I’m alive.

I made it home last night around 10 pm.

I really didn’t get to posting any of the stuff I’ve had in my drafts – pretty privilege, things to know before buying a car, a few other hot topics I’ve been wanting to talk about for MONTHS. The airport got real busy, real fast. I also flaked and spent time researching some more about the company that I have an interview for tomorrow.

The plane ride home was stupid. I was sat next to a young kid who clearly had some form of ADHD, Which, hey. Kids are kids. I get that and I try to patient whenever I can. But honestly, his mother was not helping the situation AT ALL. I probably resented his mom more then I resented him. He kicked me. He elbowed me. He screamed at me. The flight attendants came to ask him to put his mask on at least a dozen times. I asked him to put his mask on at least a dozen times. His mom’s response was “He’s a child, there’s nothing I can do!” Then she continued to pump him full of sugar. Seriously, she gave him two cans of sprite and a bag full of Swedish fish candies. I’m not a parent. So my judgment is just that, judgment. But, if I were in her position, perhaps the shoveling sugar in his mouth during a cross country flight isn’t the smartest to help a hyperactive child who’s supposed to sit for 5 hours.

It’s unfortunate. It’s unpleasant to get elbowed and kicked. But again, I know that kids are kids. There’s a lot that I can tolerate because of that reasoning. I just think that his mother was pretty fucking negligent in the entire scenario.

Anyways, enough complaining about that.

I made it home around 10 last night. I did some laundry and I collapsed into my bed.

Work today has been okay. Busy, yes. I’m a little distracted because of my job interview tomorrow. This job interview has thrown me for a loop because it wasn’t something I actively applied for. This company approached me. I don’t want to get my hopes up, but I do want to get my hopes up. I want to do well. I want to put my best foot forward.

I’m doing homework tonight. I have to catch up on virtual school because I didn’t do any of it whilst I was away. *Slaps my own hand.* Today the teacher asked us to make a brand style guide. I obviously have one already because, duh. I work in Marketing. I’d be pretty shitty at my job if I didn’t. I do have to work on unit conversions, though.

I’ve recently discovered this song and I think it’s worth the listen. The music video is very weird. But if you can just not watch the screen, the song is great.

Now, does someone want to come and do my laundry?

Last Day

I had the best time last night. One of the things that’s really nice about being here is that the world isn’t bat-shit crazy. Unvaccinated people in Alberta are literally holding the province hostage with their protests and their COVID parties and their screaming fits in public forums to try and make life as uncomfortable as possible. While I know life isn’t perfect anywhere, it’s been nice to not have to deal with that shit for a week.

People just… put on masks here. Like it’s the easy task that it should be in Alberta, too.

Today I’m going to grab some lunch from a place called ‘The Burger’s Priest’. I had it for lunch last Thursday and it was, without doubt in my mind, the best hamburger I’ve ever eaten. I was going to go and see if I could get an old acquaintance to show me around Scotiabank Arena, but I think I’m going to skip that.

I actually might go to Ripley’s Aquarium if I can get a ticket/time slot. Apparently it’s “can’t miss”.

One day left. Let’s do this.

Travelling during a pandemic

Greetings from Toronto.

When I came back from my Vancouver trip, I promised myself that I was going to make an effort to travel the latter half of this year. The original plan was Toronto in October, Ottawa in November and Montreal in December. This plan skipped September because I had someone important I wanted to come and see me in September and I need to leave the window as wide open as possible for them to come. Anyways, the plan was October, November and December.

Now that I’m here, I don’t think I’m going to do November and December.

Travelling right now is hard.

As careful as I’m trying to be, people are not nice when they learn that I’ve travelled from Alberta. I’m looked at, and treated, like I’m a pariah. I’ve been trying to hide that, but it’s difficult because you have to show proof of vaccination here, so everywhere I go, they learn it anyways.

It was pouring rain in Toronto today. I wandered into a mall to see if I could find somewhere that was selling umbrellas and I was not fifty feet in a mall when a man stopped me and asked me why I was so warm. When I asked him what he was talking about, he said ‘You’re sweating’. I said ‘No, I’m not, it’s pouring rain outside’. His response was to tell me that I looked ill and I shouldn’t be out in public. Again, it was pouring rain and I didn’t have an umbrella. I told him ‘Thanks for being an asshole’ and walked away. The whole situation was very off-putting. I ended up just leaving the mall and continuing to wander around in the rain without an umbrella.

I don’t know.

I’ve always reverted back to Vancouver because I have two best friends that live there. I can stay at their houses, I can drive their cars. I can do as I please.

The point of this trip, and of November and December were to go places I haven’t spent time. Because I worked in sports for so long, I have contacts basically across North America, and, I guess, the world. I was going to ‘exploit’ those acquaintances/friendships for someone to take me sightseeing. My friend that I was coming to see here, she was like ‘Yeah, it’ll be amazing, I’ll take you here —– and here —- and here —-‘. So far we went to the hockey hall of fame. Which, was great, don’t get me wrong, but it’s been a bit of a let down. And I’m realizing that its my own let down because she’s not one of my best friends. You know, my friends in Vancouver, I know they’d dedicate time for me when I visit, and I for some reason expected that here, even though we’re not nearly close to that same level of friendship. I don’t have a reason to be disappointed in her, though I want to be. It’s dumb.

But, if this is what I got in Toronto, I’m realizing I can’t expect much more from my friends/acquaintances in Ottawa and Montreal. So, perhaps I should wait to travel to these cities until I can bring someone with me?

I don’t know. Perhaps I should stick to Alberta until COVID is over. Which, at this rate, could be never. I’m definitely rethinking Ottawa and Montreal, though. Maybe I’ll just stay in my own city in November, and just rent a nice hotel room or something.

I shouldn’t be disappointed. But I am.

In other, completely unrelated news, someone reached out to me on LinkedIn and asked if I’d be willing to interview for a job at their company. So, I have a job interview next Friday. I asked him if he wanted my resume and he said no. Who knows, maybe this could be a new job for me?

Adventures await

When I really stop to think about it, the times when I’m most happy is when I’m exploring. No plans are necessary, I am just happy to go.

I love day trips, I love weekend trips, I love vacations, I just love leaving. The act of going somewhere, of leaving and knowing that I’ll be headed for somewhere I haven’t seen yet, or have seen and am excited to see again, that’s what makes me most happy in this world.

Being among the skyscrapers in a city where I couldn’t ever explore everything fills me with a sense of wonder and a desire to walk more, see more, and do more. Being among the trees, deep in the mountains, fills me with a sense of admiration for our world and how the most beautiful things on earth aren’t man-made. Being at the beach fills me with a sense of calm, listening to the waves crash the shore, watching the tides roll in and out and feeling like the universe is far greater then I could ever imagine.

I love it all. I love the great plains, the arctic tundra, the dense forests and biggest of cities. I’m lucky enough to have seen a lot of it, but there’s still so much more to see. I love ghost towns, oh ghost towns are so cool. Exploring is what fulfills me. Seeing how the other half lives – whether that’s 14 million people in a city, or the family of big horn sheep that taunt people are Radium Hot springs, it’s fascinating.

Speaking of big horn sheep, Radium Hot Springs is a tiny town in the interior of British Columbia, Canada. Probably 100 years ago, the Hot Springs were discovered in the mountains and the tiny town was built around the hot springs, and eventually the local ski areas. The big horn sheep that are native to the area, instead of moving, basically said ‘Fuck you, humans. We were here first’. Anyways, they basically control the town. There are hundreds, if not thousands of them. There’s more big horn sheep in the town then there are people. They hold up traffic, they swim in the pool, they block the entrance to the grocery store when they’re bored. They just can’t be bothered to care about the humans around trying to live their lives. It’s quite an awesome little town to see because humans have failed so miserably at ‘controlling’ the area and are at the complete behest of these adorable, and scary, sheep.

Big Horn Sheep just living their best lives.

Being somewhere other than home, it makes me feel alive.

Here’s to hoping there’s more adventures in my future, sooner rather than later. Maybe even someone to come with me.

To state the obvious

Lots going on in the world right now. I am entranced with the Pandora papers and will likely spend my entire Thanksgiving weekend reviewing that. But, I wanted to point out an obvious takeaway from yesterday. Instagram, Facebook and Whatsapp were all down for just over eight hours.

While I was getting really annoyed about how everyone and their dog was seemingly complaining about not having access to Instagram, I thought to myself, ‘this seems so much worse to people because of the trend that so many people use Instagram, and solely Instagram, for promotion of their business’.

So, my advice to the world, if you weren’t already doing such, DIVERSIFY.

Don’t put all your stupid eggs into the Instagram basket.

Don’t rely solely on an Instgram feed to promote yourself, or your book, MLM, art, fashion, photography or whatever else it is you share online. Why? Because when Instagram goes down, IT GOES DOWN.

The Communications directors for Facebook/Instagram actually had to take to Twitter to announce the outage and that it was being worked on. Yeah, how bout them apples?

An amazing website is a great resource you can give yourself. But beyond that, it’s always a smart idea to diversify your social media portfolio if you’re a creative sharing your work, or running a main business/side hustle. When something goes down, and it will go down, you’re not losing an entire’s day worth of promotion. And you’re definitely not losing out on potential revenue.

To state the obvious, a business should never exist solely on Instagram. Or on any single platform.

Oh, also, if you rely on Whatsapp to communicate necessary messaging to someone (yesterday there was a teacher on the news who was complaining that she couldn’t communicate with students), you should always have a backup plan. Again, you should never be reliant on one platform for a means of communicating. It’s not really that hard for a teacher to have had email addresses collected and send out a BCC listed note. Did she have the critical thinking skills necessary to collect email addresses? Guess not, considering how much she was bitching last night.

I need a new computer

Guys, I’m in desperate need of a new computer.

I continue to be approached by people looking to hire me for consulting work and my current setup just isn’t cutting it.

The computer that I’m typing this message on is from 2013. It’s a Lenovo, and it’s a beast. I love it dearly, but it’s getting to that point in a computer’s life in which it cannot function properly anymore. It doesn’t deal well with bluetooth, or two factor authentication, etc…

I have a computer that I have been trying to use for design work, but it’s not powerful enough. I need a bigger hard drive, I need more processing power. I need more from it.

I don’t want to spend obscene amounts of money on a computer. But also, if I did buy a real quality computer that I could use for eight years, like I’ve used this one, I could probably make my money back ten-fold.

Ugh.

It’s so hard.

I don’t know what computer to buy.

I also don’t wan to spend this much money on a computer so close to Christmas.

Tips? Suggestions?

Thank you

Female Anatomy/Biology

There’s a lot of misinformation coming out of quite a few US States right now surrounding a particular topic started in Texas recently. I’m not here to start arguments, or fights, I just want to clarify a couple of points for people who might not know better.

First, let’s throw out a few thoughts about periods.

  • Suggesting that a woman has a period once per month is a generalized statistic. Birth control pills are structured to give a woman a period once per month. If you’re not on birth control, the natural function of your body could give you a period once every 20 days, or it could even give you a period once every 40 days or 50 days. When it comes to biology it really depends on the woman and how her body works. It is definitely not the case that every female gets a period once per month.
  • If you are not on birth control, it is extremely hard to predict when your period will come. If you’re stressed, your diet changes, you’re taking some sort of medication, you’re sick, etc…, it can all play an impact in your period being late. Females around the world can probably all agree that it’s not uncommon for a period to be late.
  • If you are on some form of birth control pill, it’s still not an exact science to predict when your period will start. Some women have periods that last 5-7 days. Some women have periods that last two days. If you finish your progresterone/estrogen combo after 21 days and your period is only two days, that can come at any point in the next seven days.
  • If you have an implant, it might be possible that you don’t have a period at all.

Okay, now lets talk about this “You have 6 weeks to make a decision from the time you have sex”.

Talking about another generalized statistic here, a woman has only a certain window in the month in which she actually can get pregnant. It’s not possible to get pregnant when your body is not ovulating.

  • It is EXTREMELY difficult to track when your body is ovulating. For women who are actively trying to get pregnant, it takes a lot of work to track the ovulation cycle. And, for women who aren’t trying to get pregnant, I can’t speak for all women, but I have a hunch the majority of us just don’t pay attention.
  • Pregnancy occurs in the days leading up to ovulation, and the day of ovulation. If you’re not tracking that, then… you have no idea. Why would you? You’re not trying to get pregnant.
  • Now, let’s use the generalized statistic that a woman’s period comes once every 30 days. Technically, an estimation would be that she is ovulating anywhere in the period of 10-16 days before her next period. So if she’s guessing that her period is coming October 1st, the ovulation cycle could be anywhere between the 15th and 20th of the month September
  • Let’s say, for example, that a woman had sex on the 15th of September. If there was a possibility of getting pregnant from the sex had (her partner finished inside of her), it’s not immediate. Implantation needs to happen. That can take a whole week. That can take a day, that can take three days. It all depends on the woman.
  • So, let’s say, for example’s sake, a woman had sex on the 15th, and implantation occurred the following week. She’s now at three weeks post period. It can take another full week before a woman has enough HCG in her body for an at-home pregnancy test to tell her she’s pregnant. HCG has to build up in the body for a pregnancy to be detected. At this point in time, a woman is a full four weeks past her previous period. Her next period could be coming any day, or if she’s stressed it could be coming in another two weeks. There’s no way to know for certain because the body doesn’t work on a calendar cycle.
  • If she waits two weeks for her next period to show up, which is a very reasonable window, women can attest, then she’s already reached a point in which the Texas law declares her at ‘6 weeks’ and terminating the pregnancy is no longer allowed. But she, in fact, hasn’t even learned she’s pregnant yet.
  • Now let’s say she’s worried about the sex that was had two weeks prior. Let’s say, for many of the women that this happens to, the sex was unwanted, and she’s scared. She could take a pregnancy test when her period doesn’t show up on the October 1st. If the test does show that she’s pregnant, she needs to get to a doctor to get it confirmed. I don’t know about you, but here in the part of the world that I live, there is zero circumstances in which someone could call a doctor and get an appointment on that day. In many parts of the world it’s 3 days – 1 week before you can get an appointment. In many parts of the world, it could be longer than a week before you can get to a clinic to get your pregnancy confirmed by a doctor. For example’s sake, let’s say it takes a week. By Texas law standard, a woman is now ‘5 weeks along’.
  • If the doctor is able to confirm the pregnancy at 5 weeks along, and a woman is wishing to terminate her pregnancy they don’t just let you go and do it that day. In a lot of cases, in a lot of parts of the world, if you’re going to terminate a pregnancy, you have to take part in a counselling session, you have to get a referral to book an appointment have arrangements made with the clinic that can help you with termination. Can this come together in the next 5 days? Maybe? It could be hella hard, though.
  • Under the best, most optimal circumstances for the woman I’ve explained here, there is a very unlikely chance she can get the clinic to squeeze her in during the next five days. At which point, if they cannot, under Texas law, a woman is then considered ‘6 weeks along’ and you are not allowed to terminate past six weeks.
  • Now, imagine this is someone who’s underage. Let’s say it’s a 16 year old girl. These barriers to getting medical treatments are harder. She might not drive, she might need a ride to the doctor to get the pregnancy confirmed to get a referral to the clinic for termination. That could take more time, pushing her past the six week window.
  • Now, imagine a woman is in an abusive relationship and she doesn’t get a lot of opportunity to get away from her partner very often. This could be almost impossible for her to get to a clinic before the six week window has passed.

There are a lot of factors at play here that have to perfectly align, for lack of better terminology, for a woman to be able to terminate a pregnancy prior to 6 weeks, by Texas standard.

If other states start implementing laws similar to Texas, it’s going to be harder and harder for women to get the medical treatments they need.

In Texas specifically, in 2014 only 43 percent of women lived in a county in which clinics that provide pregnancy termination were accessible to them, and that’s only gotten even harder to find since that time. So women who are needing to terminate a pregnancy (for any reason, because it’s really not our fucking business) in Texas are having to travel hundreds of miles to get to a clinic where they can get the medication/procedure.

Under the very best of circumstances for a woman, it’s exceptionally difficult to determine you’re pregnant and have appointments and clinics align for your termination to fall under the 6 week window that the governor says ‘GIVES LOTS OF TIME’ as though he knows anything a about a woman’s body.

Now, specific to the Texas law, there have been ZERO exceptions put into this law banning termination after 6 weeks. Not for rape, incest, lethal anomaly, age, or anything of the sort. So to clarify, if a thirteen year old is raped and gets pregnant, there is no exceptions, the state is expecting her to carry her rapist’s baby to term at 13 years old.

Well, if anyone thinks that sounds like an extreme case, it’s really not. Stuff like that happens a lot in our world. It might not be plastered online all of the time, but it happens, a lot.

Imagine if a 13 year old was raped by her father and got pregnant. Texas law is expecting her to carry her pregnancy to term, unless she can get the parental consent, from the man who raped her, to get her pregnancy terminated.

Now, remember that a lot of doctors don’t do ultrasounds until at least 8 weeks pregnant, many don’t even until 12. What if it a 12 weeks along, or 16 weeks alone, a doctor finds an issue with the baby that they know will result in the baby being a still-birth. Under Texas law right now, that woman is required to carry that baby for another 6-7 months, knowing that when it is born, it will die. Can you imagine the psychological impact of carrying a child for 6-7 months knowing it will die? There are a lot of reasons why this can happen, and though we don’t hear about them often, stillbirths happen in the USA every day. A woman’s mental health might never recover from that.

A man, or group of men, who seem to know nothing about female reproduction, drafted a law that suggests they understand female reproduction better then females. As a result, women no longer get a choice.

Now, let’s talk about the: “If you don’t want to get pregnant, don’t have sex” argument.

Great, this argument is stupid.

Sex is good. People should be able to enjoy sex without wanting to make a child.

Beyond that, though, if you tell women that they shouldn’t have sex, then… what happens if all women just stop having sex with men. I mean, it sounds completely crazy, but so does banning abortions after six weeks. What if all women just stopped having sex with men? Would men be okay with that? I doubt it. Men like sex as much as women do.

You can get pregnant while using birth control.

You can get pregnant while using a condom.

You can get pregnant if you have sex.

The possibility of getting pregnant lessens if you take precautions, but it’s always there.

The “don’t have sex” argument is like saying “Don’t get in a car if you don’t want to get in a car accident”. Is everyone going to stop driving? No. You can minimize risk by taking precautions, but the risk will always remain, no matter how small.

Now let’s talk about birth control.

First off, if you’re underage, I believe in most places you have to have parental consent to get birth control. I know that I did.

Now, in places like Texas, and a lot of “red states” the federal government, under Donald Trump, made it so that companies are able to deny benefits/insurance that pay for birth control on religious grounds. Basically, if you work for a boss who is religious, he/she can say “No, we’re not allowing birth control to be covered in our health plan”. This puts the cost of birth control on women.

Birth control is not cheap. If you’re a stable income family, an adult with legal ability to purchase it, the purchase might be well worth it for you.

If you’re one of the millions upon millions upon millions of Americans who live below the poverty line, a recurring monthly cost for birth control, really adds up in a year, when you don’t have a lot of money to start with.

To those that say “Go to planned parenthood” – there are over 300 million people in the USA. How many of them have access to planned parenthood? Not 300 million.

So, not only are lawmakers making it BEYOND exceptionally difficult for a woman to terminate a pregnancy, they’re also making it as hard as possible for women to be able to prevent pregnancy to start with.

Thus, the only option left is to not have sex. Am I understanding this correctly? How would men feel if women just decided to withhold sex because of these laws? I bet you there would be a fucking uproar. I bet you it would be on television, on the internet, it would probably at the United Nations General assembly.

Imagine a world if women just stopped having sex with men.

Just imagine that.

What are the other options? Before you even have intercourse, men are dictating what birth control options you might have access to. If by chance you don’t have access, or your birth control fails, men who don’t understand female biology or how pregnancy works are dictating that you have to carry a child to term. After you carry a child to term, if it’s lucky enough to survive, the men who made the very laws that forced you to carry to term, aren’t providing you with resources to provide said child a stable home, an education, clean drinking water, access to proper medical treatments and so on and so forth.

To Conclude

There is no separation of church and state in the United States. People are using their religious convictions to control the lives of massive populations.

This is not a pro-life stance. A pro-life government wouldn’t be putting children in cages, or separating them from their parents when they’re seeking refuge in the USA. A pro-life government would understand the psychological impacts of forcing a woman to carry a baby to term that would be stillborn. A pro-life government would look at how many people each year are killed by guns and want to do something about that. A pro-life government would support people affected by the opioid crisis. A pro-life government would suggest that wearing masks is one of the simplest and easy ways people can protect themselves from an airborne virus that has killed hundreds of thousands of people.

It’s not pro-life, it’s pro-control, and it’s specifically pro-control over women.

I really hope that people see and understand that.

If someone doesn’t want an abortion, and their convictions say they should carry a pregnancy to term no matter the circumstance, then they should do that. They shouldn’t get to control millions of women’s choices based off their convictions, though. That’s not right. That’s not separation of church and state, that’s church controlling state.

That’s all for now.

I’ve been writing this for a while, so if I missed anything or said anything wrong, please let me know.

Thursday Thoughts & Social Media Tidbits

You know that feeling when you want to buy something but you don’t have any money? That’s me. I don’t even want anything too elaborate. I just want things. I definitely don’t need those things. It’s just frustrating when you want something and you cannot have it. Though, now that I’m typing this, I’m pretty sure that’s the definition of adulthood.

I’m presently looking at a job description for a position at Google. Do I think I’m good enough for the job? Hell yeah. Do I think that I have a chance at my resume even being read when it comes to a position for Google? I mean… I might have a better chance at winning the lottery. Part of me wants to apply anyway. I probably won’t apply, though. My self-confidence is bordering manic these days. Some days I’m great, and some days I really have to pick myself up off the floor just to get through the day. I think that comes with the instability that is life right now.

If you don’t care about social media growth, stop reading.

SOCIAL MEDIA TIDBITS

For those who haven’t figured this out yet – those people on Twitter who are consistently asking open ended questions on popular, or potentially divisive topics, or even downright stupid topics at times, they don’t care what your answers are. They really don’t. They couldn’t care less. If they asked “what’s your favourite food” and you responded with “motor oil” then the entire point of posting the question to start with has worked for them.

Twitter is not chronological. Twitter uses an algorithm to showcase your feed as a curated picture of all the accounts you’ve most recently reacted with, or most frequently reacted with. If you’ve ever wondered why you don’t see someone on your feed, it’s probably because you never bothered to interact with their Tweets.

The same can actually be said for Instagram as well. Though I’m sure their algorithms are written differently, they booth seek to serve the same purpose – they want to have the people you interact with most to appear closes to the top, or the beginning of your feed.

Where this is most applicable on Instagram is in two places:

  • On Instagram stories, there are people who post questions on their Instagram stories every single day. They’re Yes/No poll, or “Tell me a Secret, I won’t tell anyone” questions. It’s generic, stupid bullshit, and the entire purpose of it is to get you to interact with their story. As soon as you interact with their story, their story is going to appear at the front of the collections when you sign into your Instagram App each day.
  • On the Instagram feed, there are people who say “Comment down below [Insert Stupid Question/Comment/Subject here]” on every post. I’ve seen ‘Comment your favourite colour’ or ‘Do you pour the cereal before the milk?’ or ‘Tell me how to get organized’. Those people don’t give a fuck about what you could, or might respond with. They just want you to respond. When you respond, their feed posts will be closer to the top of the page, every time you sign onto the app.

Okay, this might possibly be an eye-opening moment. You’re thinking now about all of the people on your Instagram and Twitter feeds who ask questions constantly and you’re suddenly realizing what their game plan is!

You’ll notice this a lot with influencers, if you follow any. Other people who are specifically taught to do this are those who are a part of MLMs like BeachBody, Mary Kay, Arbonne, etc. But, lately, it has become big with coaches, therapists and anyone who’s really trying to start a small business or sell something, or people who just really like attention.

However it is being delivered to you, I hope that after reading this, if you didn’t before, you now understand there’s always an ulterior motive.

The algorithm is the ulterior motive.

I have a love/hate relationship with social media. I love social media because it’s one of the easiest ways to showcase a diverse collection of people, places, things, culture, and more. I hate social media because the people who excel in the algorithm are the least cultured, least original, least interesting of the group. 95% of these platforms are just people copying one another. The algorithm favours trends, and conventionally attractive people.

People think that Carlie Damilio is the most interested member of gen z right now, but the truth is, there’s likely 100 million other females just like her. I’m serious – they look like her, they dance like her, they talk like her, they probably walk like her. She caught an algorithm at the right moment in time, and now she’s taking advantage. She’s not special. And I don’t mean that in a disparaging way, I just mean that she’s really not original. She makes millions upon millions of dollars because she purchases virtual dance trends to Tik Tok.

I imagine it is something she’s aware of. I imagine it is something that everyone who’s hit bit in the algorithm is aware of at this point. They’re just taking advantage of their fifteen minutes while it lasts. Because there is nothing sustainable about a career based solely on social media. Instagram in the past 6 months has changed more than it did in it’s first four years of existence.

I kind of want to talk about what an epic failure ClubHouse has become, but that might need to be another story for another day. It had so much promise and they just fucked it up, royally. The fact that some people reading this are asking what ClubHouse is, that’s exactly the point as to had badly they screwed up.

Social media has to be one tool of many. Whether you’re running a business account or you’re just posting photos for fun, whether you’re a writer trying to get noticed, or someone who just likes to rant about politics (me!), social media cannot be your only outlet.

If you’re reading this because you have a blog, make sure you update that blog regularly. Your blog can and will be a far greater resource then anything you could garner on any social media platform.

My favourite platforms on the web:

  • LinkedIn
  • Pinterest
  • WordPress

LinkedIn promotes based off what people enjoy/appreciate, not specific to you. Pinterest promotes on what people enjoy/appreciate, not specific to you. On both I find there’s a much more diverse inclusion of content displayed and made popular. It’s very easy to create an echo chamber of voices that think like you, talk like you and agree with you on Twitter and Instagram, and that really isn’t the case on LinkedIn and Pinterest.

As for WordPress, I just think it’s a simple, intuitive platform for the hobby bloggers, and it also an affordable, customizable platform for all of the serious bloggers, and everyone in between. It was a platform built with everyone in mind, if that makes sense.

I’m rambling a lot.

There’s a really expensive pair of pants that I want to purchase. I don’t need them, but I want them. Should I do it? I don’t think I should. I’ve never spent that much on a pair of pants before. (I bet you didn’t expect this post to end with me talking about expensive pants)

When someone tells me

When someone tells me to ‘just be happy’, I want to punch them in the face. While I’m sure a lot of them mean well, it’s really not helpful.

When someone tells me to ‘just get over it’, I want to make it an even bigger deal than it has to be. While I’m sure a lot of them mean well, it’s really not helpful.

When someone tells me ‘it’s not that bad’, I’m reminded that it’s really not possible for them to see things from my perspective. Thus, it’s really not helpful.

When someone tells me to ‘just move on’, I wish that it could be ‘just that easy’. Moving on takes time, it takes processing. It takes growth. It doesn’t just happen with the snap of your fingers.

When someone tells me how to live my life, I try my best to believe that it comes from a good place. But also, healthy boundaries are integral to maintaining my sanity.

When someone tells me that I’m bitchy, I remind them that I am assertive.

When someone tells me that I am aggressive, I remind them that I’m ambitious, not aggressive. Ambition is not a negative trait.

When someone tells me that I’m not good enough, it stings a little to hear the words out loud, but also, they’re absolutely fucking wrong. Another important fact, I don’t live by their standards, I live by my own.

I try my best to see everyone’s perspective in this world. I really do. But it’s a very important distinction to make that, even though I might see their perspective, and I might even understand them in a lot of ways, that doesn’t mean they’re right. That doesn’t mean that their standards define who I am, how I feel, react or choose to live my life.

In case no one has told you today, you get to define yourself. You can to be who you want to be. So be your best self.