’t want to find out until the baby was born, but, since I found out last October I’ve been hammering in their ears that it’s a girl. I was certain it was going to be a girl.

IT’S A BOY!

I must’ve annoyed him a hell of a lot with my ‘it’s a girl’ bantering because one of the first things he did was take a picture of the baby’s penis to send to me to show me it was a boy. hahahaha!

My little brother’s a dad, now. I couldn’t be more happy for him, for them and their beautiful new little family.

Containing boring personal information.

From time to time I get emails from people who’ve read this blog. I’ve been a bad person in that, I’ve never actually responded to any of these emails. I’m sorry!

When I set up this blog, not thinking, I connected my personal email address containing my full name to the account. I just… sort of… left it there thinking that no one would ever email me. Truthfully, I didn’t really expect anyone to ever read my blog, so I really didn’t expect anyone to email me.

That being said, I have been sent questions, comments and so on, and not wanting to respond with my full name, I just stored these emails in a folder in my inbox. Since I’m headed on a sneaky holiday this week and in the midst of packing, I thought I’d answer some of these questions.

What is your name? The name I go by day-to-day is actually ‘Vee’. Obviously it’s a nickname, but it’s my name, so I’m sticking to that.

Why the anonymity? When I created this blog I thought that, if anyone ever read it, I wanted them to judge me for my thoughts and not for my looks. So, that’s why I’ve never given a face to my blog.

Will you ever show yourself? I’m not too sure. I’ve definitely thought about. For now I’m just appreciative of being able to speak freely without worrying about people knowing who I am.

What’s up with your mom? She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer late last year. Luckily enough, it was caught early and multiple surgeries and eight weeks of chemotherapy later, she was recently declared fully cancer free. We’re extremely thankful that she’s once again healthy and regaining her strength. If I can add one extra PSA on the end of this, I would say that her experience this year has served as a huge reminder to look after yourself, your health and the importance of advocating when you know something is wrong.

What did you study? I have a Bachelors Degree in Marketing/General Business with a Minor in Economics.

What industry did you work in? Up until the end of 2018, I was working in a sports industry for nearly a decade. It was a real ‘boys club’ type of place and wasn’t the most pleasant of experiences. In the coming weeks here I’ll start a job in publishing.

What are your skills? Most of the work I do circulates around two main subjects: dealing with the media (public relations) and digital marketing.

With respect to the media, I’m well versed in dealing with journalists, answering questions, providing statements for subjects people don’t necessarily want to be quoted for, etc…

With respect to digital marketing, I specialize in accelerating a company’s digital platforms to meet KPI’s and improve digital reach. Whether through social media management, email marketing or website creation, development and content management, I use analytics and data to ensure the widest range of people possible read a specific message when I write it and post it.

I also dabble in graphic design.

Can you check out my blog? Absolutely. I created a page called ‘Introduce Yourself’ for people to introduce themselves and their blogs to me, and to the community who reads this blog. I respond to, and check out the blogs of everyone who leaves a note on that page. I encourage everyone to check out the comments to potentially find new blogs/pages there as well. Introduce Yourself >

How long have you been blogging? I started my blog on January 8, 2019.

What is your blog about? The best way I’d describe it is ‘a little of this, a little of that’. It’s basically what comes to my mind each day.

What have you been diagnosed with? I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, which I see as a very basic diagnosis to allow doctors to categorize something that really does affect everyone so differently. My anxiety flares up in times when I’m stressed or things are unsettled. When everything is calm, it can almost feel as though I don’t have anxiety at all. I have, at times, completely forgotten about it when life has been going well.

Do you take medication? I do. I take clonazepam. I’m a strong believer that if medication can be of benefit to you and make your life easier/better and make it easier for you to cope, then there should be zero negative stigma towards taking it. I’m not ashamed of taking medication to help with my anxiety. That being said, I’m also trying to take appropriate steps to combat my anxiety naturally as well.

Have you told people you’re seeing a Psychiatrist? There are people in my life who know and people in my life who do not know. As I’m sure everyone has experienced, there are some people who are open to therapy and what it can do for a person and there are others who aren’t. There’s no shame in therapy, I just don’t feel like trying to change the opinions of those who do not believe in it. Their beliefs are their beliefs for a reason. So, I don’t tell them.

What religion do you follow? I do not follow any type of religion. I respect everyone’s right to believe what they choose, and all I hope for the world as they respect my beliefs as well.

What do you look like? I’m shocked at how often I’ve been asked this question. Some of it I think comes from natural curiosity and some of it might not necessarily come from a good place. But, for those who are wondering, here’s the most boring description ever: I have blonde hair, blue eyes, a small nose, big mouth, two ears, yatta yatta.

Thank you to everyone who’s taken the time to read my blog over the past six months. To everyone who’s written me a nice, kind or sweet email, thank you. I’m very appreciative of your kind words and I’m sorry that I’ve never written you back. To everyone who’s left kind and supportive comments, thoughts and messages on my posts, thank you. Your support has kept me going through what has been the most difficult year of my life thus far.

Alright, that’s it. I’m off on a holiday. Anything else that shows up on this blog this week is a post scheduled from my drafts folder that I wrote a while back and just never shared.

With glowing hearts.

Everywhere we go, gotta let the people know, we’re Canadian. That’s right, Canadian.

Happy Birthday Canada!

Following the 2010 Olympics in Vancouver/Whistler, NBC’s Brian Williams wrote a thank you note to Canada that touched the hearts of many when they read it. It was a simple note, that was so beautiful I’m using it as a reminder, on this Canada Day, of all that is great about this country I call home.

After tonight’s broadcast and after looting our hotel mini-bars, we’re going to try to brave the blizzard and fly east to home and hearth, and to do laundry well into next week. 

Before we leave this thoroughly polite country, the polite thing to do is leave behind a thank-you note.

Thank you, Canada:

For being such good hosts.

For your unfailing courtesy.

For your (mostly) beautiful weather.

For scheduling no more than 60 percent of your float plane departures at the exact moment when I was trying to say something on television.

For not seeming to mind the occasional (or constant) good-natured mimicry of your accents.

For your unique TV commercials — for companies like Tim Hortons — which made us laugh and cry.

For securing this massive event without choking security, and without publicly displaying a single automatic weapon.

For having the best garment design and logo-wear of the games — you’ve made wearing your name a cool thing to do.

For the sportsmanship we saw most of your athletes display.

For not honking your horns. I didn’t hear one car horn in 15 days — which also means none of my fellow New Yorkers rented cars while visiting.

For making us aware of how many of you have been watching NBC all these years.

For having the good taste to have an anchorman named Brian Williams on your CTV network, who turns out to be such a nice guy.

For the body scans at the airport which make pat-downs and cavity searches unnecessary.

For designing those really cool LED Olympic rings in the harbor, which turned to gold when your athletes won one.

For always saying nice things about the United States…when you know we’re listening.

For sharing Joannie Rochette with us.

For reminding some of us we used to be a more civil society.

Mostly, for welcoming the world with such ease and making lasting friends with all of us.

Brian Williams, NBC

Bitter Betty

I’ve come to realize that I have serious issues with trusting anyone. Sadly, though I think I’ve been this way for a while, it’s only recently that I’ve realized the extent to which it affects my life.

I don’t trust people. I don’t. When people speak to me, I hear the words they’re saying and I don’t accept them. Why? Because they don’t mean anything to me. Call that jaded, call that whatever you please, but the truth is that everybody lies. They lie, misinform, mishandle the truth, and they expect you to believe it.

I don’t know why it is that so many people lie to me. Perhaps they think I’m incredibly naive, or perhaps they just don’t care about me at all… whatever it is, I seem to walk around with a ‘Lie to Me’ stamp on my forehead.

There comes a certain point in life that you’ve been lied to so many times, it won’t matter if someone speaks the truth. It just won’t matter anymore.


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No one in this world can make you feel as bad as you can.

That’s right. I said it.

We’re our own worst critics.

We’re our own worst enemy. Every downfall, every insecurity, every sadness, every frustration, every hardship, we know everything. And we use it against ourselves at the moments in time when we’re most vulnerable.

I think this is one of the things that makes mental illness so debilitating. On a good day, someone not suffering from mental illness can utterly destroy their self-worth with a few thoughts. Imagine that feeling multiplied by 1000 in someone suffering from mental illness.

This was not meant to be a comparison about who feels worse, though. The point I’m trying to make is the importance of being kind – to yourself, to everyone. Be kind. Much like they don’t know your struggles, you don’t know theirs.

Be kind to yourself. Talk yourself up. Make yourself feel better even when you’re not in a bad mood. And, don’t ever miss the opportunity to do this for someone else as well.

Perhaps if we all made more of an effort to force the positives on ourselves, those negative thoughts wouldn’t hold so much power over us when they rear their ugly heads.

What is the value of your intellectual property?

I’ve always been of the opinion that intellectual property is what makes someone valuable. That crazy map of creativity and thought inside of their heads is what they bring to the table, and if you want to find the right niche within your workplace, you need to give employees a place where they feel safe to let their intellectual property flow freely throughout the company.

When it comes to me, intellectual property is my everything. This mess inside of my brain is what comes up with the genius. And I don’t say that to imply that I am a genius by any means. I say that as an implication that what I do requires creativity and forethought. It requires one to have vision and insight. It requires one to make use of a certain skill set that there are a lot of jobs in this world that’s not necessary for.

To me, the prospect of signing away my intellectual property to ‘the man’ is a scary one.

It could mean signing away rights to this blog, or anything I create on it hereafter. It could mean signing away rights to my work, to my creations, to my brainchild of development.

I’m not sure that I’m ready to do that. Or willing.

I know that different people have different opinions on the subject matter. I guess, it just scares me because I feel as though my intellectual property and my value very much go hand-in-hand. Signing that over to someone seems like giving up a piece of myself.

Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.

The time, 11:49 pm. The mood, content. The setting: perched at the edge of the couch, watching the sun dip behind the trees, saying goodnight to another peaceful day.

I’m reaching the end of the week that I dubbed my week of positivity. It was my goal to, for the week, all week, stay positive. And let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. It definitely wasn’t. I consider myself a realist by nature, so staring down the barrel of some particularly crappy situations and choosing to not let it get the better of you, it’s tough. But, I’m here to say that it is do-able.

As mentioned in a post earlier on this week, my mom’s healthy. Which that, that is reason enough to be eternally thankful.

Other positive things that happened this week? I’ve been babysitting my brother’s dog for the past couple of days. He’s actually done a lot for brightening my mood. I was trying to pin point why this dog was making me so happy and it was really my brother that hit the nail on the head with why Jaxon (the dog) is so nice to have around.

“Jaxon is really growing on me!” I texted him.

“Yeah, he’s a pretty great dog to have around. He listens well and he just always seems to be in a good mood.” He texted back.

That’s it. That’s it right there. This dog is always in a good mood. He’s always got a ‘dog smile’ on his face. He wags his tail like he’s excited to be everywhere and involved in anything. He loves attention but he also loves when we leave him alone. He prances around like he doesn’t weigh 100 pounds and he’s totally unaware that there’s anything bad in this world. I realize that I sound crazy as I’m talking about a dog in this way, but it’s just… so heartwarming to be around him. I truly believe that pets make us better. And this dog, he definitely has made me better this week.

One thing that has been an extremely important mood booster to me this week was all of the introductions that I got to read on my blog. Making a post asking for introductions, I wasn’t really sure what I was going to get. Honestly, I was expecting maybe five-to-ten people to respond, tops. The responses that I got were really overwhelming. It was so special to me to be able to read about so many of you, and to learn more. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This space, this wordpress world, has been such a safe space for me over the past six months. My mind is truly blown with how many wonderful people I’ve crossed paths with on wordpress. Honestly, if I could go back in time, I would tell myself to make a wordpress account a lot sooner than I did.

Another moment that was extremely important during my week was taking my niece and nephew out for slurpees. B and V (she’s V too as she’s named after me) went to get slurpees/screamers, and as we were walking to the till with their cups full of sugar, B patted me on the arm and said ‘Auntie, thank you so much!’ Naturally, I asked him why he was thanking me. His response: ‘Because you just make things so much better. You make me feel better and you make everything better. It’s so nice to have you around. And I’m not just saying that because you’re buying me ice cream’. I nearly teared up there in the store. I didn’t, because he’s 10 and would totally make fun of me for that. But I wanted to. Such a nice compliment from a ten year old kid. If he get understand that now, at 10, imagine what he’s going to be like when he grows up!

There’s definitely been some negative things happening. There’s definitely been some things that made me anxious and scared. But, overall, I would say that I made some serious headway in being able to deal with those things, cope with those things or completely see past those things.

The power of positivity is real.

I’ve decided that I’m going to start leaving notes about things that I like about myself on the end of my blog posts. Why? I’m trying to boos my own self-esteem, so I want to think of more positives. I also think that it’ll be nice, when I look back on these posts one day in the future, to be able to see that I ended each post with a positive note. So, here goes:

I really like my eyes. They’re a really nice ocean-blue colour and I get complimented on them a lot. I don’t mean that in a cocky way, I just mean that of all the things people can be complimented on, I’m frequently complimented as having beautiful eyes. They definitely are attention grabbing when you see me.