Had a good job interview… for a change.

Oy!

I thought I was the only person who added ‘Batman’ on the end of a statement when I was trying to accentuate the statement.

I had a job interview over Skype this afternoon. It was with an Architectural Design firm and I think that it went really well.

It started off on a bit of a funny note. I’ve been dealing with a woman at the firm who has been arranging the interviews for the CEO. When she called me on skype prior to the CEO walking in she was immediately startled and said ‘Holy Blue Eyes Batman!’

I laughed. I also said ‘Sorry’. I’m not sure why I said that. I just chalk it up to being Canadian. I’ve gotten reactions from people about my eyes for my entire life. It’s not really anything new for me. And I genuinely do think I startled her. I can’t imagine what it’s like to see my face as big as a wall.

She said ‘Are you wearing contacts?’

‘Nope, this is my natural eye colour,’ I said.

She apologized to me several times for commenting on my eyes (I think she felt really awful about her reaction), and then she told me she needed to dim the brightness of screen. (She seems like a good person. I bet if I did work there we’d be friends.)

The CEO came in, the interview went really well. I genuinely think they quite liked me. The CEO was laughing and told me that my qualifications were impressive on a few different occasions.

I don’t want to get my hopes up only to get disappointed, but my hopes are up with this one.

Cross your fingers for me, please!

The struggles of being female part three.

There are some very real struggles that come with being female. I’ve written two posts about this in the past, and I’ve been feeling the struggle this week so I was motivated to add more to the list.

This was meant to be both satirical and serious, but the majority of them ended up being more serious than satirical. Either way, these are some very real struggles that come with being female.

  1. When women are mean to other women. This drives me crazy, and I really hope I’m not the only one to feel this way. I’m of the belief that, as females, we should be bringing each other up, not tearing each other down. Empowerment, that’s what the world needs more of.
  2. Crop tops. I hope I’m not alone in this. As a 30 year old female, I am passed the stage in my life in which I would like to be wearing half-a-shirt. Crop tops seem to be having ‘a minute’ right now, and they’re all I seem to find in every store that I go. What drives me even crazier about crop tops is that they’re essentially half of a shirt, and they seem to cost twice as much as the equivalent in the men’s section. While in a store called ‘Journeys’ the other day, a men’s Champion brand hoodie was $40. A women’s cropped champion hoodie (half a hoodie) was $86. How does that make any sense? I want a full shirt.
  3. Double standards. If a man sleeps with a lot of women, he’s seen as a ‘hero’ so to speak. If a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she’s treated as though she’s a whore. If a man marries a younger woman, he’s again seen as a ‘hero’ for landing a younger woman. If a woman marries a younger man, she’s seen as taking advantage, or gross, or any one of the mecca of negativity society places on her. Why is it right for men and wrong for women? Look at how women are reacting to the Priyanka Chopra/Nick Jonas marriage. Why do so many people take such issue with it? Why does it matter?
  4. Employers/potential employers asking inappropriate questions that are none of their business. Three days ago, I made the mistake of answering the phone for an unknown number and it was the CEO of a company that I’d applied for a position with. Over the course of the forty minutes that we spoke, I proclaimed that I was wanting to relocate to be closer to my boyfriend. He then decided it was an appropriate question to ask me when I plan on having children. I can’t even begin to explain the ways in which that is inappropriate, uncalled for and none of his damn business. I don’t think he appreciated my answer, and I think he knew he pissed me off. Though we spoke of the prospect of me coming for an interview, I have yet to hear anything from him since. Which is fine. If that’s how an employer operates, I likely don’t want to work there anyway.
  5. ‘Don’t be so emotional’. Firstly, I take issue with this statement being thrown at women because of the fact that it paints the subject of being emotional as being a negative trait. There’s nothing wrong with being in touch with your emotions. Women, females, girls alike are kind, caring and giving. And being emotional helps contribute to that kindness and caring that we give to the world. Secondly, I take issue with this statement being thrown at women because it contributes to the culture of toxic-masculinity that instills a belief in men they’re not allowed to be emotional. Being emotional is not a negative thing.
  6. Why is makeup and skincare so darn expensive? I love collecting makeup, I really do. I love dolling myself up, I love trying different types of skincare and seeing what works and what doesn’t. It seems ridiculous to me that we’re in a time where a Drugstore Foundation costs $20.99 and Sephora Foundations can cost $200. Economically speaking, there’s no need for the markups on these products to be so high. Companies are taking advantage of us because they know they can.
  7. Walking alone after dark can be really scary. It is. If you’re a female and you’ve ever had to do this, on a creepy street, on a dark street, right downtown the city, you likely know what it’s like to walk with your keys in your knuckles, or to call someone while you’re walking just so that you have someone to talk you through your walk. You know what it’s like to want to park as close to the door as possible, or under the nearest streetlamp so that it’s not as dark. It’s not that I’m overly fearful of the world, it’s just that if you take the proper precautionary steps, you can avoid running into bad situations.
  8. Fake pockets in women’s pants. This one makes me so ragey! I want my pockets. Why you gotta play me like this? I have things I need to carry. Why are so many women’s pants made to look as though they have pockets when they really don’t?
  9. Trying to understand what goes on inside the mind’s of men at any given moment in time. Because you can see the wheels spinning in their head, you ask them what’s up, what they’re thinking or how they’re feeling and you’re hit with ‘Not much, nothing and fine’. You know that’s not the full answer, but you can’t force them to tell you anything.

Read previous installments here:

9 Struggles that come with being a girl >

The Struggles of being a girl, part two >

Why do roommates suck so hard?

When I finished university I made a promise to myself that I was going to always ensure I budgeted the money to live alone. I had a few ridiculous experiences in University with roommates that had turned me off roommates for a lifetime. But that’s a story for another day.

For nearly a decade, I did live alone.

When I moved out of my apartment at the end of January, I started crashing with Knight. Knight has a roommate, Derrick, that is… how would I describe him… hmmm. Knight’s roommate is a bipolar lunatic (and I don’t mean this in a way to be insensitive to someone who is bipolar, I mean it in that – when he’s nice, he’s nice, and when he’s not nice – you really don’t know what’s going to happen). When we come home each day we never know which side of his personality we’re going to meet.

Putting the big frustrations aside for a moment, let’s talk about the small frustrations with roommates.

When you live with someone – consideration is a necessity. Consideration is something that Derrick severely lacks.

We have one fridge – for three people. One fridge seems like a lot of space but three people sharing a fridge, when two of those people (Knight and myself) eat primarily fresh food only, the fridge fills up quickly. And it’s not because of Knight or I, that it does so. Derrick is one person who doesn’t even eat at home most of the time and he takes up 3/4 of that fridge. Why? How does one person eat so much? He doesn’t. There’s food in that fridge that expired three months ago.

Derrick is also a fan of taking off his clothes in various places throughout the house and leaving them in the middle of the floor. He also is a fan of making food and not finishing it and leaving it out in the living room for days on end before he actually cleans it up. Like we’re talking these things start growing mould before he cleans them up.

And one could argue – why don’t you just clean it up? Firstly, I do a considerable amount of cleaning in this house to start with – solely because dirty houses bother me. Secondly, I don’t feel as though cleaning up after him will solve anything. He’ll begin to think his ways are okay because I’ll just come along and clean them up. And I don’t want that. I’d rather pester him incessantly so that he knows it pisses me off.

Now, Derrick also is a particular fan of marijuana, and though I can’t prove it, I’m pretty sure he likes cocaine as well. When Derrick is high, there’s no dealing with him. Somehow, a man who is always complaining about the lack of money he has, always seems to have lots of pot around. He likes to mix his pot with alcohol and go off on benders on the weekends. He likes to scream and shout at the top of his lungs – including outside in an attempt to wake up all of the neighbours. Knight and I quite literally rejoice when he goes to his friend’s houses to party because it means we don’t have to deal with. I’m not opposed to someone having a good time. But, I think it’s kind of sad when you’re doing it alone at home to pass your time.

Derrick also likes to play up the ‘I’m a solo bachelor who doesn’t like to look after himself’ act. While he’s more than capable of cooking and eating properly, he frequently (somehow) weasels his way into eating the dinner that Knight and I make. Apparently we just ‘make such good food it’s hard to pass up’. That’s fine, we do make good food. But we run through it that much faster when a third person is eating it too.

I realize that I’m ranting at the moment and that these are very first world problems but man oh man do I really wish that I lived alone still.

Why does it seem like all roommates are inconsiderate assholes? Because I know I’m not the only one who deals with shit like this. And on the flip side, do they think I’m an inconsiderate asshole? Do I do things that annoy them in this way? I’d like to think that I’m pretty considerate of my situation, but maybe he thinks the same about me?

Long story short, roommates suck.

The struggles of being male.

I’m not male. I think that’s obvious by the posts that I’ve made on this blog. That being said, following my ‘Struggles of being a girl’ posts, I was challenged to come up with what I believe are ‘Struggles of being male’.

If you’re a guy and you’re reading this – if I am way off here, please don’t get offended. Please feel free to teach me more of what it’s like to be a male in 2019. After all, I am all about learning and I would genuinely like to know more of what it’s like to ‘wear your shoes’ so to speak.

Without further adieu, here goes:

  1. Societal expectations of ‘manliness’. I definitely don’t think it’s easy to be a man in a world where societal definitions of ‘manliness’ is to always be tough and always be strong and always be the ant holding the world on his shoulders. While I’m sure that every man has inherent toughness to him, I don’t think it can be an easy feat to always be ‘on’ and never be allowed to be vulnerable, or to struggle, or to just have a bad day. A lot of men in this world don’t/won’t talk about their feelings because of the notion that it makes them look weak… and that is not fair.
  2. Being turned-on in public. While I don’t witness this frequently (due to the fact that I definitely don’t wander around looking at men’s crotch areas) I have witnessed this a few times in my life. I can imagine that it’s extremely uncomfortable and awkward when it happens, especially because it can quite often be something out of a guy’s control. I reckon it’s a definite struggle of being male.
  3. All guys being labeled as bad guys. There are absolutely some pretty horrendous human beings who are a part of the male gender in this world. Those particular bad guys tend to ruin things for the rest of the gender because it’s so easy to right off guys as bad when one treats you poorly. I don’t think it comes from a place of malice when a girl labels guys as bad (the broken-heart can cause some serious judgement), but I do believe it’s not fair to the nice-guys and the good guys of this world when it happens.
  4. You’re expected to pay for everything. I’m truly not sure where this notion comes from. Perhaps it’s partially due to wage disparity, but probably largely due to the ‘manliness looks after’ notion, either way, I don’t think that it’s fully fair to men that they’re required to pay for everything. Whether it a meal, or a manicure, or whatever the expense may be, I have friends who will make the men in their lives pay for it. They’re not their husbands, or boyfriends, or even relations – they’re just guys they expect to buy them things. I don’t think that’s fair, or right. You shouldn’t be required to buy a girl something just to remain in her orbit.
  5. Facial Hair. As a female, I complain a lot about shaving my legs. But, truth be told, if I don’t want to shave my legs, I can put on pants and no one will be the wiser. Facial hair, on the other hand, you cannot hide. To those of you who shave every day, I commend you. You’re amazing. It’s also amazing how fast facial hair can grow. To shave in the morning and feel that 5’o clock shadow by the end of the work day – that has got to be annoying. And I’m bet that girls heckling you about the equivalence of kissing a chia-pet only makes shaving that much more annoying. Facial hair just seems as though it would be a massive annoyance.
  6. Double standards. I can’t imagine how frustrating it is when a man suffers or struggles with a very real issue that women deal with every day and, as a man, he’s treated as though it doesn’t matter. Men can be sexually harassed, too. And when they are, often times people either don’t believe them or they use the stereotypical ‘Man Up’ response, as though the harassment shouldn’t matter because they’re a man and they should be tough. Some women treat men awfully, and society expects them to grin and bear it and for that, just know – I hear you, I understand you and I feel your frustrations/pains.
  7. Balding. Seriously – balding must be a real bitch. (Please forgive my language, I felt it a necessary inflection of the sentence) If you’re one of the lucky ones (cough ~ John Stamos) who’ll have luscious hair forever, count your blessings. But, for the majority of men, society isn’t always kind about a man’s appearance when his hair is thinning. Also – tying this to the facial hair point – how weird is it that the hair on the top of your head starts thinning but the hair on your chin stays bushy like a werewolf forever? I don’t understand. Either way, though, I feel you.
  8. Guys are not always kind to one another. I’ve noticed this quite a lot, actually. Unless they’re friends, I’ve noticed that guys can be quite mean to each other – both to one another’s faces and behind each other’s backs. It’s got to be tough to think that you’re in competition with someone just because he’s there and he exists.
  9. Urinals. I don’t really think this one needs explanation – so I will just say – peeing in front of other men has got to create some really weird/awkward situations.

As with all struggles, I am sure that there are a ton. I could likely go on and on with this list, but I will leave it here for now. If you’re a guy and you read this, I hope that I’m not too far out-of-touch with the struggles that you face. If you have any struggles that you’d like to add to my list, or you’d like to educate me on anything that I’ve included on this list, I welcome the discussion.