Why I dislike ‘Influencers’.

This is a subject that I’m really passionate about. I dislike the term ‘Influencer’. I dislike promoting ‘Influencers’, but I will talk about a couple in this post, or examples sake. I just don’t think they deserve the publicity they get. I dislike the fact that they claim their fame willingly and are happy to reap the rewards of said fame, but hold very little accountability when it comes to the things they do.

  1. Influence is a powerful thing and something that should never be taken for granted, yet I find that so many influencers really don’t give a damn about that fact. They’re just out for money. And damn, if they have a large enough following it doesn’t even seem like they have to work for that money. It just seems to get handed to them. Vegans promoting meat, minimalists promoting stockpiling, devout Christians exclaiming their followers should save themselves for marriage whilst sitting there unmarried and pregnant. It’s a weird, weird world, the internet.
  2. They seem very entitled. “I don’t owe you guys anything” is a statement that really annoys me when I’m watching Youtube videos. You choose to put yourself online. You choose to sell yourself to the likes of coffee creamers and adult diapers for a dollar and then when someone asks you questions the answer is ‘I don’t owe you guys anything’? If you don’t want to owe anyone a response, don’t make the statement to start with.
  3. They seem so disingenuous. There is one particular ‘Influencer’ who I watched peddle a product on their Instagram in four separate photos talking about how amazing it was and how it blew competitors out of the water. Two months later, I saw them make a Youtube video in which they proclaimed they had never actually tried that product. Girl was getting so many sponsored Instagram posts that she couldn’t even remember what she was sponsored for long enough to not put her foot in her mouth. And, when she was called out on it, for her Instagram photos, she deleted the Instagram photos and then began blocking those users calling her out. She presently has 3.7 million subscibers on Youtube and when anyone calls out her ‘slip-ups’, she blocks them. And honestly, she’s not a one off. It happens all the time. On Youtube channels big and small.
  4. Influencers promote mass consumption/over consumption. Honestly, the makeup, the clothing, the ‘HAULS’ the excess of everything that they need to have and brag about having… it’s not necessary. None of it is necessary. But, if you put a smile on your face and slap a filter on it, there’s always someone (a naive soul) on this earth who will spend their money on it.
  5. None of them appear to be making original content anymore. Have you ever watched a Youtube video before and thought ‘Man, I’ve seen this 30 times already!’ Yeah, that seems to happen a lot these days. Favourites videos and fashion hauls, so on and so forth… it’s all the same no matter what Youtube channel you watch.
  6. I absolutely despise when they post ‘Hauls’ and leave the tags visibly on the products because you know they’ve only purchased the things to make a video and then they’re sending the products right back. This isn’t just with clothes, it’s with makeup and toys and home goods and luxury goods. They want to make it look like they’re spending a lot of money when in reality, you’re never going to see that item again because it’s going right back to the store it came from.
  7. “Full transparency, this video is not sponsored, I’m just going to go on and on for the next eight minutes about how much I love this one particular product for no reason.” Full transparency doesn’t mean much to me on the web. People lie. All the time. Especially in the world of Youtube, especially with ‘Influencers’ who live in countries in which there are no regulations stating they need to acknowledge when content is sponsored. If you’re ever in doubt, there’s a 95% chance their content is sponsored.
  8. I wholeheartedly believe they’re given so much stuff that they lose sight of what basic things cost because they just don’t have to buy them anymore. There’s a good chance when an ‘Influencer’ claims something is affordable, it might be… for them… because they don’t buy anything anymore. But for us regular folk, it’s definitely not affordable.
  9. So much drama. Seriously – The majority of James Charles’ audience is young teenagers and look at all the shit he’s pulled this year! Jake Paul and Tana Mongeau held a fake marriage in Las Vegas and charged people $49.99 to watch a livestream of it. Nikita Dragun paid a male model to be her boyfriend. Jaclyn Hill released defective lipsticks and started insulting people when they called her out on it. There’s a reason why Gossip Channels have skyrocketed in popularity this year… it’s because they seem to be the only channels wiling to be transparent and honest.
  10. “I make more than a doctor.” Girl, we get it. You make a lot of money. That totally natural photo of you leaning out the window of your hotel in France to promote a lipstick we’ll never see you wear ever again probably pays you a quarter of my 2018 salary. And those adult diapers you claim to make your 9 and 10 year old kids wear on roadtrips because you don’t like to stop, probably boosted your pay to half my salary last year. None of it seems natural though. None of it seems even remotely real. And I hope that I’m not alone in thinking this.

Personally, I cringe when I see #AD #SP #Sponored #Partner or any other remotely similar thing included in Youtube Videos or Instagram post. It immediately makes me think ‘well, I know what the company told them to say, so how about I go and find a video or post that was not sponsored to be able to see a real review. Because these ‘Influencers’ have cornered the market of the very real reality that is people use google for review of products before they buy.

Men, women across the world are making millions of dollars advertising products to people online that they’ve never seen nor used and they’re being less than transparent about it. And not just money they’re getting either. They’re getting free trips, tickets to Coachella, being given vehicles and so on and so forth. It’s just not real. They’re chasing this fancy, exorbitant lifestyle so hard that they’re willing to sell anything in the process.

Think it’s just adults doing this? ‘Ryan’s Toy Review’ is a multi-million dollar making seven year old that deceptively markets, through his Youtube channel (with help of his parents), a multitude of products to young school and preschool aged children in violation of rules from the FTC. It’s estimated that 90% of the content on the channel is sponsored, leaving just 10% to be organic genuine content. If adults have a hard enough time trying to determine what is and isn’t sponsored on Youtube, imagine how impossible that would be for a preschooler.

I guess the point of this rant is just to say, don’t believe everything that you read online. Odds are, if there’s money involved, there’s more to the story than what you’re being told.

How to not be an asshole.

A list and reminder of how to be a decent human being.

  1. Understand that you can disagree with someone and still respect them.
  2. Understand that everyone on this earth is entitled to their own opinion.
  3. If you feel like insulting someone, don’t.
  4. If you want to talk down to someone, remember that you, too, live in a glass house.
  5. If you dont like someone, for whatever reason, you don’t have to he friends with them. Go be friends with someone else.
  6. Remember that just because “they” say it doesn’t mean that it’s true.
  7. If you consistently get the urge to punch someone, take up kickboxing or karate or some sort of physical activity to help get out your aggression in a positive way.
  8. Try to not judge, wherever possible.
  9. If you disagree with someone’s parenting, unless the child is in danger of severe harm/abuse, butt out(this is a very clear distinction). It’s not your child. Whether the parent has rules about screen time or junk food or lacks curfews or anything of the sort, it’s not your child.
  10. If you do not agree with the choices someone is making keep it to yourself.
  11. If you feel the urge to yell, try waiting until you’ve calmed down to have a conversation like a mature human being.
  12. If you dont like the way someone is leading their life, remind yourself that it’s their life, not yours.
  13. If you find yourself bullying someone and you realize you’re doing it, stop. You can make the choice to change.
  14. Operate based on facts, not personal opinions.
  15. If you dont have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
  16. Road rage is not productive. There are bad drivers all over the world. If you feel like swearing or screaming or gesturing, remember they likely won’t hear you or see you. And if you get the urge to do something more drastic, pyerhaps you should worry more about your anger issues rather than their lack of driving skills.
  17. Don’t drive with your high-beams on in traffic at night. Also, don’t tailgate people on the highway.
  18. Do not push your religious beliefs on anyone.
  19. Apologize. Always apologize.

Adventures in job hunting: the fastest rejection I’ve ever received.

I applied for a position of Marketing Coordinator with this company on Monday, September 9th at around 8:30 pm via online submission.

The following is an email chain that went on between myself and this company yesterday, September 10th.

Email from potential employer: Tuesday, September 10th @ 9:00 am.

Good Morning Vee (my full name was used),

We have reviewed your application and are impressed with your qualifications and experience. We would like to know if you could come for an interview at our office [insert Calgary address here] on either Tuesday, Sept 17th or Wednesday Sept 18.

Please get back to me as soon as possible.

Thanks, G (full name was used)

Response email that I sent: Tuesday, September 10th @ 12:00 pm.

Good Afternoon G,

My apologies for the slow response.

Given the distance it would take for me to get to this initial interview, I am wondering if there is there a possibility that I could do my initial interview over the telephone or Skype?

Please let me know.

Thank you, Vee

Email from potential employer: Tuesday, September 10th @ 1:00 pm

Hi Vee,

Please kindly note that this job is located in Calgary.

Is that what you are looking for?

Response email that I sent: Tuesday, September 10th @ 1:11 pm

Hi G,

I am most definitely looking for a position in Calgary. I would like to relocate to Calgary to both work and live.

Thanks, Vee

Email from potential employer: Tuesday, September 10th @ 1:30 pm

Thank you for your response, Vee.

If you would like to relocate to Calgary then why are you unwilling to come to Calgary for an interview?

Thanks, G

Response that I sent: Tuesday September 10th @ 1:35 pm

Good Afternoon G,

Please note that I am not unwilling to come for an interview. I am simply asking if, for the first round of interviews, I might be able to do mine over the telephone or skype.

Then, if selected as one of the candidates you most like, I’d be happy to come to Calgary for an interview once the candidate pool has been whittled down to your final candidates.

Thanks, Vee

Email from potential employer: Tuesday, September 10th @ 4:55 pm

Good Afternoon Vee,

Thank you for clarifying.

While I would very much like to offer interviews to candidates from other cities and locations and offer the opportunity to do interviews over Skype and the telephone, we have already offered this position to another candidate and they have accepted.

Best of luck in your career search.

Thanks, G

Though it notes in several places on my resume that I presently have a BC address, what I’ve learned from this email chain is that they really didn’t read much of my resume.

I do not believe that they’ve hired someone for the position. I just think once they actually realized that I do not live in Calgary they stopped considering me for the job. And when they stopped considering me for the job, they needed to come up with a reason to explain why I was no longer being considered.

I could be wrong, but I don’t think I am.

As a hiring manager, to offer someone an interview on Tuesday morning for seven days in the future, how on earth could you then have hired someone for the position less than twelve hours later?

Also, if you’ve hired someone for the position, wouldn’t you take the posting off of LinkedIn and Indeed?

To conclude: It appears as though this company is not looking to hire the best candidate for the position, they’re main priority of importance is to hire someone that already lives in Calgary.

“You’re just so nice.” (A rant)

I believe that I’ve reached a point in my career in which one of my tragic flaws is that I come across as too nice. It’s something that I hear a lot, actually. From recruiters, from strangers, from hiring managers, from interviewers, from uber drivers, from coworkers, from anyone on the planet that doesn’t actually know me. I guess that’s just how I come across to the world.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe there’s anything bad about being too nice. I like being nice. I like being reliable, dependable and approachable. I like that people feel they can come to me. I like my calm voice and my quiet demeanor.

Somewhere along the superficial exercise that has become job hunting in 2019, being nice has become a flaw. People don’t see being nice as something they need in their business. People don’t believe that I can stand up for myself, and therefore, that I can stand up for them and their business.

The catch 22 in all of this? In reality, I’m not all that nice. If someone were to speak with any of my family or friends, they’d learn really quickly that I’m an ornery human being. But, when someone takes all of 1.5 minutes to read your resume and that’s the conclusions they draw about you, that’s what you get. That’s all you get.

I received an email last night that was really thoughtful and filled with helpful advice for my in my career search. It was an email that contained some really great, helpful advice that I’m definitely going to look into and try and try to incorporate. And, while I really appreciated the email and thought that it was very kind of said person to write it to me, one of the things that was said in the email was a reminder of how people are so quick to judge.

“You seem like a nice candidate, not a need candidate.”

I’m nice and people don’t need nice. That’s what I keep hearing.

If people believe me to be nice and nothing more, then I need to do some restructuring of my resume and cover letter again to come across as less-nice. Again, I see nothing wrong with being nice. But, that’s apparently not what companies want anymore.

I have no problem standing up for myself. Actually, one of the reasons why I am no longer with my previous employer was because of my standing up for myself. But, perhaps the soft voice and calm demeanor doesn’t convey that. Perhaps the friendly cover letter doesn’t showcase what it is that I’m capable of because people are to busy thinking ‘she seems nice’.

It’s funny, you know, trying to navigate what it is that people want. The majority of the hiring managers I’ve dealt with this year are men. And men, I’ve come to find, really don’t like strong women. In my 30 years on this earth, I’ve met very few men who actually like strong, opinionated, powerful women. They prefer women to be calm, cool, easy going. So, I convey a version of calm, cool and easy going in job hunting as a mean of appealing to said stereotype and all I get is ‘you’re so nice’.and ‘you just seem so nice’ and ‘you’re too nice’.

Where’s the balance? There doesn’t seem to be one. There doesn’t seem to be a way to win. You are either wrong, or you’re wrong.

And that fucking sucks.

I’d be curious to see what they’d say if they met the real, ornery, put-you-in-your-place, no qualms about me. I’d be curious to see what they’d think of me then.

I realize that you have to ‘play-their-game’ in order to get hired. But I just happen to be someone who thinks their game is fucking stupid.

Things that piss me off.

The widespread notion that the Millennial generation is lazy and entitled. Honestly, I think this is a made up notion to cover the fact that people don’t understand Millennials chasing different lifestyles and following different values than the generations before us. The notion that time is what makes a person worthy of a promotion is archaic. If a Millennial is good enough to be in charge, don’t hold them back because you think they’re too young. People don’t hold back athletes for being too young, they realize that you can reach peak performance to compete at the Olympics whether you’re 16 or 36. Yet when it comes to the corporate world, if you’re not 36 and you ask for a promotion, you’re an entitled little brat who hasn’t ‘earned it’. And to be quite frank, the Millennial generation is the most educated generation on earth, to date. Stop selling us short.

People that lack manners. Genuinely, they cost nothing, take very little effort and they mean everything both to the people you know and to the people you don’t know. Say excuse me if you burp in public. Hold a door that extra two seconds, rather than letting it slam in someone’s face. Small things, they make a world of difference.

Families that ‘vlog’ their lives and their kids and put everything on the internet for the world to see. Those kids don’t get a say in the matter. They’re not getting a choice in what’s posted and what’s out there for the world to see, forever. They’re going to be the ones who try to apply for jobs in twenty years only to have potential employers google them and see an essential ‘play-by-play’ of their lives up to that point. And that’s not fair. It especially makes me ragey when parents put things out there that are all-too inappropriate for the world to see. I wish these people would stop and think ‘what if my child doesn’t want their face out their for the world to see?’ and ‘How will my children feel when they’re 18 and applying to colleges and I’ve posted videos of them online trying to use the toilet?”

When people push their religious beliefs on others. I’m all for people being able to believe in whatever religion they choose. You have a right to your religious beliefs. You do not, however, have a right to push those religious beliefs onto others. This belief has been one that I have had for a long time, but it’s top of mind today as a video has surfaced of the man running to be Prime Minister of Canada making a speech stating that gay couples lack the inherent quality of marriage and therefore should not be able to legally marry. He then went on to compare gay people to being the tail of a dog. That, Mr. Scheer, is your deeply rooted religious belief. While I vehemently disagree with your belief and find your comparison of gay people to the tail of a dog abhorrent, you have every right to your own beliefs. You do not, however, have any fucking right to push that belief on the Canadian public. When you say that you’re ‘for the people’ you need to be for all people, not just for those that follow your religious beliefs. I’m genuinely scared for the future of Canadian culture if you’re elected in November.

When people say ‘no offense’ right before they say something offensive. Saying ‘no offense’ does not negate the offensiveness of your statement, nor does it let you off the hook. Please don’t expect me to just let it slide, because it’s not going to happen.

Honestly, I could probably go on and on, but I’ll draw there. I’ve got my venting done.

Day by day my soul strips away.

Okay, that’s a little dramatic, I’ll admit. But when I get upset, that seems to be how I feel.

I went to a job interview today for an office assistant position. The position title was “Office Assistant”, I did not misread it. Thinking I’m more than capable of doing that, I applied.

Upon getting to the interview today, I learned that they weren’t wanting an office assistant, they already had one. They were wanting a collections agent.

The company is 1.6 million dollars in debt, due to the lack of collecting payment for services rendered over the past several years. As they sat there explaining to me the position requirements that were, and I quote: “making calls all day every day to collect payment”, I couldn’t help but think I was wasting my time.

When I was asked if I had any questions for him, I only asked one question. I said: “Why did you advertise for an office assistant if you’re looking for a collections agent?”

The boss was dumbfounded that I would ask such a blunt question in an interview.

His response? “I’ll be straight with you, doll. I really didn’t think that I would attract the right type of candidates if I posted the job was for collections.”

I can’t even begin to explain how much it made my skin crawl to hear a 65 year old lying creep refer to me as ‘Doll’ in a job interview. But hey, at least he was straight up willing to admit he lied through his teeth because he knows the job he’s offering is shit. A LOT of employers won’t do that.

When he asked if it was a job I was interested in I told him that I’d need to think about because I have no experience with collections and that’s a definite worry of mine.

His response? “Don’t worry doll. With that sweet and sultry voice of yours I’m sure you can convince anyone you talk to of anything. Getting money from them will be a piece of cake.”

Excuse me while I hold back my vomit.

I said ‘thanks for your time’ and then went on my way.

I’m really not sure what to do. On the one hand, I need a job. On the other, if he’s talking to me like that in an interview, I can’t imagine what he’d talk like if I was actually his employee. Also, if he can flat-out lie on the job posting, how do I know what he says is truth or not?

Ugh.

Unemployment.

Can Wal-Mart just hire me already? It seems like it’d be nice to just stand at the cash register and scan items through for eight hours. It’s mindless. I could do that. I could do that well. Seems like a much better way to make minimum wage than working for a creepy boss trying to collect more than 1.6 million dollars in unpaid funds.

When in doubt, rant it out.

I want to take a brief moment to point out the importance of ranting. See, most people in my day-to-day life tend to get annoyed when I rant. Actually, I think that’s probably true of almost everyone. People don’t like to listen to ranting. But I think it’s important that everyone take the opportunity to rant.

If something is bothering you. If something’s unfair. If something’s ridiculous, you should be able to say it. Setting aside the catharsis that comes from ranting, it’s important to note the unfairness and injustices in this world. Ranting ensures that we aren’t allowed to hide from the unfairness or injustice. When these subjects are brought to the forefront no matter how big or small, it ensures that we can’t hide from them, that we face these feelings head on.

I think that’s why I like wordpress so much. It’s provided me a place to rant where people accept and appreciate what I have to say.

I believe in ranting and I appreciate others when they’re able to share their true thoughts and their truth with me. It should also be noted that you can rant without being mean. As long as they’re constructive about it, I love listening to people rant. I think ranting is extremely helpful for one’s mental health.

Rant away, I say.


PS. I went to the doctor this afternoon and he told me I’m suffering from a migraine. Thanks to everyone for your kind comments last night that included suggestions about things to do to deal with pain. Presently trying to lay low. Hoping to be back to my normal self soon.


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