Opinions.

I’m not calling these unpopular opinions because, quite frankly – whether they’re popular or unpopular, they’re just opinions. They’re just my opinions. So, if you disagree with me, that’s totally okay.


It’s better to be too cold than too hot.

Putting people on mute is a nice break. Whether a phone call, on twitter, instagram, email or any other form of communication, sometimes you just need to mute someone for a little bit without them knowing. Sometimes you just need that extra time.

LED headlights are fucking awful.

There is a large number of people, both male and female, who attribute their fame, popularity or notability to talent or hard work when (let’s be honest) they’ve actually reached their present celebrity because they’re beautiful and wear minimal clothing.

A lot of what Gucci makes is actually really ugly. Bags, shoes, belts, the majority of it looks like colours and patterns put together in a middle school sewing class.

Getting presents causes more stress than happiness.

I have zero desire to visit Disneyland, Disneyworld or any other Disney theme park on this planet. When I think of all the places I want to travel and all of the things I want to see, an overpriced, overcrowded theme park doesn’t rank even remotely close to being on my list.

Top sheets are overrated and, quite frankly, absolutely useless.

Hiring managers should worry less about finding someone who lives near their office and more about finding someone who can do the job the best. Also, I realize nepotism isn’t going away any time soon, but if it’s happening and there is proof, the public should have open right to name and shame them.

Meat pies are an abomination to food.

Family photo ‘Christmas Cards’ are absolutely cringe-worthy. If you want to send me a photo of your family, please do. Please don’t put a shitty-designed border around it and use a tacky font to write ‘Merry Christmas from my family’. I know it’s your family… you sent me the card and you’re in the photo.


What are some of your opinions on random subjects?

Instagram vs Reality

Instagram is a tricky beast. I love sharing photos and I love looking at photos, whether they’re of people, places or things, but I am also abundantly aware of how fake the platform is.

There are some incredibly creative people in this world, people who quite literally share their talents with the world thanks to Instagram. But, for the most part, the platform seems to be a beauty worshiping pit of vanity. So I have always been hesitant to share photos for fear of feeding the beast.

A few days ago I stumbled about an YouTube video made by someone from Vancouver who spent nearly 45 minutes going through her perfectly curated Instagram feed to talk the truth behind the beautiful photos and catchy captions she’d been posting for years.

With 2.1 million Instagram followers, hearing the truth behind her photos was actually quite shocking. As much as you know people aren’t truthful with their Instagram accounts, you tend to just envision people’s lives as perfect because… well because that’s what they want you to think. But her life, well it’s far from perfect. I was quite shocked about how far from perfect it was. But I found myself respecting her so much more after knowing the actual truth behind her photos.

I’ve decided that I’m going to start sharing some photos on Instagram and, in the comments, sharing two captions. Firstly, I’ll share the caption I would write if I were trying to make my life look perfect, and secondly I’ll share the reality of what was going on at that point in my life when I took the photo.

And, if anyone else wants to include this ‘Instagram vs Reality’ captions on their photos too, let me know and I’ll follow your Instagram.

Honestly, while I think my life is far from interesting, by any means, I do live in Canada and this entire country is basically the equivalent of a ‘Wish You Were Here’ postcard. So, I do have some pretty beautiful photos. But, as with all things in life, there’s two sides to every story…. Instagram versus Reality.

Letter to a thin-skinned soul

Dear Self,

As hard as you try, not everyone is going to like you. That’s a fact of life. And that’s totally okay. Don’t break your back over someone who’s opinion of you is never going to change. Quite frankly, their opinions don’t and shouldn’t matter to you. What should matter to you is who you choose to be, day in and day out.

Be yourself. Be authentic. Be true.

Those who know and love you will appreciate you for exactly who you are. Those who don’t, well, don’t waste your time or worry on them. You’re perfect just the way you are.

And if you do change, don’t change for anyone but yourself.

Sincerely, Me

“There’s no money in writing.”

A friend of mine said this to me the other day. I’m not really sure how I feel about it. After I was dropped from that job in July that would have seen me make decent money from writing, I’m beginning to wonder.

What are your thoughts? Is there money in writing? Can you sustain yourself in an industry that seems to be somewhat on its way out? Or will there always need to be some sort of a catch?

I DESIGNED SHIRTS!

I DESIGNED SHIRTS! And these shirts are for sale! This is something that I’ve wanted to do for a while, so I’m very excited and very nervous to share them with you. All shirts can be fond on my TeeSpring Store here >

Back in March of this year I had shirts printed with my #MillennialLifeCrisis logo on them. I love them. I’m biased, I know that, but I love them to bits. To this day, they’re two of my favourite shirts. So, I created more.

Please be advised: All shirts are printed, produced and shipped from TeeSpring in the United States. Shipping fees are determined by Teespring based on where you live.

If you would like to purchase one of these shirts, note that I will make a profit of roughly ten dollars per shirt sold. If you would like to own one of these shirts and want to support me/my blog, thank you so very much! And if you do not make a purchase, that is totally okay too! Thank you for reading and for your consistent support.

The #MillennialLifeCrisis TeeSpring store >


The #MillennialLifeCrisis logo shirt

The #MillennialLifeCrisis logo was the first thing I ever created when I made this blog. It has become somewhat of an… identity to both my blog, but also, this crazy stage of life, one that I know all too many people feel!

Available in t-shirt ($20), long sleeve ($25) and crew-neck ($30). Each of these prices is in American dollars. I believe that if you visit the site from elsewhere in the world, Teespring will convert the price to what it costs in your currency. Example: The t-shirt is $20 American, when I view the store front it shows it as being $26.13 Canadian.

Colours available include: black, grey light pink, light blue. Shirts are unisex sizes. Sizes available are dependent on the shirt you order.

The Millennial Life Crisis t-shirt

Buy it for yourself, or for your favourite Millennial. This design is available in t-shirt ($20) only. This price is in American dollars. I believe that if you view the website from elsewhere in the world, it will convert the price to your local currency.

Colours available include: white, grey, light pink, light blue. Shirts are unisex sizes. Sizes available are dependent on the shirt you order.

The AUTHENTIC MLC Shirt

Authenticity is a message that I often preach on my blog and something that I find great importance in. I wanted to create a shirt that made a statement. And, I truly believe this shirt does. The front of the shirt reads “Authentic” in large print with “MLC” underneath. MLC measures less than 1’x1′ in size. Its big enough to be there but small enough to not take away from the message.

Available in t-shirt ($20), long sleeve ($25) and crew-neck ($30). Each of these prices is in American dollars. If you visit the site from elsewhere in the world, Teespring will convert the price to what it costs in your currency. Example: The t-shirt is $20 American, when I view the store front it shows it as being $26.13 Canadian.

Colours available include: white, grey, light pink, light blue. Shirts are unisex sizes. Sizes available are dependent on the shirt you order.


All shirts will be available until November 10, 2019. If you would like to purchase one to rock the #MillennialLifeCrisis brand and support this blog, thank you! I am immensely thankful for your purchase.

Visit the #MillennialLifeCrisis TeeSpring Store >

If you do not want to purchase, that’s totally okay too. Thank you for your consistent reading and support of this blog and everything that I share. Your support has meant the world to me in 2019 and is a big part of what has gotten me through. So thank you so very much for all that you’ve given me!

And if you like what you see, please feel free to share with your friends, family and so on. I’d be interested to see the reach that this project of mine could possibly get.

Thanks so much ❤

Vee

Blogging 105: How do you get more comments on your blog posts?

Photo credit: lyfemarketing.com

Without knowing it, many of you have taken part in an experiment over the past couple of weeks. What? An experiment? How sneaky of me, I know! The experiment was a test to see just how many comments could be collected on one post, if I asked the right questions. And let me tell you, your responses did not disappoint!

One of the most common things I see asked with respect to blogging is how do you get more people to comment on your blog. People ask here on WordPress, they ask on Twitter, my former bosses used to ask me all the time. How do you get more people to comment on your blog, your content and your message? It’s actually a question asked in the corporate world quite a lot. Even companies like Nike and Starbucks can struggle with getting people to provide feedback.

So how do you encourage engagement? How do you get more comments? How do you cause people to stop by your blog and think ‘I need to comment on this post!’

Suggestion 1: Ask them!

It seems simple, right? But many corporations and individual bloggers forget. We get so wrapped up in sending the message that we want to send that we forget to quite simply ask people what they think, how they feel, what their opinions are.

The two posts on my blog that garnered the most comments over the past few weeks were posts in which I purposefully went out of my way to ask you for your opinions.

And your perspectives, I got! If you read the comments section of these two posts: Absolutely (un)important questions and I would like to hear your opinion you will see oodles of different opinions. Each post has more than 100 comments on it. People went out of their way to not just share line or two, but to send me meaningful, thoughtful opinions of their perspectives.

If you want people to leave comments on your blog, ASK THEM QUESTIONS. Talk with them… instead of at them. Let them know that you want to hear their opinions. Let them know that their opinions, no matter if they align or disagree with your own, are welcome on your blog and then encourage them to share. People like to share their own opinions and will feel a lot safer to do so if you let them know their opinions are welcome on your blog.

Suggestion 2: Thank people who do share.

All too often I stop by someone’s blog to leave a comment and they don’t bother to respond to my comment.

This is totally fine. You don’t have to respond to your comments. But I truly believe that if you don’t respond to the comments people leave on your blog, they aren’t likely to leave another. It’s true for me, and as you’re reading this, it’s probably true for you. If you take the time to leave someone a heartfelt comment and they don’t bother to write back, why would you do that ever again?

This is why it’s really important that, if you do get comments on your blog, you respond. Responding to your comments lets people know that, whether they agree with your not, their thoughts are welcome on your blog. Responding to your comments encourages people to come back to your blog. Responding to your comments shows the people reading your blog that you’re thankful for their reading your blog. When your readers find you, let them know you’re thankful for every comment they leave.

Also – please remember, not everyone communicates in the same way. Some people have a way with words where they can leave you a really eloquent comment whereas others might just say ‘Thank you for writing this’. Please don’t devalue ‘thank you for writing this’. A reader is still valuable to your blog, no matter how long of a comment they leave.

Suggestion 3: Encourage feedback.

While not every post on your blog is going to be you specifically going out of your way to ask people for their answers to important questions, you can ask for feedback on your own content.

When you make a blog post, encourage people to respond. If you’re sharing your opinion, ask people for theirs. If you’re sharing a short story, ask people what they think of your short story. If you’re sharing your art, ask people to rate it on a scale from 1-10. However you see fit, whatever you see most aligning with your post, encourage readers to give you feedback.

Please note – When you’re encouraging feedback, don’t end your posts with a question that can be answered with a single word. End your post with a question that asks people for their opinions.

Example: You write a post about a truly orgasmic pizza eating experience. On the end of the post you leave a question.

Bad Questions: Do you like pizza? Do you like cheese? Do you like pineapple on pizza?

Good Questions: Can you tell me about a time in your life when you just couldn’t believe the pizza you were eating? What made that pizza so incredible? What about that memory sticks out so well in your mind?

The reason why the bad questions are bad questions is because someone can say “Yes. No. Yes”. It’s so simple that it doesn’t really encourage any informative feedback, it only asks yes or no questions. Yes or no questions that can be answered so quickly people might just skip over answering them at all. On the other hand, with the good questions listed, if people read that, they’re going to want to share their stories with you. They’re going to take the time to think about the best pizza they’ve ever had and they’re going to type up the whole story in your comments button.

Suggestion 4: Leave a comment on another blog.

Simply put, people are more likely to view and leave comments on the blogs of people who’ve left comments on their blog.

Now it’s important to note that with this suggestion, I DO NOT mean to spam people. Don’t just go to someone’s blog and write “Hey Check out my blog!” in their comments. I mean that you should go to someone’s blog, leave them a thoughtful comment and then mention “Hey, I also just recently touched on this subject on my blog. Would you consider reading it?”

It’s worth noting that this happens ALL THE TIME in the corporate world. The Oreo brand is notorious for leaving comments on other brands from KitKat to Boeing to American Eagle. They do this because they know that in doing so, they’re supporting other companies, but also supporting themselves. When people see a comment from Oreo on an American Eagle release, Oreo knows that’s going to put their brand at top of mind for a lot of American Eagle customers. It’s a small piece to marketing, but if you do it properly, an effective one.


Encouraging engagement can be difficult when you’re just starting out. But, it’s worth noting that things are always difficult when you’re just starting out. The important thing is that you try. That you put your efforts towards not just building a blog but building a community. Because people want to know they’re a part of a community and they’re being talked with, not at.

Take it slow and steady, one step at a time. Even Everest is conquerable so long as you go at your own pace.

Good luck!

Quashing blogging myths

Photo: LYFE Marketing

As with all marketing/blogging advice posts on my blog, please take the following information with a grain of salt. I’ve made a lot of mistakes over the years, including believing pretty much every myth on this list. That being said, myths get propagated for a reason. So, by spreading the following info, I am hoping to quash some of those myths. If you disagree with what I’ve said, that’s totally okay, I welcome other’s opinions.


You need to be tech-savvy and have coding skills in order to start a blog. There’s a preconceived notion that for a blog to be popular, it needs to be fancy. The reality is that the most important piece of your blog is the content, not the appearance. You need not use fancy layouts and intricate coding to make the appearance look more extravagant. If you have quality content the content will speak for itself. If you know nothing about coding or design, as long as you can hit publish, you can still run your blog. So please don’t feel pressured ‘keep up with the Jones’s’ with respect to the appearance of your blog. Sometimes, simple is exactly what you need.

If you build it, they will come. There are 75,000,000 blogs on WordPress alone. If you’re thinking a large hoards of people will accidentally stumble upon your blog and love it enough to stay, the likelihood of that is probably the same as the likelihood of being struck by lightning. It may sound like I say it a lot, but the truth is, marketing is integral to growth.

You have to invest a lot of money in your blog in order to make it popular. Purchasing a domain, purchasing a layout, purchasing plug-ins, purchasing designs, etc… are not a requirement to your blog being a good blog. You are the requirement to your blog being a good blog. If you choose to purchase these things, that is your choice, but please do not feel as though you have to purchase these things… because not one of them is going to make your blog appear more visible to anyone.

Blogging is an easy way to earn a ton of cash. False. False. False. False. People who actually earn cash from their blogs have spent vast amount of time investing in growing themselves a blogging community. Nothing about organic growth is easy. It takes a lot of time and effort building relationships for growth. So if you do make it to a point where you are able to earn cash with your blog, this likely didn’t come without a lot of months/years work in the process.

You have to write every single day to keep people interested. False. False False False. I cannot stress enough how false this is. If you would like to blog every day, you can. But you are not required to. The requirement to keeping people interested is being consistent. Whether you commit to one post a day, one post a week, one post a month, whatever it is, if your community knows that, they’ll come back for your blog. You just need to be consistent in your publishing.

You shouldn’t write long posts. This is perhaps one of the silliest myths of all. There is no standard ‘optimal’ length of post. What people should be saying is ‘don’t be redundant’. If you write a post that is 20 paragraphs and you continue to repeat the exact same point paragraph after paragraph after paragraph, you might want to consider trimming down your writing. But, if you write a post and the entire post is valid, important content to showing your perspective or proving your point, then it shouldn’t matter whether the post is 5 paragraphs or 20 paragraphs. People will ALWAYS take the opportunity to read what they find interesting. Length has nothing to do with that.

Blogging should be about writing. Blogging is actually about expression. Whether you’re a writer, a comic, and artist, a musician, a comedian, a graphic designer, or anyone else who wants to share their passions through a blog, you have a place here. This notion that blogging is only for writers is very closed minded. If anyone tells you that you don’t belong, ignore them. You’re here for a reason, and I am happy you are.

A niche is ‘one subject only’. If you have more than one interest, why shouldn’t you be able to write about all of them? People treat a niche as though it can only be one thing, when that’s simply not true. Your niche can be ‘Parenting/Travel/Reading” or “Mental Health/Makeup/Home Care” or whatever you desire it to be. As long as you’re communicative about what your desires are for a niche, people can and will understand and will follow you. So please don’t let anyone pigeon-hole you into a single subject.

You have to censor yourself. This is simply the opposite of what you should be doing. If you have opinions, thoughts or feelings, so long as you’re not being hateful or spiteful, you should absolutely share all of your opinions, thoughts and feelings on your blog. After all, this is the point of your blog! Don’t be afraid to talk about politics or religion or other subjects that people deem ‘tough topics’. Just be aware of the fact that if you state your opinions online, about anything, you need to be ready, willing and open to having discussion about these subjects in a respectful manner. It’s only when someone is an asshole about their opinions that they seem to get in trouble.

People are going to love every post that you make. This is just not possible. Everyone has different likes and dislikes. While they may appreciate something you post, another like of yours that you post about might not be of any interest to them. Therefore, you will have some posts that are really popular and some posts that aren’t that noticed. This is normal! Don’t delete your posts because of this. Authenticity is key.